I am in an open marriage. I know what you are probably thinking because, the first time a friend said this to me, I quickly felt myself growing judge-y. My knee-jerk thought was, She’s just doing this to please her husband. How sad. And then, Oh, they must want raise their kids commune-style. Can’t relate. But now, years later, I’ve realized that every relationship is unique, and it’s about finding what works for you.
So far, I’ve found a way to make my relationship with my husband, Edmund, keep its charm, passion, intimacy and commitment. And it has happened by opening the gates. Keep reading »
Yup, even alongside smart-assery from Samantha Bee and Jason Jones, watching gay couples wed makes me tear up! The adorable “Daily Show” corresondents — a husband and wife duo of 10 years — were there on Sunday when same-sex marriage became legal in New York State; somebody had to warn these couples about what they are getting into. [The Daily Show] Keep reading »
“[Married life is] so fly. There’s something great about feeling at peace and ease with your partner and knowing you understand each other. I really enjoy that friendship. There are so many similarities between us, it’s just mind-blowing. It’s really cool to have met my equal.”
—Alicia Keys talks to People about her first year as a married woman on the eve of her anniversary with rapper Swizz Beatz. With all the sitcoms and commercials telling me that marriage is the pits, it’s so refreshing to hear someone talk about it with excitement and wonder. Thanks Alicia! [People] Keep reading »
The other day, I was talking to one of my lesbian friends about the difference between gay and straight relationships. “Being a straight woman, who may want to get married someday, means I have to entertain the notion of having a nonmonogamous marriage,” I argued.
“Why?” she challenged me. (I get this reaction a lot. Especially from women, gay or straight, who tend to get defensive when I say something to this effect.)
“Not to consider it would mean I’m in denial,” I replied. Keep reading »
“I don’t … I treat my relationships like marriages, I really do … I really want for myself a long-term relationship, and I have been in long-term relationships. That’s the kind of union that I want. The actual ceremony is not something that is important to me, but I see the importance for other people.”
– Charlize Theron, appearing on CNN’s “Piers Morgan Tonight,” on why she’ll never marry. Theron was previously involved in a long relationship with actor Stuart Townsend, but the two were never engaged, and she told Morgan that marriage was “never something that was important [to me].” But even though Theron doesn’t want to walk down the aisle herself, she’s still a vocal advocate for marriage equality. Find out what she has to say about that, after the jump! Keep reading »
The Internets are all aflutter this week after a few emails a British woman named Carolyn Bourne sent to her future daughter-in-law Heidi Withers went viral. The crux of the emails? Withers apparently visited Bourne’s home with her fiance Freddie and the visit went terribly awry, so Bourne took it upon herself to write Withers a scathing message, counting all the ways in which her behavior was inappropriate, rude or uncouth. Now the world has pegged Bourne as the worst mother-in-law ever, and there’s no doubt that her own letter to Withers ironically lacked compassion, kindness and empathy. But! I happen to agree with pretty much every thing Bourne has to say about manners.
Check out her letter after the jump. Keep reading »