While a story about a married guy who says he never has sex wouldn’t normally shock us, in Paul Cox’s case, consider us perplexed. For a young newlywed, his celibate lifestyle is especially atypical. Both Paul and his wife, Nicole, are virgins and intend to stay that way. Just like Clay Aiken, the couple claims they’re asexual, which means they’ve never wanted to have sex or felt attracted to another person. And they’re not alone, according to the 6,000 members on Asexuality.org. How do they all not do it?! Haven’t they seen Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie? Well, while we sex crazed masses fritter away our days and chasing tail, asexuals are going on talk shows, mastering Scrabble (because what else are you going to do?), and starring on Broadway. Crap, forget robots and androids, asexuals are taking over the world! Keep reading »
We’ve all dated cocky guys, but Mohammed Bello takes the cake! About a month ago, we here at The Frisky were befuddled by the story of a Nigerian man with 86 wives. At the apparently arrogant age of 84, Mohammed Bello was still fathering children and seen as a preacher and healer to his wives, most of whom are in their twenties, and his brood of 170 kids. His compound has been a constant source of aggravation and embarrassment to the Muslim population of his own country, who see him as a crazy cult leader. In fact, he’s even been receiving death threats. Since even most Islamic fundamentalists believe you can only have up to four wives, the state has ordered Bello to divorce at least 82 of them by this Sunday or face exile from Nigeria. So what does Bello’s camp have to say in his defense? Spokesman for the self-proclaimed shaman, Mohammed Tahir, counterattacked with, “He is not going to divorce any of his wives. Rather he is going to marry more.” Boo-yah! It’s on! [Reuters]
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Being a life-long bachelor has its obvious perks, but now it’s also as healthy a lifestyle as being married — arguably even healthier. Back in 1973, a Michigan State University sociologist started surveying men, single, widowed, and betrothed, about their health without giving them medical examinations. Since then, Dr. Hui Liu has interviewed over a million men from 25 to 80. At first, his research seemed to conclude that married men were in the best shape. But over the years, as they asked each demographic how they felt, the gap began to narrow between those who were married and those who were single. Keep reading »
While sex used to be saved for cable television shows, networks have been trying to compete by showing some skin themselves. Hits like Gossip Girl and Desperate Housewives have been steaming the storylines, and the ratings, up. Over the past few years the change has been so noticeable, consumer watchdogs, the Parents Television Council, decided to launch a “Happily Never After” study to test how much of the sex being shown was in the context of a wholesome marriage. Needless to say, the numbers reflected what married friends keep telling their single gal pals — sex is way more interesting when you’re unattached. According to the research, which examined four weeks worth of network prime time programming last fall, there was three times as much dirty talk and four times as many eyefuls of un-wedded sexual bliss than there were married couples getting it on. And the sex itself isn’t exactly vanilla either! Voyeurism, masturbation, threesomes, fetishes, S&M, transsexuals and sex toys have been making television shows spicier. But is it too hot to handle? Not even the critics think so. Airing the kinks we’ve all come to know and love is just a sign of the times — it’s art imitating life. [Forbes] Keep reading »
While three sister wives may seem like one big, happy family on Big Love, try having 86! Mohammed Bello Abubakar, an 84-year-old Muslim preacher in Nigeria, has married more women than years he’s been alive and most of his wives are, surprisingly, in their twenties. Can you imagine trying to feed the 170 children he’s fathered?! Neither he nor his wives work, but they somehow manage to pay for the $915 (26.5 lbs) worth of rice they consume each day. Needless to say, the Islamic Authorities in his home state consider him a cult leader, but he fancies himself a shaman who doesn’t believe in modern medicine. Abubakar credits his healing powers with his ability to attract so many women. He told the BBC, “I don’t go looking for them, they come to me. I will consider the fact that God has asked me to do it and I will just marry them… That is why I have been able to control 86 of them.” Um, what a romantic? [BBC] Keep reading »
Marriage is so out this wedding season! Only Mariah Carey is doing it, that’s how over it is. After a nuptial-less summer — not even Kate Moss made it down the aisle — we started noticing the new Hollywood trend. Longterm partnerships (sans diamonds, splashy affairs, and cheesy photos) are the must-have Ray-Ban Wayfarers of relationships! After both had failed marriages, hippie generation icons Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have been going at it, without making it official, for 25 years. In an interview, Goldie claimed their secret to success is, “knowing I can walk out at any moment…that keeps things fresh.” And after going through the pain of divorce, many stars seem to agree.
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As young adults, women start off being happier than men, and then age 48 comes along and the guys get a whole lot happier than us. According to a study in the Journal of Happiness Studies, our happiness depends on fulfilling our aspirations. Most people surveyed — nine out of 10 — want a happy marriage and the ability to buy what they desire, whether that’s nice clothes, a car, or a vacation home. Because most men are single and want lots of expensive stuff when they’re in their 20s, this is the time when they’re the least happy. But then, after age 34, men are more likely to be married than women, and the gap increases with age. They’re also able to buy more of what they want. So, while guys are able to meet their expectations in the family and finance categories, we’re sad because we’re not married and still don’t make enough money to buy all of the Marc Jacobs we want. Who wants to prove this study wrong? Who’s with me! [EurekAlert!] Keep reading »
So have you noticed that I haven’t written this column in awhile? That’s because it’s going monthly. Planning a wedding is not that action-packed, to be honest! Especially when you haven’t actually started planning it yet — well, to be fair, we are waiting to hear back on a particular location. If that gets secured, I will actually start working on the other details.
But just because my reply to the nearly daily question, “How’s the wedding planning coming along?” is “What wedding planning?”, doesn’t mean I still don’t have plenty to say about being engaged. And I have determined in the last six months that the easiest way to determine if you’re ready to marry someone, the easiest way to make sure that this person is the right one to spend forever with, is if you can tolerate all the things about them that annoy you. Because fiances are still annoying. Keep reading »