Here’s your daily dose of sweetness: a couple in England who fell in love as teenagers writing letters back and forth during WWII is celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary this week. Geoff and Pat Bunyan, now 83 and 82, became friends in 1945 shortly before Geoff was deployed to fight in the war. Over the next several years (Geoff remained overseas after the war ended to “clean up the mess”), the two sent a whopping 600 letters to each other, numbering each one to keep track of them. Though the letters began with a friendly tone, as the two shared stories and opened up to each other, their correspondence took a more romantic turn. Soon, they were proclaiming their love to one another, looking forward to the day Geoff would return to England and they could be together. When Geoff finally returned home in 1948 — three years after he left! — he married Pat and the two of them bought a house together, which they still live in to this day. Keep reading »
I’ve been married all of 11 days now and, as if on cue, the day my husband (still very much getting used to saying that!) and I tied the knot, he stopped putting the toilet seat down. I ignored it at first, but by our first weekend together as a married couple, I couldn’t stand it any longer and said something to him about it. I made a jokey comment about his sudden change in behavior — more embarrassed than pissed at being such a cliché so early in our marriage. After over three years together, surely he must realize if there’s one thing I wanted to avoid in marriage it was being a cliché, but I suppose the lesson here is that that’s a lost cause for any married couple, even those of us who think we’re so “modern.” One cliché I will be able to avoid, though, is the terrible mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship so many women have. My own mother-in-law passed away long before I got a chance to meet her, and while I’d love to think we would have had a wonderful relationship — if her sons are any indication, she was a terrific woman and I hope she would have approved of me — the odds, apparently, aren’t in our favor.
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Amy Wolfe, a 33-year-old church organist from Pennsylvania, is so in love with the magic carpet fairground ride, 1001 Nachts, at Knoebels Amusement Park, she plans to “marry” it and change her surname to Weber to symbolize her spiritual marriage to it. Wolfe suffers from objectum sexuality, a condition that makes her sexually attracted to inanimate objects. She first fell in love with the ride when she visited the park at 13. “I wasn’t freaked out, as it just felt so natural, but I didn’t tell anyone about it because I knew it wasn’t ‘normal’ to have feelings for a fairground ride,” she says. Ten years later, she began a “courtship” with 1001 Nachts, traveling 160 miles 10 times a year, and riding it over 3,000 times. She sleeps with its picture on her ceiling and carries around its spare nuts and bolts to feel closer to it. “I love him as much as women love their husbands and know we’ll be together forever,” she said. Yeah, that’s what she says now — wait ’til she gets tired of picking up his dirty socks and putting the seat down every time he uses the bathroom!
The BBC did a documentary recently on others who suffer from objectum sexuality, including a woman in love with the Eiffel Tower, another in love with the Golden Gate bridge. Check it out above. [Telegraph] Keep reading »
What attracts you to a man the most — a sense of humor, a great smile, a hot bod, keen intelligence? Apparently, a lot of women get weak in the knees for men who do housework. A recent study from Oxford University examined “marriage and cohabitation rates” across 13 countries and “compared them to attitudes towards the roles of men and women at home.” After questioning “13,500 men and women aged between 20 and 45 from each country about gender, housework and childcare responsibilities,” researchers discovered that women are hottest for men “they believe they will help out with household chores and make an equal contribution towards childcare.” In countries where men are less likely to pull their weight at home, women are between 20-50% less likely to shack up with them. Dr Almudena Seville-Sanz, of the university’s Centre for Time Use Research, said: This study shows that in egalitarian countries there is less social stigma attached to men doing what was traditionally women’s work.’” After the jump see how the 13 countries included in the study rank on the “egalitarian index.” Keep reading »
The Rorschach test is in the news. The entire 10 plates have been posted on Wikipedia and the controversy begins. The ten plates have been kept tightly under wraps for years. But now the copyright has expired. So it is quite natural to wonder: “Can a Rorschach test be used to determine marriage material? Can it tell us about intimacy? What about sex?” Continue reading… Keep reading »
If you have an extravagant wedding, you might be in debt longer than your marriage lasts. According to a U.K. financial management company, couples borrow an average of $42,000 to pay for their wedding. This can take 16 years to pay off with interest and everything, and the average marriage supposedly lasts 11.5 years! So, when it’s time for you to get divorced, you might end up divvying up debt, rather than assets. If you’re engaged, take the advice of our recently married Wendy and make your wedding more about memories than money. [Marie Claire U.K.] Keep reading »
I was twenty-nine, single again after a five-year marriage, and a virgin. When I met my now ex-husband Mike, I had just turned 21. We met at small Catholic liberal arts college, and even though I no longer believed in Jesus, the Saints, the Bible, God, really any of that. I was a virgin then, and I was a virgin when we divorced.
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The stress of going through a divorce looks like it takes a huge toll on your health. Divorced people are 20 percent more likely to have chronic health conditions like cancer and heart disease than people who’ve tied the knot and kept it tied. But if you think getting remarried is the best medicine, you’re wrong. Even those who get hitched again still have a 12 percent higher chance of getting a serious disease. Remarried folks also have mobility problems 19 percent more often when compared to those who’ve stayed married all along.
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God, I hate the term “date night” and I was pretty sure there wasn’t a lamer phrase in a relationship until I read this article about one couple’s “trash night.” Trash night, you see is the time, twice a week (Mondays and Thursdays), when Therese Borchard has sex with her husband. It also happens to be the night the couple takes their garbage to the curb, quite literally. Therese didn’t plan it that way, but tired of her husband’s “constant begging for sex,” she asked him: “What is the minimal number of times a week that you need sex in order to be satisfied?” He told her: “Twice. Absolute minimum.” And she replied: “Fine. You get Monday and Thursday. If you don’t beg any other night.” It was only later than it occurred to her that Mondays and Thursdays happen to be trash night in their neighborhood, the evening everyone hauls their garbage to the curb before it’s collected at 5 a.m. the next morning. Keep reading »
Frogs get a bad rep for that whole stealing-kisses-from-princesses thing, but in a West Bengal village called Madhya Baragari, Indian farmers are depending on the little green guys to bring rain. It’s monsoon season, but the rain just isn’t coming and instead the town has a drought. Their solution? Marrying two frogs, named after Ram and Sita, a mythological couple from the ancient Sanskrit epic, the Ramayana. The frogs get vermilion paint on their little heads and are held in the air in front of a traditional clay candle and married in front of the all the villagers. The local women fast before the event and then invite the river to give its blessing and join the wedding party. A local head councilman says, “We feted about 3,000 villagers and solemnized the marriage with every single ritual.” [Yahoo! News]
I wonder if the frogs have to get divorced if there’s a flood? I used to think I could make it rain before soccer practice by throwing ice cubes into the sky, but it was relatively ineffective, so I hope this method works better. Keep reading »