This summer, I’ll have the pleasure of standing by my good girlfriend’s side as a trusty bridesmaid while she says “I do” to the man of her dreams. This isn’t my first time at the rodeo, though. I’ve been a bridesmaid several times before, responsible for holding the bride’s bouquet, helping to plan the bachelorette party, looking for lots of really lacy shit on Etsy, etc. I’m a pro. But along with your run-of-the-mill bridesmaid duties comes the waves of emotion that go hand-in-hand with the roller coaster of being a wedding wing woman.
If you’ve ever been a bridesmaid, this may seem familiar. If you haven’t, prepare yourself. Keep reading »
In a move I can only call brilliant, Starz Entertainment Group art director Suzanne Heintz shunned the traditional marriage and family life in favor of something far more unconventional. For the last 14 years, Heintz has been living with her strong but silent husband Chauncey and her never-rebellious teenage daughter Mary Margaret as part of an art project she calls “Life Once Removed.”
We’ve all been there: being needled by friends to “put yourself out there,” being pressured by family members to “settle down and have kids.” Enduring the same indignities, Heintz was thinking about her single life, walking past a retail liquidation store that sold mannequins when she said she realized, “I can buy a family!” And she’s been photographing their life together ever since — traveling all over the world with her family of “mute quadriplegics” and loving every minute of it. If that’s not unconventional enough for you, Heintz also has a real, live-in boyfriend of seven years, but has no interest in marrying him. Yet, she plans to renew her vows with Chauncey this June in front of friends, family and mannequins. Keep reading »
Forget about marrying rich if you’re not rich already: a new study as found that the tendency to choose a spouse with the same income or education level has increased greatly in the past 50 years and it has actually affected the state of income equality in the U.S. Keep reading »
According to a new survey published in the Daily Mail, women are spending an awful lot of time planning their weddings…before they even have a groom lined up. Out of 600 single women polled, 60 percent admit that they already have their wedding planned — sometimes down to the details of the dress, the vows, the bridesmaids and the exact wedding date. In addition, the survey found that instead of worrying about first kisses, most girls are 100 steps ahead, thinking about various elements of her big day by the age of 13. Even more disturbing: 34 percent of pre-emptive wedding planners say they spending HOURS each day on Pinterest et al looking for inspiration for floral arrangements, the perfect updo, and a venue appropriate for group dances to “Jump On It.” Keep reading »
It’s official. Frank and Claire Underwood are officially my favorite married couple currently on TV. “House of Cards”‘ calculating vice president (played by Kevin Spacey) and his powerful and beautiful wife (played by Robin Wright) are proof that the couple that lies, schemes and smokes together, stays together, by any means necessary. Netflix just debuted the second season of the Washington, D.C., drama over the weekend and if you’re as obsessed as I am, you’ve already finished watching all 13 episodes. By god, should I ever get married someday, please let my relationship be as committed and focused as this one. After all, the most successful and long lasting partnerships are between people who bring out the
good best in each other. Here’s a guide to how to have a completely non-traditional, sexy and ruthless marriage just like Frank and Claire Underwood. (Be warned: this post contains spoilers about season two.) Keep reading »
When Amy Poehler and Will Arnett called it quits, I was totally bummed. When Taye Diggs and Idina Menzel were dunzo, I despaired. Don’t even get me started on Britney and Justin, whose demise I am still not over. With the devastating demise of Hollywood relationships, it’s easy to throw in the towel and give up all hopes of lifelong love. If the beautiful, talented and rich can’t make it work, what hope do the rest of us have?
That said, lasting celebrity romance does exist. And this Valentine’s Day, let’s see what Oprah dug up on what keeps some of Hollywood’s favorite couples going. She sat down to talk about the marriages of Beyonce and Jay Z, Tina Turner and Erwin Bach, Stephen Colbert and Evelyn McGee-Colbert, Magic and Cookie Johnson, and Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness. As the celebs talked about their ups and downs and what keeps their love alive, I may have teared up a little. At the end of the day, they’re just like the rest of us! [Huffington Post]
After my traditional engagement to my high school sweetheart fell apart, I was faced with the prospect of another devastating loss: the deportation of my best friend Emir. Desperate to stay in America, Emir tried every legal recourse to obtain a green card, knowing that his return to the Middle East—where gay men are often beaten and sometimes killed—was too dangerous. In an effort to keep him safe and by my side, I proposed to Emir. After a quickie wedding in Las Vegas, we faced new adventures and obstacles in both L.A. and New York City as we tried to dodge the INS. Our relationship was further complicated by the fact that my mother works for the State Department, preventing immigration fraud. In my memoir, The Marriage Act, I delve into the changing face of marriage in America and look at the emergent generation forming bonds outside of tradition—and sometimes even outside the law.
Below is an excerpt:
I remember the citrus salads and late-afternoon Cosmopolitans in the sunny outdoor courtyard of the Abbey, our favorite West Hollywood gay bar. I remember how strange it felt to walk to his apartment rather than drive even though he lived only three blocks away from me. I can’t remember the precise instance when Emir first brought up the verging-on-problematic visa situation. It might have been at a sushi restaurant, or over lunches at the Abbey, or while in line at what the boys around the neighborhood called “the gay Starbucks” on Santa Monica. Emir wanted to stay in the United States past this year to avoid going back into the closet in Emiristan and living with his father. In order to stay, he had to find a job before his visa expired in December, a year after graduation. I told him I was sure he’d find something and I believed it; Emir was creative, intelligent, outgoing, and capable. The possibility that he might not find a way to stay did not cross my mind during those early conversations. Keep reading »
Save the date! According to a new app from TIME, my ideal marriage date is in 11 months and 29 days, which means that unless I want to be a sad, single, lonely forever alone (I might, actually), I’d better find someone to marry on or around February 10, 2015. TIME arrived at this number by analyzing the median age of my married friends on Facebook to ”theoretically identify whether you have passed the point where many of your contemporaries start tying the knot.” Keep reading »
A new study of 2,000 adults has determined the best husband and wife names. Siteopia.com has ranked these names by the positive virtues associated with each name. The theory being, that these positive attributes (for example, kindness) make for a longer lasting marriage. My husband and I hit the marital jackpot. David ranked number 1 on the top husbands list and Sophie number 2 on the top wives list. If only I was named Katie… Keep reading »
Realistic marriages have little real estate on television, and feminist marriages even less. “Mad Men” and “The Sopranos” were studies of estrangement; “Breaking Bad” of spousal abuse. On “Friends,” marriage meant banishment forever on to the suburbs.
Imagine my excitement, then, on chipping my way into the first DVD set of “Borgen” — the so-called ‘Danish West Wing’ — and finding a perfectly preserved companion marriage. The show centers on Denmark’s first female prime minister, the charismatic Birgitte Nyborg Christensen, flanked on one side by her supportive husband Philip (Mikael Birkkjær) and children, and on the other by a fickle coalition government. Keep reading »