Shit happens. I’ve lost track of the number of married men I know who have lost their wedding bands. Many men, including my husband, have lost their bands within the first year of marriage. In fact, if you are a married and still have your original wedding band, I applaud you.
The reality is, most men are not used to wearing sentimental jewelry. Thus, generally speaking, they don’t exercise caution when wearing their wedding rings. They don’t consider removing their rings before swimming in the ocean. They are blissfully unaware that their fingers shrink in cold weather, making the ring looser. They have yet to develop a protective reflex, balling their fist to prevent the ring from slipping off the finger. But when the chances of a man losing his wedding band is high, the question becomes, “When you lose your ring, how do you tell your wife?” Here are some dos and don’ts… Keep reading »
Last week, I was talking to one of my best guy friends about our various relationship dilemmas when he assured me, “It’s okay, Kate. All of this nonsense will be over once we turn 29, which is rapidly approaching.”
He was referring to our marriage pact: an agreement we made when we were 18 that if we weren’t married by the time we were 29, we would get hitched. Keep reading »
I’m a big believer in listening to gut feelings. Trust your gut, and you can never go wrong – and if things do go wrong, you’re way less likely to have regrets, because you followed your instincts. According to a recent study published in Science, I’m not the only one who feels this way. As it turns out, gut feelings can indicate the future success of a marriage. The study found that no matter what positive exclamations they share in public, newlyweds’ gut instincts about their new spouses are a big part of what determines whether they’ll be satisfied in their marriage. Keep reading »
Oh, awful “300 sandwiches” people, leave us be! You have your book deal already! But no, you were back in the New York Post again this weekend.
This time Sandwich Boyfriend himself, Eric Schulte, wrote the piece. The Aleksander Skarsgaard lookalike agreed to propose to his girlfriend, Page Six reporter Stephanie Smith, after she makes him 300 sammies and blogs about the experience for 300sandwiches.com. Now he wants readers’ advice on how to propose, because romance. Keep reading »
We live in unprecedented times. If you’re married, you’re a minority. For the first time, there are more single than married people. Apparently, the entire country of Sweden has decided not to bother with marriage. The question of our culture has suddenly become: why get married? I recently married, and my friends ask, “So, how is it being married?” Or, of course, I get the unsolicited comment, “I’m never getting married.” If they do delve a little deeper they might say something like, “I don’t want to give away half my stuff.” Do childhood experiences shape our views on marriage? Read more on Your Tango…
I feel pretty good about my path toward a forever-partner. I dated a lot of guys, had numerous long- and longish-term relationships and a lot of premarital sex. I don’t believe that marriage is “the end” of your emotional or sexual growth as a woman, but I’m also glad I did everything I wanted to do as a single gal. That plan might not be right for everyone, but it was right for me. I’m happier than I’ve ever been and I have no regrets!
I knew that my husband was the right partner for me when we decided to get married. A particular joy of being newlyweds, though, is that I discover new reasons all the time. But there’s been another happy surprise, too. Settling into each other has also been hugely clarifying for me about men I’ve dated and even loved in the past. It’s almost like having a fresh pair of eyes to look at myself and mistakes I made. Truly, being with the right guy has taught me so many things in retrospect about the wrong ones.
Here are six bits of relationship wisdom that my married self would like to tell my single self (if she would able to read the Future Frisky and learn a few things):
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Yesterday, our very own Amelia wrote an article about her inability to orgasm from almost all of her sexual partners—with the exception of one. However, despite the fact that she’s frequently unable to reach the big “O” when partnered, she still finds sex satisfying.
But what if that partner were someone you wanted to marry? Could you tie the knot knowing he/she couldn’t get you off … and might never be able to? Keep reading »
Those of us with significant others who travel for work often spend days and weeks at a time alone. This solitude can be wonderful — control of the TV, a bed to yourself, tons of quality “me time.” What inevitably happens to us non-traveling partners is laziness. With no one watching, you end up forgetting to do some of the basics. Never fear, your jet-setting lover never has to know! Keep reading »
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I’m happily engaged to my boyfriend of four years. About four-and-a-half years ago, my friend Angela and I hooked up, twice. She’s strictly a lesbian, and was single at the time. Too much booze was involved both times, and it was just something that happened that had no strings attached. We remained good friends. Angela and her girlfriend Amy have been together for two years. I see Angela regularly, and Amy occasionally. I genuinely like Amy, and think that she’s a great match for my friend. But I recently learned (through a friend) that Amy is jealous, and doesn’t approve of my friendship with Angela because of our past. This upsets me because Angela and I have no romantic relationship potential or desire. I love my fiancé very much, but we have never discussed past relationships or sexual encounters as Angela and Amy obviously have. I have not yet spoken to Angela about this, and now I feel like I am keeping a secret from my fiancé. Angela is one of two girls I have asked to stand up with me at my wedding next year, and now I’m not so sure where to go from here. Should I talk to her or just try to casually bow out of this friendship? Do I tell my fiancé? – Sarah
Oh, so many secrets. Please leave a copy of your email, in code, on microfilm, up a false chimney, in a barn, in Yemen … IN CASE YOU ARE CAPTURED. Keep reading »