Tag Archives: marriage

Hitched: On The Privilege Of Marriage

Andrea GrimesMarch 1, 2012 //
On The Groom
Why do we assume grooms are reluctant and/or hate wedding plans? Read More »

I wish people would talk more about the actual reasons they get married, when and why they do. The reasons beyond “I’m in love.”

Because of course I’m getting married because I love Patrick. But I’ve loved a few people in my life, and I didn’t want to marry all of them. And the one or two that I did want to marry, I obviously didn’t end up sealing the deal with.

I hope that people say to themselves and their partners, when they are deciding to get married, Why are we doing this now? What will our lives be like after we get married? Are there advantages to this besides new flatware?

But on the outside, all we ever seem to say is, “We’re in love.” Or “She’s the one, I just knew it.” Yes, you’re in love. Yes, your partner is the one. But what about all the other reasons under the sun? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Husband And I Chose Our Own Last Name

Rachel Rabbit WhiteFebruary 23, 2012 //
My Open Marriage
How an open relationship works for one married couple. Read More »
What's In A Name?
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Why there's no way in hell Andrea Grimes will change her name. Read More »
Why I Got Married Young
To me, 24 seemed like the perfect age. Read More »

Each year on the first day of school, there were kids who came back as entirely new people. They’d correct the teacher during role call. 

“Erin?” the teacher would ask, scanning the room. 

“I’m Nikki now,” Erin would say, presumptively going by her middle name. 

One girl changed her name so many times that by sixth grade, the only thing left to alter was the pronunciation of her name. 

“I’m not Tabitha anymore, I am Tab-eye-tha now.” 

There was something admirable about how brave these kids were to just proclaim themselves someone new. I didn’t think I would have the courage to do that. Like most kids, I didn’t love my name but I didn’t loathe it either. I just brooded about how unfair it was to have no control over it. Keep reading »

Hitched: Recurring Nightmares & Wedding Disasters

Andrea GrimesFebruary 22, 2012 //

Why did I get this huge chest tattoo right before my wedding?

This is the question I have asked myself twice now, awakening from wedding-themed nightmares in a cold sweat. In my first dream, the chest tattoo I got was some adorable phrase in scripty font that looked lovely when I glanced down at myself but was huge and disgusting when I looked at it in the mirror. The second was a full-torso tribute to the Insane Clown Posse. What. The? Keep reading »

Man Proposes With Dress Made Of 9,999 Roses

Julie GersteinFebruary 16, 2012 //

Sure that dress looks great today, but tomorrow that dress is going to wilt. [Buzzfeed]

Hitched: The Reluctant Groom

Andrea GrimesFebruary 15, 2012 //
What "Wife" Means
The connotations of the word "wife" worry bride-to-be Andrea Grimes. Read More »

“Grooms get in free!”

That’s the generous offer from Austin Monthly, my local glossy society rag, for its “Couture, Cakes and Cufflinks,” uh, “Bridal Bash.” There’s nothing particularly unusual about this kind of shill party, and that’s what makes it particularly offensive. It’s every disgusting wedding narrative rolled into one day-long event that women are actually expected to pay to attend.

There’s so much to hate about mainstream wedding culture — the consumerism, the gender policing, the fucking consumerism, the body-shaming, did I mention the consumerism? — but perhaps the wedding-related narrative that pisses me off more than any other is the idea that men are incapable of being interested in weddings and must be coddled and babied so that their delicate wedding-hating sensibilities are not offended. Keep reading »

Divorce Hotels Are Here

Tiffanie DraytonFebruary 10, 2012 //
Super-Short Marriages
Kim and Kris aren't alone in being married for only a hot sec. 13 Photos »
Marriage Advice
Advice given to Kim Kardashian that you can use too. Read More »
Celebs On Divorce
Famous women talk about the pain of divorce. 9 Photos »

Most couples book weekend getaways to get closer to their partner. But for some, a stay at a “Divorce Hotel” will finally tear them apart forever and at a bargain price! In the Netherlands, “divorce hotels” are allowing couples to arrange divorces over the course of a weekend complete with legal documentation! During the stay, couples meet with a mediator and a series of do-it-all lawyers who split assets, agree on alimony payments and arrange visitation rights for a single fixed fee. Keep reading »

5 Tips To Forgetting Your Way To A Better Relationship

Lorraine Duffy MerklFebruary 10, 2012 //
Wedding Body Project
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Andrea on the expectation that all brides-to-be want to lose weight. Read More »
Why I Got Married Young
To me, 24 seemed like the perfect age. Read More »
Flirting And Marriage
One woman's husband cockblocks her her flirting attempts. Read More »

I often have memory loss, except it’s not due to a car accident as it is for Rachel McAdams’s character, “Paige,” in the soon to be released movie “The Vow”; mine is voluntary. When my husband, Neil, and I had a few chinks in our newlywed armor, we decided to enlist a little help getting past what ailed us and found a marriage counselor who practiced short-term couples therapy. Dr. Get Right To The Point laid it out: decide if you really want to be in the relationship. If so, accept the reality that couples fight, disagree, annoy each other from time to time and generally piss each other off. Then, develop amnesia.

Neil got on board from the get-go, as he’s not much for grudge holding. “A waste of time and energy,” he called it. But the therapist clearly had no idea with whom he was dealing when it came to me. Not only did I have a memory like a steel trap, I held on to every infraction, cruel word and perceived slight with a vice grip. After the jump, how I learned to forget to save my marriage. Keep reading »

The Diamond Myth: How Diamonds Became A Girl’s Best Friend

Julie GersteinFebruary 9, 2012 //
Romance...
How extraordinarily, delightfully inconvenient. Read More »
Guys On V-Day
We ask the guys on our IM what they think about V-Day. Read More »
V-Day Survival Guide
For all your Valentine's Day needs. Read More »

It’s almost Valentine’s Day, which makes us think of romance, relationships and engagements — and the sparkly glare of a diamond engagement ring. Yes, diamonds are pretty, precious, and these days, cost a zillion dollars. But it wasn’t always so — and you can thank a concerted effort on the part of diamond mines, the advertising industry and Hollywood for mercilessly inflating the price of these glittery gems. Here’s how a stone with little intrinsic value became the most important gem in the world.

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Girl Talk: On Nagging

Tania BolamFebruary 8, 2012 //
In Praise Of Angry Sex
Some of the best sex comes after a blowout fight. Read More »
Do All Couples Argue?
couple fighting arguing photo
If a couple says they never argue, they're probably lying. Read More »
5 Common Fights
relationships
Five common relationship fights and how to avoid them. Read More »

The first and only time my husband called me a “nag” invoked a cringe-worthy shudder, followed by the thought, “Am I seriously turning into my mother?!” In my personal catalog of unsavory labels, “nag” occupies a space somewhere between “brownnoser” and “snob,” insults I neither want to be called nor become, yet sting fiercely because they often embody a flicker of truth. No woman aspires to be a nag. Yet the  moniker remains synonymous with marriage, as though men across the globe all spat, “Nag!” when the word “Wife” is drawn in those psychological word association tests.

The stereotype that all wives are nags is filed neatly under another catalog of mine, the Marriage Myths List. My favorite examples include “married couples don’t have sex” (really?), “all husbands are under the thumb” (mine’s not), and “new moms inevitably let themselves go” (yes, she’s a model, but has anyone seen Miranda Kerr lately?). Since I am in the business of debunking matrimonial fables, it’s worthwhile to expose the easy and cliché tag for wives who mean well everywhere. Truthfully, nagging should be defined as a breakdown in communication that can characterize any relationship, not just marriage. Keep reading »

Advice Wanted: I Am Kind Of “The Other Woman” — Should I Tell?

Tiffanie DraytonFebruary 6, 2012 //
Being The Other Woman
Jessica examines the double standard against "the other woman." Read More »
9 Signs He Cheats
Take notes, ladies. Read More »
Celeb "Other Women"
These eight celebs were "the other woman." 8 Photos »

I spend most of my time at work in a one-piece bathing suit blowing bubbles with four-year-olds and occasionally getting sneezed on. I have been teaching swimming for over six years to supplement the minor income I earn from writing. Teaching swimming has never been a source of inspiration for my writing until recently: it seems that my granny-like one piece has caught the eye of one of my clients. The only problem (well, problems) is that he is married, twice my age and I also give his wife private swimming lessons. Keep reading »

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