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Life After Dating: My Husband’s Best Friends Are Women & I Think It’s Great

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Dater XY: Female BFF
Dater XY: My Best Friend Is A Woman
Dater XY's BFF is a woman -- and his romantic interests don't like it. Read More »

Last week, our new dude dating columnist Dater XY wrote a provocative piece about how his best friend is a woman and some ladies he meets online dating can’t handle that. With a few exceptions, commenters on that piece agreed Dater XY is shit outta luck. “I don’t see a way out of this. I think that pretty much every girl, no matter how secure she is, will have in the back of her mind, ‘I wonder what they’re REALLY doing,’” wrote one commenter. ”It’s a red flag,” added another.

Well, that hasn’t been my experience at all. My husband’s two best friends are women and he sees both ladies several nights a week. Their friendships are not suspicious to me at all.  In fact, I think it’s great.  Keep reading »

Life After Dating: Marriage For Introverts

Life After Dating: Marriage For Introverts

Pretty much everything about Kale and I getting married was untraditional. But we were actually quite traditional by not moving in together until a few days before our wedding.

Kale and I certainly weren’t opposed to premarital cohabitation on principle: both of us had lived with exes in long-term relationships before. We simply hadn’t been together long enough to move in together: we had only been dating for four months when we got engaged and got married just five weeks after that (yeah, we moved quick). Kale ending his lease in Brooklyn to move into my apartment in Queens a few days before our wedding was pure circumstance.

By cultural standards, the “getting married” part is supposed to be the huge change that occurred in my life. One minute I was filing my taxes solo and then — ba-bam! — I’m legally joined to another person by law. And to be sure, sponsoring Kale for immigration was also a significant event. But the honest truth is that the biggest change during that time, in terms of how it affected my life and how I had to adjust and grow as a person, was acquiring not just a new husband but a new roommate. Keep reading »

Jennifer Lopez Says She’ll Get Married Again Because She Doesn’t “Whore Around”

“I would get married again. I like being in a relationship. I’m not one to like, whore around, and stuff like that—that’s not my thing.”

Last night on “Chelsea Lately,” thrice-married Jennifer Lopez proclaimed that despite her shaky track record with the institute of matrimony, she foresees herself walking down the aisle again someday. Because apparently the alternative to getting married for a fourth (and probably fifth and maybe sixth time, if she’s trying to keep pace with Elizabeth Taylor) is being a whore or something. Listen, J. Lo can put a ring on it 20 more times for all I care, but it’s awfully rich of her to slut shame women who don’t share her laissez faire approach to marriage and choose to get their rocks off without making (and breaking) legally-binding contracts. As someone who, I suppose, “whores around,” all I can say is that promising “til death do we part” to every Tom, Dick and Harry Ojani, Cris and Marc I meet is just not my “thing.” [Dlisted]

Girl Talk: Unemployed And Unemployable

Girl Talk: Unemployed And Unemployable

My life three years ago is sometimes incomprehensible to me. Retrospectively, it’s so absurd that it’s hard to believe that the things that happened happened, or that I tolerated some of the things that happened, or that I actively participated in some of the things that happened.

Enough mystery. When Jessica’s article about the time her husband spent unemployed went live, I told her about my experiences on both sides of the unemployment-in-a-relationship fence. I spent three years with an unemployed (former) spouse, and then became unemployed myself last year, during the course of the relationship I’m in with my boyfriend now. Jessica recounted beautifully the anxiety of watching a partner she loves undergoing the stress of unemployment and job-searching. Keep reading »

Study Claims A Big Wedding Leads To A Happier Marriage

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According to a new report by the University of Virginia, couples who have larger, more formal weddings are more likely to have quality marriages. This is pretty hard to believe because in my mind, there are few things more stressful or challenging to a relationship than planning a big wedding. The study, which is part of UVA’s National Marriage Project, surveyed 418 people about their histories and the current quality of their marriage. Marriage quality was determined through questions about factors like happiness in the relationship, thoughts about divorce, how often the couple confides in one another. Researchers found that only 30 percent of couples who had less than 50 guests at their ceremony had a highly successful marriage. On the other hand, 47 percent of couples who had over 150 guests had highly solid marriages, which is still hardly an awesome success rate. Keep reading »

Worst Nightmare: Married Couple Learns They’re Brother And Sister

A Brazilian couple, both of whom were adopted, recently shared the surprise of a lifetime when they learned that they share the same birth mother. Cue the face grimaces and gagging. Keep reading »

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