This week I got a letter from a lady who’s got the rack but is missing some spice. She wrote:
I have been with my boyfriend for about seven months and it’s been going really well. However he keeps mentioning how much he likes/misses having “make-up sex,” and I just don’t know what to do. We just have never fought … in fact, I’m not much of a fighter and have never had “make-up sex” in my life. If something upsets me, sex is really the last thing I want to do with that person. It’s clearly something he really enjoys, and as nice as it is that we don’t have epic fights, I feel we are missing out on something. I have talked it through with him and he says that he doesn’t care, that it’s nice not to be arguing. But I can tell that it’s something he really misses from previous relationships. I have even tried picking fights, when I haven’t been annoyed at all, to try and get it going! (That’s hasn’t worked.) Please give me some suggestions!