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The Soapbox: I Kept My “Maiden Name,” Deal With It

The Soapbox: I Kept My "Maiden Name," Deal With It

It started innocently enough at the mailbox.

I reached in and pulled out the usual bills, Victoria’s Secret catalogs, and fliers for the local pizza joint. Because it was the holiday season, there was also an envelope befitting a Christmas card. “Oh! [Redacted family member] sent us a card!” I said to my husband as we made our way into the house.

Then I looked at who the card was addressed to: the Bogadnovs’.

Bogdanovs is my husband’s last name. My last name is Wakeman. We were addressed both by his last name. Keep reading »

Frisky Rant: Don’t Assume I’m Taking My Husband’s Name

I Took Her Last Name
Bucking tradition, this husband took his wife's last name. Read More »
Combined Last Names
Chris O'Dowd and Dawn Porter
Chris O'Dowd's new wife combined their last names together. Read More »
No Maiden Names
japanese woman
Japanese court rules against keeping one's maiden name. Read More »
keeping maiden name and not taking husband's name

I got married on Friday. It is still all so very new that the wedding band on my finger distracts me every five seconds. It feels weird  — a blissfully happy weird — to hear the words “my husband” come out of my own mouth.

But it’s never too early, apparently, for people to just go ahead and assume that I took my husband’s last name.  Keep reading »

Japanese Court Rules Against Keeping One’s “Maiden Name”

Kept My Maiden Name
Andrea Grimes is still Andrea Grimes, thank you very much. Read More »
Combined Last Names
Chris O'Dowd and Dawn Porter
Chris O'Dowd's new wife combined their last names together. Read More »
I Took Her Last Name
Bucking tradition, this husband took his wife's last name. Read More »
japanese woman
  • A Japanese court has upheld a law that married couples must both use the last name of one of the partners. However, nearly 96 percent of the time, it is the woman who takes her husband’s surname. A recent lawsuit filed by five people sought to allow newlyweds to keep their “maiden” names if they so choose, but the court said no. Lame, Japan, lame. [Salon]
  • A Utah gun lobbyist was arrested for domestic violence and trespassing after driving his Army surplus vehicle on his ex-wife’s front lawn and blasting an air horn. The man’s lawyer defended him by saying he was “having fun in his big boy toy.” Intimidating your ex-wife and family is “having fun”? Okay. [Raw Story]
  • Young mothers are pushing back against PSAs by the Candies Foundation that were seen as shaming teen motherhood. [Feministing]
  • A Republican state rep from Oklahoma, who is a practicing physician, is criticizing his own party for restricting access to abortion and birth control. Rep. Doug Cox penned an op-ed for NewsOK stating, “In the world I work and live in, an unplanned pregnancy can throw up a real roadblock on a woman’s path to escaping the shackles of poverty.” [Huffington Post] Keep reading »

Chris O’Dowd’s New Wife Dawn Porter Combines Last Names Into “O’Porter”

Guy Talk: Last Name
This man took his wife's last name. Read More »
Drunk O'Dowd
Chris O'Dowd Drunk
It looks like Chris O'Dowd has consumed a lot of booze. Read More »
Kept My Maiden Name
Andrea Grimes is still Andrea Grimes, thank you very much. Read More »
Chris O'Dowd and Dawn Porter

Over the summer, “Bridesmaids” actor Chris O’Dowd married British writer/TV host Dawn Porter, who was also not keen on changing her professional name. She has a piece in UK Glamour about wanting to take on her husband’s name in the spirit of blending families, but at the same time not wanting to lose the last name that’s always been hers. So, she compromised on “O’Porter.” Keep reading »

Hitched: Yes, I Kept My “Maiden Name”

What's In A Name?
hitched photo
Why there's no way in hell Andrea Grimes will change her name. Read More »

“So, should I be calling you something different now?”

The bartender at my local bar walked hurriedly over to my table last week as I sat with my 5 p.m. Hefeweizen, wrapping up the day’s work on my laptop. He looked genuinely worried that, when I’d walked into the bar, he’d somehow offended me by calling me what most of my favorite bartenders over the years have ended up calling me, which is: “Mizz Grimes!”

I don’t know why they’ve all tended to pick up “Mizz Grimes,” but they have, and I love it. It makes me feel fancy and Southern, and there’s something about the way Texas bartenders say “Graiihhhhmmmz” as they’re grabbing a Lone Star or a High Life out of the cooler that just sounds right.

It was the first time someone who didn’t know me well, but who did know that I’d gotten married last month, had asked me about changing my name. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Ostracized For Keeping My Maiden Name”

My husband and I have been married a little under a year and we’re starting to actually feel married. However, in all of the adjustments I’ve made, there’s still one giving me a hard time: telling people that I’ve kept my maiden name. It’s a decision I made long before I met my husband; we discussed it at length before we even got engaged, and now he and our immediate friends and families are completely, 100% comfortable with it. Keep reading »

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