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Uh, Why Haven’t I Thought To Use A Dating Pseudonym?

Uh, Why Haven't I Thought To Use A Dating Pseudonym?

There is only one Amelia McDonell-Parry on Planet Earth. Do a Google search for my name and the first page of results turn up links to my writing — much of it about sex and dating on The Frisky — as well as a highly ridiculous and random Google group discussion post claiming that I advocate the rape of minors. (I don’t, of course. This allegation, started by a men’s rights activist quite a few years ago, dates back to an old Frisky post I did on hot guys we’re ashamed we want to bang. Nick Jonas was among them — he was 17 at the time. So, not only not a minor, but also since when does “want to bang” = “advocate raping”? I digress…)

Aside from that last one — which is, again, ridiculous, but vaguely annoying to have to explain — I’m not ashamed of anything you might find by Googling me. (Okay, unless you dive deep into my internet footprint and turn up the work I did in the mid-’90s as a diehard “General Hospital” fan campaigning for the preservation of Sonny and Brenda’s love. That I’m a lil’ mortified by.) But I’ll be honest — as someone who has (willingly and happily) written extensively about dating and sex and held back virtually nothing in the embarrassing stories department,  I totally cringe at the thought of a guy reading alllllll about me before our first date. So maybe it’s time I rip a page from writer Anna Davies book and start using a pseudonym or two. No, not as my byline — as the name I give to new dudes I’m dating, until I decide that they’re allowed to know the real me and dig for more. Keep reading »

Ask A Married Guy: “I Can’t Forget That My New Boyfriend Lied To Me At The Beginning Of Our Relationship”

Ask A Married Guy: "I Can't Forget That My New Boyfriend Lied To Me At The Beginning Of Our Relationship"

This is our friend Tom. He’s a married guy with tons of relationship experience, and a skilled advice giver who’s here to answer all your pressing sex, dating and relationship questions. Have a query for Tom? Email him at friskymarriedguy@gmail.com! All questions will be posted anonymously, unless otherwise requested.

I met my current boyfriend about 10 months ago. After I broke up with my last boyfriend in April, my current BF would invite me to dinners and tell me he liked me a lot, but never proposed entering into a relationship with me. Whenever I asked him if he had a girlfriend, he would get reluctant and change the topic. When I went on a trip in May, he made it clear he didn’t want me to be seeing another person. Then when I moved away for a two-month internship, he told me he loved me. Then he disappeared for a few days saying he was upset because he saw me flirting on Facebook with another guy.

I came back home and found out he had a girlfriend all this time, and that he went to Malaysia with her during his mysterious disappearance. I confronted him. He said they were almost over by the time they went on the trip and swore he didn’t have sex with her at that time. But I went through his email and found out that wasn’t true, and that he was being extremely sweet to her. But then he asked for a second chance and I gave it to him.

We have been dating for two months now, but I can’t bear the thought that he deceived me.  What should I do?

So this guy is a confessed liar and a cheat, and you wonder what I think you should do?

You should run a mile from him. And deep down, you already know that. Let’s run down the rap sheet of this confessed relationship criminal, shall we? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: On Lying About Having A Boyfriend

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Girl Talk: On Lying About Having A Boyfriend

Two days ago, I lied about having a boyfriend. I don’t do this, ever. This is one of those things I do not like to do. I do not want to feel like I have to lie about having a boyfriend to get out of an uncomfortable situation. Before I get to this story, here is an example of a situation in which I could have lied about having a boyfriend but I didn’t.

I was in Las Vegas in May, walking around with some of my dearest blogger friends, when we were approached by two men. One guy went right up to a friend of mine; the other went to me. This man stopped me and said, “Can I ask you three questions and you answer honestly?”

“Does this one count?” I deadpanned. He paused. He didn’t get it. So he asked again, ”Can I ask you three questions and you answer honestly?” Keep reading »

8 Lies That You’re Allowed To Tell In Bed (in GIFs)

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8 lies you can tell in bed

Despite our best efforts to dispel stigmas when it comes to sex, a new study published in the journal of Sex Roles found that men and women are still lying about their “number” just as much as they were a decade ago. Researchers found that, when hooked up to a lie detector, men reported fewer sexual partners , while women reported more partners. To those findings we say: let’s just stop pretending that we have to be honest in bed ALL THE TIME. Does anyone really need to know anyone’s number? Sure, there are some partners with whom brutal honesty is the way to go, but for the most part, it’s just not all that important how many notches there are on your bed post. All your partner needs to know is that he/she is your favorite notch. Well, at least for the moment, which totally makes it true. Below, some more sex lies that you should feel justified to go right on telling. Keep reading »

Why Our Nose Heats Up When We Lie

So Pinocchio wasn’t that far-fetched after all: The nose may not grow when we lie, but two Spanish scientists say it does get noticeably warmer. Using thermal imaging cameras on volunteers, Emilio Gómez Milán and Elvira Salazar López found that nose temperature changed depending on their mood, the Daily Mail reports. The reason: Part of the brain called the insular cortex is altered when people lie about their feelings, and the insular cortex detects and regulates body temperature. Read more …

The Top 10 Lies Women Tell Men

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We need to stop lying to each other, ladies. Read More »

Ah, women. So mysterious! So enigmatic! We have more layers than an onion. And men, poor, poor men. Left to figure us out all on their own. Sorry! We don’t mean to be confusing. We just are. While many of us strive to be honest, truthful, and forthright, we do not always tell the truth. That is the truth. Sometimes (gasp!), we lie. Most of the time, though, these are little white lies, half-truths told to keep the peace. Other times, our lies are a little bigger — say, for example, when the subject is sex. In honor of National Honesty Day, here’s a cheat sheet of the mistruths that are most likely to come out of a woman’s mouth, and what men can learn about the lies, the sweet little lies, that women tell. (Don’t worry — we’ve got lies dudes tell coming later today…) Keep reading »

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