The unexpected side effect of running into an old friend from college on the subway and falling deeply in love with Him, for me, has been a renewed interest in my past. I can’t tell you definitively why this is. Maybe it’s because I knew Him in college, and re-meeting Him after 16 years gave me a new lens through which to view my past self and understand her better.
My hunger to reconnect with my past self started with the hint of a memory of a photograph of the two of us from college. In my mind’s eye, I see it: Me and Him sitting next to each other in his dark, dorm room, both of us dressed all in black as we did at the time. Me: black dress, black fishnets, black leather jacket and heavy, black eyeliner. Him: oversized black pants, a black baseball cap, black hoodie. His arm around me. Sitting on top of his extra long twin bunk bed. Top bunk.
I’ve convinced myself that this photo exists. Keep reading »
It’s hard to use the term “soul mate” without feeling like you should be wearing a cape and meditating over a crystal. We’ve considered the concept extensively — both independently and together over Gchat — and we are of the same mind on the matter: Not only do soul mates exist but all of us have more than one soul mate out there. And to quote “Annie” (kind of), “A life without soul mates is like a night without stars” — a very dark night. But don’t think because you are single that you’ve been left out of the soul mate phenomenon. It’s limiting to think that merging with your other half must be romantic in nature. Soul mates can be lovers, friends, family members or even pets. While the universe might help us out in our quest to find them, it’s up to us to make sure we connect with them. Soul mate relationships seem so meant to be that it’s hard to imagine ever not knowing that person once you do. But just to be safe, below are some tips for making sure your soul mates in life don’t pass you by. Keep reading »
Psssst — if you’re only going to watch one video on the Internet today, make it this one. I don’t know who goes about their day thinking, “I’m only going to watch one video on the Internet today,” but maybe it’s you. I could probably benefit from a rule like that myself, come to think of it. Anyway! Jason Schwartzman, outstanding actor (R.I.P. “Bored to Death”), musician by way of Coconut Records, and all-around cool person teamed up with his cousin, who just so happens to be Roman Coppola, director, producer, writer, actor, son of Francis Ford Coppola, and co-conspirator of Wes Anderson (these people kill me; can you tell?) on this little video for offbeat high-style site NOWNESS (click, it’s cool!). Keep reading »
Grumpy Cat hates everything — smiling, rainbows, fun — so it’s no surprise that Tardar Sauce is an enemy of love, too. If you also hate love — or at least hate the Hallmark holiday dedicated to monetizing love that just passed — you are gonna really enjoy the animated Grumpy GIF we’ve got after the jump! Keep reading »
I refuse to be one of those people spewing bitterness about Valentine’s Day. As a single person, no, it’s not my favorite holiday. But it wasn’t my favorite holiday when I was coupled either. Aside from the pricey prix fixe dinner menus, the reason being, Valentine’s Day is limiting. This concept of “romantic love,” that it’s the only kind of love that is transcendent or important, is just dumb. It sets you up for failure. If you don’t have it, does that mean you’re unloved or unlovable? Um, NO! Really, we all have access to many different forms of love, and if we’re wise, we are pursuing all of them and not just putting all of our love eggs in one basket. It’s easy to forget that. So, I’ve taken a few moments to reflect upon some really simple ways to invite more love in this Valentine’s Day that have nothing to do with romantic love. Keep reading »
This is Wu Conghan and Wu Sognshi. They were married in 1924 in Nanchong, Sichuan province, China, but there were no photographers on their big day, and so the couple never had wedding photos taken. Well, 88 years later, the pair finally decided to remedy the situation and posed for the pictures they never got to take. They are 101- and 103-years-old, respectively. How friggin cute are they!? [Daily Mail UK]
Depending on your mood and romantic history, you’ll either find the love story of “Breaking Bad” actor Aaron Paul and his fiancee Lauren Parsekian to be hopelessly adorable or nauseatingly saccharine. During Paul’s Emmy acceptance speech Sunday night, he thanked his “beautiful, inspiring fiancée … Thank you so much for looking at me the way that you do, you truly saved me.” We love Aaron Paul, for obvious reasons, and Parsekian, who is ridiculously gorgeous, seems pretty cool, too — she’s the cofounder of the Kind Campaign, which works with abused and bullied young girls. There’s, like, a lot of love between these two, and they’ve documented it in interviews, photos and endless Twitter posts about one another. We’ve captured the most, um, intense Twitter exchanges between these two lovebirds for your enjoyment. You tell us — is it too cute or too much?
You’ve got to LOVE a piece of statement jewelry. And nothing makes a statement like a little love note to yourself. Wear this pair of 14-karat gold-filled studs and be reminded of what a lovely stud you are. Also, self-love goes with everything so you can rock these earrings every day, not just on special occasions. [$27.40, Etsy]
First Amy Poehler and Will Arnett split up, and now this. It’s not a good week for love, you guys. Since 2006, smitten couples have been decorating Rome’s Ponte Milvio bridge with padlocks to signify their eternal devotion (the craze was sparked by a novel called I Want You), but now the weight of all those love locks is threatening the ancient bridge. As of Monday, police have begun taking bolt cutters to thousands of the romantic symbols, which makes a lot of practical sense but is still kind of tragic to watch. Apparently the padlock-obsessed lovers have taken to expressing their commitment at other nearby landmarks like the railings near the Trevi Fountain, which gives a whole new meaning to the term “lock it down.” [Telegraph]
One of the more annoying things about dating is being given unsolicited advice by the smug couples of the world, the most offensive kind being played out platitudes about love. Thanks. I’m sure “my time will come” but when? How? At least say something helpful if you’re going to shove your advice down my throat. And by the way, just because I’m not currently in love doesn’t mean I’ve never experienced it before. I have, thank you very much. And here’s what I learned from my experiences: Falling in love is a wonderful, mystical, magical thing, but it’s complicated and nuanced and rare. Every time you fall in love it’s as unique as a snowflake, so it’s absolutely impossible to generalize with some stale old saying. I humbly request a ban on the following love adages on the grounds that they’re stupid and untrue. Oh, and I give you permission to close your ears the next time you hear these phrases … Keep reading »