A new study in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology has found that relationships, much like most things in life, are all about perspective. When you see love as a beautiful journey of growth and occasional struggle, your love life is more likely to prosper. When you want your relationship to be perfect or believe you have one and only soul mate to “complete” you, you’re likely to have a tough time sustaining happiness in love. Luckily, improving that kind of emotional rut is as easy as a simple shift in perspective. The study divides views on love into two “frames” — a union between two halves who are made for each other, or a journey with ups and downs. To better explain the unity concept, the research team linked it to an Aristotle quote: “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” People who see love like a journey, on the other hand, are more likely to relate to traditional wedding vows that promise to love one another for better or for worse. Keep reading »
“I didn’t think you’d want to know.”
This was how my boyfriend of three years told me that he was leaving me for a different girl. A white girl.
As I watched him struggle with what to say, I remembered that I had seen them together around campus before, but had figured it was nothing; a harmless friendship that might be a little flirtatious, but not serious. Standing there on the sidewalk, I slowly began to understand that despite immersing myself in years of stolen glances, goodnight calls and sun-kissed smiles, it was all over. And even more shocking was the realization that he had always known it would have to end. Read more on Your Tango…
Love: It’s magic, and butterflies in your stomach, and candlelit dinners, and perfectly filtered Instagram pictures, and blah, blah, blah, blah, bleghhh.
Can we cut the crap already? Read all 10 quotes on Your Tango…
Researchers have found evidence that watching rom-coms and sitcoms impact our views on love. TV seems to shape our view of reality in every other realm of life, so I’m not exactly shocked it’s also true for romance.
Why Dave Is Still Single, a study by University of Michigan researchers, asked participants how frequently they watch rom-coms, marriage-themed reality shows and sitcoms.They discovered that participants who watch a lot of rom-coms and romantic reality shows were more likely to believe in things like love at first sight and “The One” – you know, the stuff that keeps us forever alone because we’re stubbornly waiting for some ever-elusive meet cute with a Ken doll that will never arrive. These participants were more likely to agree with phrases like “My ‘true love’ will be nearly perfect” or the concept that they’d know immediately if their significant other was right for them. Keep reading »
When most of us get a burst blood vessel in the eye, it’s because our allergies are acting up, or God forbid, we puked too hard. And no matter why our eye looks like it’s bleeding, it tends to be gross.
This woman wins the award for the loveliest burst eye vessel in all the universe. Literally. Look closely. Her blood vessel spells out the word LOVE. Keep reading »
After 70 years of marriage, an Ohio couple passed away within 15 hours of one another other this weekend, at the ages of 91 and 92. Helen and Kenneth Felumlee, who had eight children and many more grandkids, were introduced as teenagers by Kenneth’s ex-girlfriend, who was a friend of Helen’s. After three years of dating, they eloped in 1944 with barely enough money in their pockets to pay the $2 courthouse fee. For weeks afterward, they lived in separate homes because they were so nervous about telling their parents that they’d married. Keep reading »
We’re pretty intrigued by this photo series project called “Feminism is not a means to just justify self entitlement,” in which signs held by a man and a woman clarify what it can mean to be in a relationship while being a feminist. I know I’ve definitely had moments where I’ve gotten caught up in where feminism fit within traditional dating rituals; this series explains some points of confusion about gender roles and simply being a loving partner.
Do these pictures resonate with you or do you feel like they already go without saying? I find myself leaning in both ways — these are important points that some people don’t understand, but I would hope a reasonably thoughtful person doesn’t need the difference between chivalry and oppression to be spelled out. I’d love your thoughts. [Jezebel, Imgur]
If you’ve been searching for “the one” but haven’t had any luck, ask yourself this important question: Are love-blocking beliefs sabotaging your love life?
Are you carrying around fear-based beliefs from your childhood or early relationship experiences? Sometimes, these issues are so deeply embedded in us, we’re not even aware that these love blockers are lurking in our subconscious. The first step to moving past these old, limiting viewpoints is to recognize that they are there. So take a deep breath, and address these 7 love-blocking beliefs on Your Tango…
A New Jersey couple that was married for 67 years died just a day apart even though each didn’t know of the other’s death, Huffington Post reports. Olympia DeNittis, 95, died last Sunday in Edison, NJ, after a bout with pneumonia, the Asbury Park Press reports. Michael DeNittis, 94, died the next day just a few hours away in New Brunswick, NJ. Michael’s family decided not to tell him about her death, hoping he might continue his four-year battle with stage-IV colon cancer, but he said he had dreamed of his own death the night before, the New Jersey Star-Ledger reports. Read more on Newser…
Ahh, Valentine’s Day. Romance is in the air, and so is a certain sense of bitterness that only comes around this time of year. Don’t you just love it?
For your entertainment, we’ve compiled some random quotes that have floated around The Frisky office in relation to Cupid’s impending visit. Read, share, and join us in Valentine’s Day merriment and loathing as we talk lingerie, chocolate and lifetime supplies of lube.