I received over 600+ messages from men while registered with OKCupid and PlentyOfFish. I have a fair amount of horror stories, possibly enough to include in an HBO series called “Internet Dating Tales From The Crypt.” I am not saying that there aren’t a good deal of great guys looking to meet great girls online, but when you aren’t expecting to be bombarded with messages from creeps, freaks, jerks and everything in between, the online dating world can be a bit shocking — and not the sexy man popping out of a birthday cake kind, either. In any case, even my bad online dating experiences can be learned from. Afterall, creepo internet dudes can be avoided if you know what to look out for. Here are the six types of guys you should definitely steer clear of while man hunting online. Keep reading »
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Hey Frisky readers! Cool news: tomorrow morning, I’m going to be a guest on Elvis Duran’s radio show giving relationship advice. I’ll be specifically talking about “spring cleaning” your relationship — and I would love to get your questions! So, are YOU thinking about spring cleaning your love life? Think it’s time to kick that bum girlfriend/boyfriend to the curb? Considering taking your ex back? Need tips on how to build the perfect online dating profile? Post your question in the comments or, if you would prefer, email me firstname.lastname@example.org (SUBJECT: Question For Elvis Duran Show) with your question and I’ll try to answer it on-air this Wednesday! (To find a station near you that broadcasts Elvis Duran’s Show, click here.)
I have been a vegetarian for almost 20 years. It’s something that is just as me as being blonde or Italian or snorting when I laugh. Really, really fortunately, my boyfriend is really supportive about it. He loves vegetarian food — he doesn’t even bring meat into our apartment. (I tell him he can!) He eats it when he is out, which gives him a nice balance. But there have definitely been people in my life who gave me a hard time, tried to change me, or tried to make me feel bad. None of those things were good ideas because I never caved. I never ate the “just one!” chicken wing. I just got … annoyed.
Food is love. It’s life — it’s so important. It can take over your relationship if you’re butting heads about your eating habits with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Don’t let it! Think about these rules. They are mine — not everyone’s. If you have a girlfriend or boyfriend who doesn’t eat meat (or gluten, or orange-colored foods, or whatever), talk about it. Figure it out. Then it will never be an awkward thing or cause resentment or passive aggressiveness. Then you can dig in. Yes! Nommmnomnomnomnom… Keep reading »
I’ve talked about my often-disastrous relationships in a number of my columns, and every time I do, I get dozens of messages from people asking me to elaborate. Not that I’m an expert — it’s more like how you see a guy come screaming out of the woods covered in bees and you ask him where he found the hive, so you can avoid it.
So, the most common question I get (besides “Will you please stop sending me pictures of your penis?”) is “How do I know if this is the one?” which I think is a stealth way of asking me, “How can I avoid the hellish divorce that haunts your memories?”
Well, if you want to avoid the bees, I say you should always keep in mind … Keep reading »
Besides just giving up meat on Fridays (or pretending to when your parents ask), Lent is a great time to break bad habits. Just like the hose down Bourbon Street gets at midnight at the end of each Fat Tuesday, you too can use this as an opportunity to purge yourself of poor choices. Sure, it’s not quite the act of self-sacrifice the Pope would want from you, but it’s a change for good. And what religious figurehead wouldn’t want that? Keep reading »
When you like someone, and you think they might like you too, but you’re not sure, it’s not always best to put your hand over your heart and tell them how you feel.
In fact, it rarely ever is.
But there are ways to drop hints and open the door for them, so that if they are interested, they’re more likely to start showing it. Here are 50. Keep reading »
If you are a single on Valentine’s Day—you basically have two options. You can embrace the day and make it your own. Or you can boycott. We support both options. If you choose the latter, it might not be as hard as you think. After the jump, 15 easy ways to completely opt out of Valentine’s Day this year. Keep reading »
Relationships are a little like glaciers; under various pressures, they’re always moving and changing, gathering all sorts of debris. But after some time, they move so slowly, it’s easy to forget they’re there, particularly when you live together. To use a more familiar metaphor, one day your relationship is a wild ride, all loops and corkscrews, and then, out of nowhere, it’s mellowed and straightened out.
Actually, it’s worse than that. It’s stagnating. Read more…
So, you and your boyfriend are considering moving in together? Congratulations! This is an exciting time in any relationship — a big step with a lot of fun moments along the way. (Shopping for new art and eating Chinese food on the living room floor? Yes please!) My boyfriend and I have lived together for about three years, and in that time we’ve learned a lot about each other and our relationship. We’ve dealt with my messy habits, different levels of social needs, and limited closet space. We’ve also had countless jam sessions, “Arrested Development” marathons, and a “Titanic” reenactment party that no one will ever forget.
While we’re certainly not perfect, we have figured out — through trial and error — how to make the cohabitation thing work. The big secret? Don’t leave your hair in the shower drain. The second most important thing? Talk about things before they become major problems. It’s easy to think that just because you love each other, living together will come naturally, but in reality, sharing a space with someone always requires some planning and negotiation. Here are five things to talk about before, during, and after you move in together… Keep reading »
Couples fight. We know this. Even the most functional couples have spats now and again. Relationship fights, they happen.
However, there are many relationship fights that happen that can be avoided. Because let’s face it — the more stress and fighting a relationship has, the less enjoyable it is.
Here are some common relationship fights and how to (hopefully) avoid them. Read more…