Our editor Amelia is turning 30 in a week and her essay on the subject really resonated with Frisky readers, both younger and older than 30. With that in mind, we’ll be reposting our “Before 30” series, which originally ran late last year, over the next few weeks. Enjoy!

Our editor Amelia is turning 30 in a few short weeks and her essay on the subject really resonated with Frisky readers, both younger and older than 30. With that in mind, we’ll be reposting our “30 Before 30” series, which originally ran late last year, over the next few weeks. Enjoy!

We’ve talked a lot about the things you should know and do before turning the big 3-0, but until now, we have yet to discuss the things you’d be crazy to try before your 30th birthday. While you may be in a rush to squeeze in as many adventures and escapades as you can before the clock strikes midnight and the curtain drops on your 20s, there are quite a few things you’d be a total fool to willfully experience. After the jump, 30 things you should not try before turning 30*...

Yesterday, we revisited Wendy’s “30 Things Every Woman Should Have Before She Turns 30.” But what if you’ve already passed that milestone, and you’re looking 40 in the eye? If you’re moving in the direction of the big 4-0, here are 40 things every woman should do before she turns 40. Feel free to add your own in the comments.

Our editor Amelia is turning 30 in a few short weeks and her essay on the subject really resonated with Frisky readers, both younger and older than 30. With that in mind, we’ll be reposting our “30 Before 30” series, which originally ran late last year, over the next few weeks. Enjoy!

A couple weeks ago, I got invited to an “amazing cocktail party shopping event”: “How To Dress to Land A Millionaire.” Ridiculous, right? But when I saw who was on the guest panel — Alex McCord and Ramona Singer from “The Real Housewives of New York City,” I knew I had to go. I even drafted a few questions I hoped to have the chance to ask the ladies. A week ago, I got an email saying the event had been canceled — well, postponed, technically, “until later in the fall.” Oh, noes! First, it was moved from Saks to some stuffy restaurant on the Upper East Side. Now, it’s postponed — perhaps indefinitely?! What do you think could have happened? After the jump, my nine best guesses as to why Alex and Ramona won’t be sharing their tips tonight on how to land a millionaire.

A new study found that a third of men would prefer to play video games rather than have sex with their partners. Oh yeah?! Well there’s some things we’d rather do than hump too, and they’re way more exciting that Grand Theft Auto! See our list, after the jump…

The awesome blog “25 Things About My Sexuality” compiles and posts the anonymous sexual confessions of its readers. Some are heartfelt…

“I’m not a prude, but I dislike talking about my sex life, even in therapy. I was raised in a household where sex and sexual issues were taboo even though my folks walked around naked and had five kids. That contrast is probably a big part of the reason I find it embarrassing to discuss sex.”

This month, Playboy pronounced the most important people in sex. Their number includes Playboy CEO Hugh Hefner, “Sex and the City” creator Candace Bushnell, and Jenna Jameson. Daniel Radosh makes the case that sex is one of the most important cultural influencers of the modern age. “Reading the Playboy list, what quickly jumps out is that sex is as much a cultural force as a private act,” Radosh writes. Talking to list creator Chip Rowe, Radosh finds out which erotic icons didn’t make the cut, Bettie Page, Larry Flynt, and Dan Savage among them. Where the list is most remiss, Radosh ventures, is in featuring not one African-American on it. Where’s LL Cool J? Radosh wonders, seeing as “hip hop’s sexual (and frequently sexist) swagger has become the erotic lingua franca of young Americans of all races.” Of course, today the computer tops the list of the 21st century’s leading erotic pioneers, leaving the once cutting-edge Playboy on the locker room floor. [The Daily Beast]

This year has been sort of a Debbie Downer.  From the stock market slump, to the shocking death of Heath Ledger, to the lame duck President’s reversal of medical rights last week, things have been looking pretty glum.  But I’m ready for a clean slate! So, for those of you who are with me and SO over ye ole ’08, here are 10 things to look forward to in 2009:

1. Going To Bed With Jimmy Fallon: The former “Saturday Night Live” star will get his own late night show in Spring ’09.  He’s taking over Conan’s slot and the giant ginger is moving on down into Jay Leno’s time.

At first, when we found out David Duchovny had checked himself into rehab for sex addiction, we were like, “Damn, that’s kind of hot.” But that was naive. After researching sexual addiction—earlier Susannah Breslin discussed how many think the affliction is a myth—we’re feeling some serious sympathy for his wife of eleven years, actress Tea Leoni. It seems that David’s not just acting sex-crazed on his Showtime series. But how can sex, a natural bodily function, become a disease making headlines? The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.” Just like drugs and alcohol, some people feel they’re abusing sex and themselves to get a high. But as Breslin points out, even doctors can’t decide if sexual addiction is a real condition or merely a symptom of a larger problem that goes beyond sex. Either way, it’s reeking havoc and wrecking homes. So how can you tell if your man is a slave to his wee man?  Seven signs, after the jump…

1. Pack Your Lunch: Instead of spending $10 on a sandwich that you don’t really enjoy, bring your lunch from home—you’ll save money (which can then be spent, guilt-free, on martinis at the end of the week), you’ll hopefully eat healthier, and you can use up leftovers instead of letting them rot away in your fridge.

2. Call Your Mom For No Reason: It’s easy to go days and weeks without phoning home because of how busy we all are with work and the holidays, but make it your mission to call your mom for no other reason than just to say, “Hi, what’s new?” It will literally fill her heart with joy.

3. Volunteer: Hit up a soup kitchen, read to the elderly at a nursing home, or even just donate your old winter coat to a clothing drive…there are so many easy ways to make a big impact on someone’s life. And, of course, selfishly speaking, doing good for others will make you feel good too.

Erik Parker, contributor to MSN, wants us ladies to know the 11 things men want from us. Newsflash: Sex! Blowjobs! Time to watch sports! A GPS! Well, Erik — and all you other guys who will get this forwarded to you from your girlfriends, wives, maybe even helpful sisters — we want a few things from you, too. After the jump, the top 11 things we want (and yes, guilt-free nights of reality TV and enthusiasm for our shopping make the list).

Sure, the summer months are filled with picnics, beach days, and travel to far-flung hot spots, but that doesn’t mean romance has to die when winter rolls around. Besides the most obvious cold weather distraction for couples, here are 20 date ideas for heating things up when the temperature drops.

1. Make hot chocolate cocktails. Get creative with peppermint schnapps, Bailey’s, Kahlua, or white chocolate liquor and hold a taste-off to see who mixed the best drink.
2. Go ice skating together. There’s something about bundling up and gliding around—or falling down—on the ice with your honey that makes winter seem almost, well, fun.
3. Take a weekend get away at a bed-and-breakfast. For extra fun, book a room with a Jacuzzi.
4. Bundle up and indulge in a little G-rated winter calorie-burning: cross-country skiing.
5. Play tourist in your hometown and take a carriage ride huddled beneath a blanket. Geocities has information and links to carriage, wagon, buggy, and sleigh rides across the US.

We recently made a wish list of traits you’re hoping your next boyfriend will posses. Looking at all the characteristics that were stipulated, we started to think about ourselves and what we would bring to a relationship with a man who has all the qualities we desire. There’s a reason we’re so picky about who we date. Sure, we’re not perfect, but there’s a lot us ladies bring to the table, too. After the jump, read the reasons Frisky staffers think we make good girlfriends, and leave yours in the comments.

When we asked you guys to submit the list of qualities that your next boyfriend/significant other would have, you responded with such amazing answers, we had to compile them into one master list. Seriously ladies, print this bad boy out, tack it to your refrigerator, and use it as a constant reminder of what you deserve!

So you think you’ve found the perfect guy but he’s a beer lover and you’re not? For many women, a beer’s bitter finish is enough to have them running for a shaker and fruit juice. Well, problem solved! We’ve compiled 10 “gateway beers” that’ll have her throwing back with the boys in no time.

It’s no secret that women can be incredibly competitive and catty with each other. In yesterday’s post about Mean Girls we argued that no one can bring a woman down faster and harder than another woman. Right now, a lot of us are reconnecting with our own inner Mean Girls when it comes to Sarah Palin. We mock her out, attack her, and put her down in ways only we women really can. But of course, it’s not just Sarah Palin we’ve got beef with, is it? When it comes to other women competing for the same men, the same jobs, even the same last pair of chocolate brown leather riding boots in size 7 on sale for 50% off, we are out for blood. After the jump, 12 things Mean Girls do to take down the competition…

While everyone on “Gossip Girl” is complaining of the intense heat, mid-blackout, nary a hair out of place, the rest of us know that though humidity is sticking it out, summer has come to an end. (Unless you are very, very wealthy and you can find summer any time of year.)

As Wall Street falters and the Presidential candidates politic their way into November, what is to become of your summer fling? Will you vote for him in the fall? Or will you change parties and send him packing? Sure you spent many a wine-filled eve, smelling of suntan lotion and getting sand in your pants—but is your romance seasonal? Or can it sustain Thanksgiving with your family (and the cold)?

Despite what that old chestnut Love Story will have you believe, love doesn’t mean never having to say you’re sorry. In fact, one of the most important components of any relationship is the ability to suck it up and apologize every now and again. It’s hardly brain surgery, but who among us hasn’t been the recipient of an apology that wound up making you feel even worse than the original transgression?

For something that’s basically a no-brainer, there’s a bevy of ways to get it very, very wrong. In fact, the late Randy Pausch’s bestseller, The Last Lecture has an entire chapter called “A bad apology is worse than no apology.” Now granted, men are definitely more prone to the botched apology (see John Edwards, Bill Clinton, etcetera), but we ladies have also been known to blow an act of contrition on occasion. After the jump, some apology strategies to avoid…

We’ve been thinking about accidental insemination a lot lately because of this whole Sarah Palin/Bristol Palin/Levi Johnston situation. Honestly, we feel for Bristol and Levi because their little mistake is everyone in America’s business now, but they’re not the first couple to deal with an unplanned pregnancy. Here are five songs about the situation…