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50 Reasons You Are Beautiful

Beautiful "Imperfections"
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I'm Not Beautiful
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When legendary sex symbol Bo Derek appeared on Oprah a few months ago, Oprah kept pressing her to tell the world something profound about being a beautiful woman, and Bo kept brushing off the questions, saying, “It’s just about the way the bones line up.” That felt pretty profound to me. In our culture, the standard of beauty is narrow, and every day we face countless reminders of the ways we fall short. When it comes down it, though, our society’s definition of beauty is simple and unromantic: it’s high cheekbones and a button nose and long legs and a small waist and so on and so on. We can only congratulate or punish ourselves so many times for the way our bones line up. Here are 50 vastly different definitions of beauty that I know to be true… Keep reading »

22 Things I Wish I Knew About Dating When I Was 22

For the last few years, I’ve been a mentor to a former student of mine from my days as a junior high school teacher. Now that she is out of college, we have become friends, or more like older sister/ younger sister, or somewhere between parent and peer. I met her when she was 15. Now she’s 22. The other evening she was telling me about this guy she’s been dating on and off. In short, I do not approve of him. Listening to her talk, I remembered how when I was her age, I was in a very similar dating situation. I wanted to shake her and say, “Dump his ass now!” But that wouldn’t be right. If someone had said that to me, I would have laughed at them and then told them to f**k off. I wanted to spare her all of the pain, all of the mistakes I made myself. But I suppose I can’t. Sigh. Such is life. People learn in their own time. Instead, I offer my unsolicited advice about what I wish I knew about dating when I was 22 and hope that she reads it and figures it out for herself. Add your dating wisdom nuggets in the comments. Keep reading »

10 Flirtation Killers

Ladies, I’m sure you have experienced this before. You are having a perfectly good flirtation session with a perfectly hot guy when all of a sudden … he ruins everything. The other night, I was at a party, talking with a guy I found extremely attractive and cool. We were wrapping up the conversation, about to exchange contact info, when he made a serious misstep. He reached down underneath his chair and pulled out a giant bicycle helmet and PUT IT ON. He looked so ridiculous that I couldn’t take him seriously. I fully support bicycle riding, especially with the proper safety precautions, but couldn’t he have waited until we parted ways to put the stupid thing on? Sigh. Foiled by a bicycle helmet. After the jump some more flirtation killers sure to spoil a good vibe. Add yours in the comments. Keep reading »

10 Misconceptions I Had About Sex Before I Started Having It

23 Bad Sex Moves
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Poor Sex Etiquette
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Once upon a time, I was a very sheltered girl. Sex was the ultimate taboo – I thought it was dangerous, dirty, and I failed to understand how anyone could derive pleasure from it. In high school, when my friends started engaging in sexy time, their less than positive reviews of their experiences didn’t make sex sound any more appealing. It wasn’t until I got to college, and started meeting more experienced, sex-positive, empowered ladies that I started to cultivate a more positive view of sexuality. And when I finally started having sex with an incredibly sensitive man, I confirmed that a lot of my fear of sex was based on fallacies and lies.

Without further ado, here are some of my most misguided thoughts. Keep reading »

10 Reasons To Nab Yourself A Younger Man

Dating Good Guys
boyfriend photo
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How To Talk Dirty
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‘ve always assumed that in my single hunt, I should be aiming high. And when I say “high,” I mean “older.” People love to tell me how I need an older, more mature man to appreciate me. And admittedly, I have been a somewhat ageist dater. But lately, many of my single lady friends are being appreciated by some stellar, younger guys. They say that once you go young, you never go back. Maybe I should rethink the age of my target audience. I’ve asked them why they like their younger guys so much. After the jump, some positives about dating a younger dude. Keep reading »

My Top 5 “Lucky” Experiences

Thursday is St. Patrick’s Day and it’s got me thinking about the concept of luck. It’s a strange one. What does it mean to be lucky, to have bad luck or good luck? Is luck completely out of our hands or does luck just present us with opportunities that we can either take advantage of or not? I think I believe luck to most often be the latter (though there are certainly cases where the former applies); good or bad fortune rears its head and it’s up to the individual to make the most of it. I feel like I’ve lived a very lucky life, one I’m grateful for and have tried to make the most of. But there have been a few experiences in this life of mine that stick out as particularly lucky. Read about them after the jump, and then share your lucky experiences in the comments! Keep reading »

21 Reasons We’re Super Psyched For Spring

Spring, please don’t be a tease. The groundhog said you were just around the corner, so, I beg of you, don’t dilly-dally there for too long — we’re ready and waiting for all your bountiful gifts. Allow us to sing your praises! Here are the 21 reasons we’re super psyched for spring; add your own in the comments — maybe all the love will encourage spring to get here quicker? Keep reading »

20 Valentine’s Day Gifts It Would Suck To Receive

From anxiety over one’s relationship status (or lack thereof), to figuring out a non-lame way to celebrate, Valentine’s Day, more than any other occasion, has the power to elicit panic in even the most reserved, well-tempered individuals. Perhaps the most nerve-wracking experience of the whole occasion is choosing an appropriate gift, one that sends just the right message without inadvertently offending anyone in the process. Worse than the stress in choosing a perfect gift, though, is the disappointment in receiving one that totally sucks. After the jump, 20 Valentine’s Day gifts we hope you don’t get stuck with this year. Keep reading »

40 Dating Mistakes I’ll Never Make Again

As many of you know, I am back on the market after an enlightening six-month sabbatical. You will be happy to know that I actually survived a date last night! As I walked to the subway after two beers and a kiss on the cheek, I was feeling pleased with the evening. I had kept it simple and relaxed without compromising myself. I was single me, just a more grounded, secure version. Last night proved that I really have changed the way I’m approaching dating. In fact, I was feeling so good about the new single me, that on the subway ride home I brainstormed a list of dating mistakes I intend never to make again. Check them out after the jump. Add yours in the comments. Keep reading »

The 5 Types Of Period Panties

Every woman’s got ‘em: the panties ruined by Nature’s special, beautiful, magical gift to your ladyparts. You might be thrilled that Bingo’s tadpoles didn’t penetrate the love glove, but that still doesn’t mean you aren’t pissed your white, lacy Victoria’s Secret thong looks like a Jackson Pollack painting.

Typically, girls wear sexy underwear at all times because, even if we know no one is going to see them, we just feel better about ourselves when we know we look pretty underneath. But the three to seven days of the month when all we do is cry and eat Cherry Garcia is an exception! Whether they were formerly cute panties sneak attacked by Aunt Flo or nasty knickers you bought just to stain, here are the five types of period panties every woman’s got: Keep reading »