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Life After Dating: Cohabitating For The First Time In More Than A Decade

Life After Dating: Cohabitating For The First Time In More Than A Decade

So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our weekly column, Life After Dating, women discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

When Jeff and I moved in together — after six months of dating — it was out of convenience. My roommates were two dudes, one of which powdered his balls in the bathroom and made fun of my underwear hang-drying in the laundry room. Jeff was a musician living with his bandmates. His place was basically the apartment equivalent of tour bus — a bunch of guys rotating from futon to couch. There was a lot of Pabst Blue Ribbon and not very much food in the fridge. We both wanted out. We wanted to escape our situations. We were 22. There were no long discussions about the future or what living together or breaking up would mean. There was mutual, “OK. Let’s do it.” A week later, we found a place a few blocks away and before we knew it, we were eating pizza off of our very own repurposed crate/ coffee table like a real adult couple. Keep reading »

Life After Dating: The Pros And Cons Of Not Sharing Money

Life After Dating: The Pros And Cons Of Not Sharing Money

So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our weekly column, Life After Dating, women discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

My boyfriend Nick and I have been together for nearly 10 years, lived together for 8 of those, and still keep completely separate bank accounts. We’ve been sharing expenses — rent, groceries, gas, car insurance, etc — for a long time, but whenever we talk about actually pooling our finances, it just doesn’t feel right. Not sharing a bank account works for us, but that’s not to say it doesn’t come with some drawbacks. Here are some of the pros and cons of keeping your money separate when you’re building a life together… Keep reading »

Life After Dating: 15 Highly Annoying Habits You Should Overlook In Your Relationship (And 9 You Shouldn’t)

Annoying Habits You Should Overlook In Your Relationship

So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our weekly column, Life After Dating, women discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

One of the things you notice when you spend a whole lot of time with someone is every single little annoying thing they do. Whether it be the way they slurp their angel hair pasta like they’re eating out of a trough or how they tend to be most eager to start a conversation when you’re meditating, in any long-term relationship, it’s inevitable that you’re going to find yourself grinding your teeth at the person you love (and trust us, they’ll be grinding their teeth at you, too). Even when you think you’ve managed to rise above the incessant channel flipping or the empty toilet paper roll, fresh annoyances can crop up…even after years and years. They’re only human. You still love them. But one of the keys to maintaining a happy LTR is deciding which of your partner’s annoying habits are worth overlooking (because let’s be honest, 99.9 percent of habits are), and which ones are indicative of deeper issues or — gulp — potential dealbreakers. Below are some annoying habits you should forgive and forget, and some that might deserve a harder look… Keep reading »

Life After Dating: 7 Ways To Avoid Getting Sucked Into Your Partner’s Foul Mood

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So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our weekly column, Life After Dating, women discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

When you’re alone, a bad mood is like an angry wave that takes you down. No matter how awful it feels in the moment, the damage it can do is limited because, for most part, you’re the only person in its path. When there’s another person around, a bad mood has the potential to pull both of you under water, and anyone who’s ever been sucked into a spiral of grumpiness with their partner knows that once you’ve been caught in the riptide, it’s nearly impossible to make your way back to shore. Luckily, there are some effective ways to deal with your partner’s moods. Hopefully, these emotional life rafts will let you maintain your sunny disposition, no matter how crabby your partner may be. In ideal cases, you might even be able to cheer them up. But don’t count on it — sometimes people just want to be mad, and that’s OK. As long as it’s only sometimes Keep reading »

Life After Dating: My First Coupled Valentine’s Day Is Going To Be Anticlimactic

Life After Dating: My First Coupled Valentine's Day Is Going To Be Anticlimactic

So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our new weekly column, Life After Dating, we’ll discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

“What should we do for Valentine’s Day?” I asked my boyfriend.

He shrugged. I shrugged back. We looked at each other.

“I hate those prix fixe dinners,” he said.

“Yeah, me too,” I agreed. “So what then? What can we do that’s not dinner?”

We mutually shrugged once again and went back to talking about documentaries we wanted to see.

And that was that. We’re not doing anything for Valentine’s Day. Well, nothing special, anyway. Keep reading »

Life After Dating: A Look Back At 4 Strange Things I Did While Single

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So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our new weekly column, Life After Dating, we’ll discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

As I’ve mentioned before, there are many things that I miss about being single, for instance, watching “Rupaul’s Drag Race” and “America’s Next Top Model” whenever I felt like it, waking up at 7AM and running errands, and sitting down to a gourmet salad for one. But one thing I didn’t realize until I was no longer single, was that when you’re on your own for long stretches of time, you drop into a strange zone where it’s just you, yourself, and you. Another single friend of mine once confessed to me that she had invented “an imaginary dog” that she regularly “fed leftovers from dinner” and I nodded, as if it were a completely normal thing to do. The fact is, when you’re lonely, companionship, even in seemingly insane forms, is what keeps you sane. It’s not until you have another person to witness you, say, asking your houseplants how they’re feeling today, that you get your first whiff of, “Oh, wow, that’s a little bit crazy, huh?”

Here are a few of the things that I did when I was single that I’ve surmised, due to my partner’s frequent side-eye glances, are rather strange… Keep reading »

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