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10 Ways To Make Your House Guests Love You Forever

My brother and his girlfriend are visiting me in Nashville this week, and I’m so excited (and honestly, a little nervous) to host my first real live house guests. I mean, I’ve had friends crash on my couch for a night or two at various apartments, but I’ve never really had people fly to a… More »


How To Make (Almost) Any Mom Love You

“Mona wanted me to tell you that she’d really like to spend more time with you the next time she’s in town,” Ami IM’d me the other day. Mona is her mom. “She’s, like, obsessed with you.”

“I would love to see more of your mom next time,” I wrote back. “We should… More »


12 Types Of A**holes & How To Deal With Them

Ami had a friend in college who taught her the acronym PAFU, which stands for People Are Fucked Up. At the time, she thought it was funny. More than 15 years later, she’s adopted it as her life motto. It’s the truth, people can be major assholes. Sometimes they don’t mean to be — and… More »


Courage, Risks, Yes, Go, Now: 15 Totally Necessary Life Tips From Amy Poehler (In GIFS!)

As a jobless Master’s graduate swiftly approaching 30 years old, I’ve been seeking whatever sage advice I can get (Susan Miller of Astrology Zone is my most frequent source of guidance). When Amy Poehler’s “Ask Amy” video in response to the Boston Marathon bombing went viral, I decided to perk my ears to the knowledge… More »


A Guide For Dealing With Casual Racism

I am biracial, borne of a Taiwanese mother and American father. My features are decidedly not Caucasian, but hard to pin down to one specific category, a tiny frustration that gets at the heart of humans, because subconsciously, we all live to categorize. I deal with a host of questions pertaining to my background from… More »


5 Easy Ways To “Win” Any Fight (And Feel Better About Yourself)

When I was in middle school, I was picked to become a peer mediator. At the time, I was just stoked to get out of classes for two days for program-mandated training, but it ended up being some of the most useful stuff I learned in school. The theory behind peer mediation is that kids… More »


How To Come Back From Vacation Without Being A Jerk

We all know the trope: a young college student leaves the country for the first time and then returns home acting the part of a world-weary jetsetting dilettante.

We all also know that that person is annoying.

While there’s nothing wrong with going on an awesome vacation and coming back feeling… More »


How To Move Across The Country Without Having A Nervous Breakdown

So, huge news: my boyfriend Nick and I are moving from Portland to Nashville, Tennessee! Remember when we visited last year and were totally smitten with the city? Well, our lease is up at the end of this month, and we’ve decided it’s the right time to give southern living a try. Neither of us… More »


7 Rules For Dealing With Difficult People

A few things are inevitable in life: death, taxes … and dealing with difficult people. From work to friendships to romantic relationships, difficult interactions can hit us from all angles and can take a heavy toll on us.

A few days ago, I was doing some much needed reorganizing and I found this packet… More »


16 Tips To Make Your Life Not Suck

Ladies, I’ve got some life tips. Cheat codes, even. I don’t know much about life, but what I’ve learned is that blah blah blah “Wonder Years” episode whatever. Let’s just get to it. Here’s what I have to offer… … More »


8 Ways To Handle The Holiday Blues

The bloating of Thanksgiving and the bloodshed of Black Friday are behind us, and now Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year’s celebrations are ahead of us. It’s the most joyous time of the year, right? You’re ridiculously happy and emotionally stable right now, aren’t you? Not so much? Yeah, me neither. For one thing, we’re down to… More »


5 Varyingly Effective Ways To Deal With Family Drama

Happy Holidays, everyone! You know how it goes: your brother and your dad aren’t on speaking terms. Your mom is “just concerned” that if you don’t get pregnant soon she’ll never have grandkids. Your uncle genuinely believes that a covert team of communist Kenyan hackers stole the election for Barack Obama. Oh sweet mercy, how are… More »


The Shy Girl’s Guide To Confidence

As a shy and insecure girl, I know that those traits have totally hindered me. Combined with an acute case of social anxiety, they made my adolescence and most of my college years a horrific blur of self doubt and thwarted potential – from missing out on friendships to not applying to the colleges I… More »


Watch This: Three Minutes Of Beautiful Inspiration

Feeling down? Struggling with body image issues? Stuck in a cycle of self criticism? Just generally in need of a potent dose of inspiration? Check out this video, “On Real Beauty,” a collection of gorgeous portraits paired with 10 simple, powerful pieces of advice for the beautiful, unique woman you are. [YouTube via Upworthy] … More »


Travel To-Do List: 7 Trips Every Woman Should Take In Her Lifetime

Travel is good for us. Leaving familiar surroundings pushes us out of our comfort zone, introduces us to new cultures and experiences, and allows us to view the world–and our own life–with a different perspective. Basically, any time you get a chance to travel, take it. As you check things off your travel bucket list,… More »


5 Steps To The Perfect Apology

No matter how incredibly awesome you are, sometimes you’re going to do something wrong, and people are going to get upset. That’s when you need to do this little thing called ‘apologizing’. It’s when you admit that you made a mistake and then say sorry for it. But sometimes just saying a quick ‘sorry’ isn’t… More »


Girl Talk: How Being A Control Freak Ruined My Life (And How I Learned To Let It Go)

This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.

I suppose in some ways I was destined to become a control freak. I was born into a proud dynasty of control freaks. My family is Italian, and growing up it was made very clear to… More »


5 Methods For Surviving Your Younger Sibling’s Wedding When You’re Single

This summer, my younger brother is getting married. (I would like, before going any further with this subject, to state in no uncertain terms that I very much like the young lass he’s chosen for his bride.) When he got engaged, I immediately started working on my plan for what I’d do if I were… More »


How To Negotiate: 12 Steps To Negotiate A Zillion Times Better And Get What You Want

I wasn’t always good at negotiating. As a writer, I was usually just delighted to be getting paid anything at all, so if I was told a freelance rate or a starting salary was standard or set in stone, I took it and I liked it, with the kind of deranged enthusiasm that you only… More »


21 Important Lessons From Mom

Are you ready for Mother’s Day? No? Here are a few gift ideas if you need some last-minute help! Thank you for tweeting and emailing us the lessons your mother taught you — but don’t forget to tell her this Sunday! … More »