So if we’re not all clear on the fact that I deal with sometimes-crippling anxiety as a result of PTSD yet, let’s just put that out there now. I tried to cure it by going on a big adventure, thereby exposing myself to constant emotional stimulation/isolation and it turned out to be an unsuccessful ploy that made me […]
Remember when you were in middle school and your new future BFF sort of just appeared next to you in your third period science class, and you were suddenly joined at the hip for the next five years without even realizing what was happening? Weren’t those days easy? Once we’re older and out in the […]
We’ve been thinking a lot about second chances lately: when to give them, who to give them to, and how they’re earned. Second chances are complicated, because we all want to be one of those magnanimous, forgiving souls who write inspiring essays for O magazine, but at the same time, no one wants to be a gullible […]
There comes a time in everyone’s career when you will quit your job. You will stand in your boss’s doorway, cock your head and say, “Do you have a sec?” You will quietly shut the door. You will sit down in that weird chair reserved for guests and your boss’s jacket, palms sweating, and tell […]
A few weeks before my wedding, I was in the dinnerware section of Macy’s with my friend Sam. I was talking about all the things that were wrong with my relationship, and she asked me, “Are you sure you want to do this?” My response: “At this point, I’ve put so much effort into this […]
Sometimes it feels like no matter where I go or what I do in my downtime, I can never escape the heavy weight of the “shoulds” on my shoulders. I should be getting some work done right now. I should be cleaning the apartment or paying that bill or running that errand. A frame of […]
Ever feel like your everyday life is akin to wading through molasses? Like you’re on the cusp of something great, but totally stumped on either what that thing is or when it will finally arrive, trapped in a holding pattern? Perhaps you’ve been working feverishly toward a goal, and know exactly what big changes are […]
I’m turning 30 next week and it feels like a dark cloud is descending upon me. I feel old, like my best days are behind me. How do I make this terrible feeling stop? I know getting older is scary. It can seem like your best days are behind you, like the bloom of your […]
My roommate inherited a ton of money from his parents, but every time he has to pay a utility bill or rent, I basically have to fight with him to get it. How do I break this pattern (and deal with my own working-girl resentment about his wealth)? What kind of immature monster do you […]
