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Mommie Dearest: 4 Reasons I’m Glad I Brought My Kid To Provincetown’s Carnival This Year

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It was only by happy accident that I scheduled our yearly family vacation to the outer Cape to coincide with Provincetown, Massachusett’s annual Carnival. For the uninitiated, Provincetown — or PTown, as its called — is a sweet little seaside village on the tip of Cape Cod, known for being the first place the Pilgrims landed (not Plymouth Rock, no matter what you learned in 2nd grade). In addition to its American history roots, PTown also happens to be known as “the ultimate gay and lesbian vacation destination,” with annual events like Bear Week, Women’s Week, various nightly drag shows, and of course Carnival.

Carnival is a weeklong celebration that culminates in a spectacular, some may say debaucherous, parade. Each year sees a new distinct theme and the entire town gets involved, putting floats in the parade, decorating storefronts, and promoting the theme through parties and events throughout the week. In addition, Carnival draws in over 90,000 spectators, including lots of tourists like ourselves.

This year’s Carnival theme was Comic Book Crusaders. Once I found out we’d be there the same week, I knew we had to go (especially since we end up hanging out in PTown anyway!). And it turns out that taking our family to a parade surrounded by half-naked folks and fierce, fabulous drag queens was one of the best experiences we’ve ever had together: Keep reading »

New Jersey Middle School Refuses To Let Trans Girl Come Back To Classes

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  • Thorne Middle School in Middletown, New Jersey, told a 13-year-old trans girl named Rachel Pepe that she is not allowed back in school unless she goes by her previous identity of “Brian.” [Asbury Park Press]
  • Here are seven Black women to follow for updates on the aftermath of Michael Brown’s murder in Ferguson, Missouri. [For Harriet]
  • Girls outperformed boys on New York State’s standardized math tests this year. [NYmag.com] Keep reading »

On Making The Case For Kink As A Sexual Orientation

Dominant Sex
I just want to be dominated in bed! Read More »
Submissive Sex
Newsflash: feminists are not against submissve sex. Read More »
Kinky Sex Myths
Five myths about kinky sex from "50 Shades Of Grey." Read More »
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Today on Slate.com is an excellent piece about why “kinky” should be considered a sexual orientation. Writer Jillian Keenan posits how we define a person’s sexual orientation should include what kind of energies turn a person on — dominant or submissive, for example — because for people like Keenan and myself, our sexuality is more complicated than just the gender and genitalia of the person to whom we are attracted. Keep reading »

Nebraska Won’t Recognize Driver’s License From Lesbian With Wife’s Last Name

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  • Nebraska won’t recognize a driver’s license — or more specifically, the name on a license — because the woman it belongs to, Sue Stroesser, is married to another woman and the state does not recognize same-sex marriage. Stroesser has been with her partner for 30 years. Seriously, Nebraska, do you realize how stupid you look right now?  [Omaha.com]
  • A judge ruled yesterday that an Alabama law which would have shut down three of the state’s five abortion clinics is unconstitutional. [Reuters]
  • The San Antonio Spurs have hired former WNBA player Becky Hammon as an assistant coach. Hammon will be the second woman to coach for the NBA. [Think Progress] Keep reading »

On Cosmopolitan‘s Lesbian Sex Guide: Thanks, But No Thanks

I Left Men For A Woman
leaving men for women
One woman's journey to being in a relationship with another woman. Read More »
RIP Lesbian Bars
lesbian bars
On the death of lesbian bars. Read More »
On Gays & Attraction
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Just because Shanelle is gay doesn't mean she's attracted to all women. Read More »
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Cosmopolitan, after almost 50 years of being one of the most aggressively heteronormative women’s publications from newsstand to screen, has finally decided to throw the queers a bone — specifically, 28 (ways to) bone, if you wanna get punnily Cosmo-esque — by publishing its first ever lesbian sex guide.

The NSFW slideshow up at Cosmopolitan.com has been garnering praise from mainstream media. “Finally,” said Salon.com, “Cosmo is reaching out to lesbians.” “Hurrah,” cheered Huffington Post UK. The coverage has accompanied acknowledgement of Cosmo’s recent forays into broader LGBTQ editorial content, with pieces like “8 Things Not to Say to a Transgender Person,” “14 Things You Should Never Say to a Gay Man,” and (the extremely wonderful) “My Life as an Invisible Queer.”

With wide circulation of the lesbian sex guide, Cosmo continues to ride a PR high on its perceived social progressivism. The Hollywood Gossip trilled the slideshow “will receive no criticism from any sane male OR female.”

So now, here I am, an Allegedly Crazy Female Gay, arriving right on cue to crash this positivity party. Keep reading »

PurrVerse: What It’s Really Like On A Queer Porn Set

PurrVerse: What It's Really Like On A Queer Porn Set
PurrVerse: Lesbian Porn
purrverse mean girls
On the mean girls of lesbian porn. Read More »

One of the first questions people  usually ask upon meeting me is what I do for a living. When I respond casually that I’m a production assistant on queer porn, then the questions really get going. What does a porn PA do, exactly?

I’ll tell you one thing: much to my regret, I am not a fluffer. I know, I know, it’s a great tragedy for me, too.

I dreamed of working on a porn set from when I was a teen, thumbing through copies of Club Magazine and trolling various AOL cybersex forums. I dreamed of being on NoFauxxx or SuicideGirls, and got into erotic modeling intending to take it further. But life got in the way of my exhibitionist dreams, and I didn’t revisit my love for porn until I founded the Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society, a discussion, Sunday tea, and porn appreciation gathering I threw for a few years in London. When, at 27, I started performing in adult films, I never imagined I would one day be on the other side of the camera. Keep reading »

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