How much should your family know about your sex life? Most straight people will probably say “not much,” given how our heteronormative culture just assumes most of us are screwing opposite sex partners behind closed doors. But lots of other people — I’m talking gay, bisexual, polyamorous or kinky folks — may feel like openness and acceptance of their sexuality is openness and acceptance of themselves. Yes, sexuality is very personal. But keeping info private which others happily flaunt can make a person feel like she’s keeping a big ol’ shameful secret.
Such is the conundrum of a bisexual woman married to a man who wrote to Slate’s advice columnist Dear Prudence, asking if she should “come out” to friends and family. Keep reading »
A proposed anti-discrimination ordinance in Fayetteville, Arkansas, was created to make life safer for LGBT and transgender citizens, but fellow Arkansas resident Michelle Duggar of “19 Kids And Counting” is hellbent on stopping it in its tracks. The ordinance is meant to prevent discrimination based on gender or sexual orientation when it comes to housing, employment and public accommodation, but all Duggar sees is a window for potential creeps to follow her daughters into the bathroom. Seriously. Duggar narrated a robocall against the ordinance that went out this week to Fayetteville households. You can listen to it after the jump. Keep reading »
Today on Slate.com is an excellent piece about why “kinky” should be considered a sexual orientation. Writer Jillian Keenan posits how we define a person’s sexual orientation should include what kind of energies turn a person on — dominant or submissive, for example — because for people like Keenan and myself, our sexuality is more complicated than just the gender and genitalia of the person to whom we are attracted. Keep reading »