“I’ve been approached about having mutual approval over everything to do a reality show. It’s interesting because we can talk about parenting, relationships, health—all the things that are important to me. But then I think, What if I open up and people attack us just because we’re a gay family? It scares the hell out of me….I don’t know that I am [comfortable talking openly about being gay] now, to be honest with you. The gay thing has always been hard for me. When Heidi and I are out and somebody older asks, ‘Are you sisters?’ I say, ‘We’re friends.’ I guess it comes from thinking that they will be shocked or disturbed. Look, I wish I had some strapping football player husband. It would be such a dream to be ‘normal’ like that, but I’m just not.”
Fitness guru Jillian Michaels came out as bisexual in 2011 and struggles with discrimination just like anyone else. She told Health magazine about the fears that she and her partner Heidi Rhoades face simply for being who they are and their desire to fit in. The couple has two kids together. It’ll be a happy day when her family is considered just as “normal” as any other — or better yet, when society’s obsession with normalcy fades away altogether. Keep reading »
Facebook met with a group of queer activists on Wednesday to discuss how its policy forcing members to use their legal name as printed on their driver’s license, credit card, or student ID discriminates against members of the LGBT community, and trans* people and drag queens in particular — and didn’t budge on the policy. Facebook will reinstate suspended accounts for two weeks, giving those members time to decide whether they want to change their names, convert their profiles to pages, or leave the platform, after which the company will begin to suspend accounts again. Keep reading »
There are plenty of people in the world who get nice things that they don’t (IMHO) deserve. So it’s especially nice when someone completely and utterly deserving is recognized for their greatness. I felt all the warm and fuzzies this morning when I heard on the news that the cartoonist and graphic novelist Alison Bechdel is a 2014 recipient of a MacArthur “Genius Grant,” one of the world’s most prestigious prizes. Bechdel draws the popular LGBTQ comic strip Dykes To Watch Out For and is the author/illustrator of the memoirs Are You My Mother? and Fun Home, the latter of which is one of the most esteemed books in the graphic novel genre (and a favorite of mine).
As a winner of the “Genius Grant,” which is awarded to between 20 and 40 individuals who “show exceptional merit and promise for continued and enhanced creative work,” Bechdel will receive upwards of $625,000 paid out over five years. The intention is for winners to use the prize money to continue doing their good work. Past winners have included people like “The Wire” creator David Simon, authors Chimamanda Ngozi Adihie, Junot Diaz and Edwidge Dandicat, and critic Susan Sontag.
After the jump, here are five things to know about Alison Bechdel, her cartoons and her important mark on pop culture! Keep reading »
How much should your family know about your sex life? Most straight people will probably say “not much,” given how our heteronormative culture just assumes most of us are screwing opposite sex partners behind closed doors. But lots of other people — I’m talking gay, bisexual, polyamorous or kinky folks — may feel like openness and acceptance of their sexuality is openness and acceptance of themselves. Yes, sexuality is very personal. But keeping info private which others happily flaunt can make a person feel like she’s keeping a big ol’ shameful secret.
Such is the conundrum of a bisexual woman married to a man who wrote to Slate’s advice columnist Dear Prudence, asking if she should “come out” to friends and family. Keep reading »