Moving through the world as someone who identifies as bisexual or queer, I’m always navigating difficult experiences that compartmentalize my sexuality. I’ve been labeled “indecisive” for not being more assertive in which sex I prefer to date. I’ve been called “disgusting” because my desire to date women makes some people uncomfortable or possibly more accurately, question their own sexuality. And, of course, I’ve been told that my experience is a phase that will soon become a distant memory as I evolve into heterosexuality, find the perfect man, marry and become a Quiverfull woman who embraces domesticity and leans away from my career.
But none of these experiences trouble me as much as a recent experience I had in which I, and women like me, were named sexually perverse. The U.S. Supreme Court hearing regarding California’s ban on same-sex marriage has surfaced some polemic debates on the rights of the LGBT communities. In my experience, when opponents to marriage equality aren’t being downright nasty they’re crafting negligently harmful stories that characterize same-sex loving people as menacing. We’ve all heard some of the narratives: “Gay people will convert our children,” “Giving gays the right to marry will compromise the institution of marriage,” “Gay people lack a moral compass which is why they’re okay with being gay,” and “What’s next, sex with animals?” Keep reading »
How To Be A Douche, Lesson #1: Charge a transgender woman for “trespassing” after she uses the women’s bathroom in your grocery store and ban her from shopping in your establishment for one year.
Idaho trans woman Ally Robledo is being discriminated against by Rosauers supermarket in Lewiston because she was “peeing standing up” in the women’s room. Oh, you didn’t know the way you pee could get you in trouble with the cops, did you? Keep reading »
Jared’s* question came during a sex party a few months ago, after some steamy foreplay organically led to this discussion: “Can I fuck you now?”
It caught me off guard, but not in an unpleasant way. Men had asked me this question before, and I was half expecting to decline, like I usually did. But I’d been fantasizing about having sex with him for months. This was opportunity knocking.
“It’s okay if you don’t want to,” Jared continued, directing this at both me and my husband, Paul. “But it seems like the logical next step here.”
It was. “Are you okay with that?” I asked Paul. He nodded reassuringly, excited to watch me take this new step. I smiled. “Then, yes. Let’s give it a try.”
So we did. Jared became the second man I’ve ever had intercourse with, signifying a change I never thought would come: an interest in sleeping with men. Keep reading »
Beauty pageants usually get the sideeye from The Frisky for their perpetuation of tired old beauty standards, so we are delighted to hear about Analouisa Valencia of South Carolina. Valencia, a 19-year-old singer who has been competing in pageants for over a decade, is African-American, Latina and a lesbian — and she’s gunning for the Miss South Carolina crown! She’s been out since 9th grade and in a relationship for the past three years with the same woman. If she wins Miss South Carolina, she hopes to make it all the way to Miss America. Not surprisingly, she isn’t looking for world peace but “equality for everyone.” LOVE. [Madame Noire, Huffington Post]
Last week, we uttered a collective, “UGH, ARIZONA!” over the news that the Arizona House of Representatives advanced a bill allowing businesses to ban transgender folks from using the restroom of their identified sex. So we’re heartened by this gender-identity inclusive bathroom signage, posted on Towleroad with the caption:
Given what’s happening in Arizona now, I thought this might be a good time to show off this photo, taken by my partner Dave at his doctor’s office in Manhattan.
Well done, Doctor Dave! [Towleroad]
Michigan Republican National Committee member Dave Agema didn’t get the memo. Support for LGBT equality is at an all time high, poll numbers show that gay marriage is widely accepted — especially by younger generations. OH WAIT and beyond polls and numbers the LGBT community deserves to be treated like every other American with full rights, free from stigma because that’s just a decent human thing to do. Even Agema’s own party is beginning to see the light — or at least 21 of them who asked the RMC member to resign after posting anti-gay comments on Facebook. Keep reading »
As if you needed another reason to love former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton!
Clinton just released a PSA for the Human Rights Campaign in which she comes out in full support of marriage equality for lesbians and gays:
“LGBT Americans are our colleagues, our teachers, our soldiers, our friends, our loved ones. And they are full and equal citizens and deserve the rights of citizenship. That includes marriage. That’s why I support marriage for lesbian and gay couples. I support it personally and as a matter of policy and law, embedded in a broader effort to advance equality and opportunity for LGBT Americans and all Americans.” Keep reading »