Gay-bashing can be tough work: just look at the trouble that the Florida Family Policy Council of Orlando, Florida, ran into while protesting a Miami judge’s decision to grant a lesbian couple the right to adopt a 1-year-old boy. Lesbians Vanessa Alenier and Melanie Leon (photo at right) have cared for the boy, the child of one of Alenier’s relatives, since he’d been removed from his birth parents by child welfare. And last month, Miami-Dade Circuit Judge Maria Sampedro-Iglesia ruled that a Florida state law banning the gay couple from adoption the boy was “unconstitutional,” effectively awarding them custody.
Judge Sampedro-Iglesia’s decision did not sit well with the scaremongers — they got right to work lambasting her “arrogant judicial activism” in an email alert. Unfortunately, the lesbian adoptee moms were far too femme, smiley and “straight”-looking to scare the bejeezus out of homophobes. So the FFPC (which is affiliated with Focus on the Family) did some creative illustration and cooked up a faux-lesbian duo of butch women who “look” a lot more like stereotypical lesbians (see photo left) to presumably scare everyone away from gay adoption. Because, you know, butch lesbians can’t be good parents!
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I’ve been thinking about writing this essay for a while, but I’ve been putting it off because I feel like a traitor. Since coming out, I’ve struggled with feeling like an outsider in the gay community. Now, I feel totally secure in identifying as a lesbian and when I’m hanging out with a bunch of queer chicks nothing seems amiss. But I can’t help but notice that there are a bunch of things about gay gals that most people don’t know. And, honestly, that’s because we don’t want you to know. They are guarded secrets that we don’t even talk about amongst ourselves. But, lucky for you, I’ve always sucked at keeping secrets. So here goes.
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Good news! The online dating website eHarmony will finally become more inclusive to gays and lesbians. After duking it out over a class-action lawsuit in California for two and a half years, eHarmony has agreed to be more “welcoming” to homosexuals on its site. Keep reading »
Yesterday Rosie O’Donnell appeared on “Oprah” to promote her new HBO documentary, “A Family Is a Family Is a Family,” which is about the diversity of families around the world today. In the clip above, she opens up about her split from longtime partner Kelli Carpenter, and how she thinks lesbian divorces can be different from straight ones. Keep reading »
This month, Details totally lost me as a reader with an article called “The Lure of Dating an Ex-Lesbian.” The author, Ian Daly, talks about women who date women and then hitch up with men. He eloquently calls these gals “refugees from the isle of Lesbos … hasbians.” Interestingly, Daly’s research seems to prove the opposite of what his title implies. That is, that dating a “hasbian” is terrifying. He depicts dudes who date them as scared little school boys, afraid of their penises and scared that their clumsy fingers could never navigate the female anatomy as expertly as the women they’ve seen in lesbian pornos. Later, Daly obnoxiously writes that men who are in touch with their “feminine side” are more likely to date women who are “former homosexuals.”
I’ll save you the anguish of discussing Daly’s assertion that once motorcycle-riding, tattoo-covered lesbians “soften up,” they head straight for the penis. What I really want to talk about is Daly’s assumption that sexual orientation is super rigid. Keep reading »
The other night my girlfriend and I were lying in bed and she said, “You know, sometimes I forget you’re gay. I mean, you just look so straight.”
“Crap,” I thought, “her too.” Then I rolled over so my back was to her and attempted to compose myself, to figure out how to explain, for the millionth time, that I have thought this over enough times to be fairly certain that I’m into women.
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