This month, Details totally lost me as a reader with an article called “The Lure of Dating an Ex-Lesbian.” The author, Ian Daly, talks about women who date women and then hitch up with men. He eloquently calls these gals “refugees from the isle of Lesbos … hasbians.” Interestingly, Daly’s research seems to prove the opposite of what his title implies. That is, that dating a “hasbian” is terrifying. He depicts dudes who date them as scared little school boys, afraid of their penises and scared that their clumsy fingers could never navigate the female anatomy as expertly as the women they’ve seen in lesbian pornos. Later, Daly obnoxiously writes that men who are in touch with their “feminine side” are more likely to date women who are “former homosexuals.”
I’ll save you the anguish of discussing Daly’s assertion that once motorcycle-riding, tattoo-covered lesbians “soften up,” they head straight for the penis. What I really want to talk about is Daly’s assumption that sexual orientation is super rigid. Keep reading »
The other night my girlfriend and I were lying in bed and she said, “You know, sometimes I forget you’re gay. I mean, you just look so straight.”
“Crap,” I thought, “her too.” Then I rolled over so my back was to her and attempted to compose myself, to figure out how to explain, for the millionth time, that I have thought this over enough times to be fairly certain that I’m into women.
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On Monday, Mexico City’s legislature voted 39 to 20 in favor of legalizing same-sex marriage and adoption. So happy holidays, everyone, there’s now another place gay couples can go to tie the knot. [CNN]
Honestly, the whole debate over this in the U.S. is almost funny to me. New York and California say no—but Iowa says it’s cool?! Our country is really behind the times on this one. Surprise! We aren’t a big, happy mecca of progress and equality after all. After the jump, a few places around the world where same-sex couples can say “I do” legally. And some of them pretty surprising. Keep reading »
Me and the holidays—we don’t really get along. During Christmas, New Year’s and Hanukkah (yeah, I celebrate that, too), I eat too much, drink too much and become way too poor from buying everyone presents and taking time off work. Then there’s the family. I’m really tight with my parents, grandmother and sister. But that’s about it. I don’t see much of my extended family—the aunts, uncles, cousins, you know. Oh yeah, and I’ve never come out to any of them. Awkward, much? You bet.
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Starting next fall, Columbia University in New York City will institute a “gender neutral” housing policy for everyone but freshman. This means guys and gals can share a room. Gasp! Which means that hetero couples might decide to live together and … wait for it … have sex! Yes, this is a big concern for some people, especially of the parental variety. As if drunken, horny, stressed-out 20-somethings packed together on a small campus haven’t been doin’ it for decades. For real, though, there are a lot of reasons why this is a good thing. After the jump, why “gender neutral” housing makes everything a little more equal. Keep reading »
There are a lot of misconceptions about lesbians. I’m confronted with them daily and, frankly, hearing this stuff is like getting smacked in the face with a wet rag. Usually, when someone fires off a stereotype, I am so shocked that I just stand there, staring, opening and closing my mouth like a big, dumb goldfish. So I’m going to take this opportunity to get up on my soapbox and stamp out all the stupid, ignorant misconceptions I have heard over the years. Hopefully, next time I hear one of these things I can eloquently explain why it’s untrue rather than just stammering, “What!? Jerk!” Keep reading »
Meredith Baxter, the mom from ’80s sitcom “Family Ties,” came out
as a lesbian this morning on the “Today” show after Perez Hilton posted a picture of her yesterday nuzzling her girlfriend. “I did not want some tabloid to take the story and make it up — I wanted it to be in my own words,” the notoriously private Baxter told Matt Lauer. After three marriages and five children, she started dating women seven years ago and has been with the same woman for the last four years. She says of her public coming-out: “This is a political act, even though that’s not what it feels like to me,” she said. “If anyone knows someone who’s gay or lesbian … they’re less likely to vote against them to take away their rights. I can be that lesbian you know now …” Clip above. [via MSNBC
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I’m not a lesbian. But, I do have lots of lezzie friends who have complained about the lack of gay online dating options. Now, Velvetpark Media has launched a lesbian dating website called Velvetpark Mate. Writes site editor Grace Moon: “[We are] the first lesbo dating site … because we are NOT an affiliate program, or an ‘out of the box’ 3rd party package with a lesbian label slapped on it, NOR are we an afterthought of a male dominated media company, or the unwanted stepchild of a straight date site.” Keep reading »