Starting next fall, Columbia University in New York City will institute a “gender neutral” housing policy for everyone but freshman. This means guys and gals can share a room. Gasp! Which means that hetero couples might decide to live together and … wait for it … have sex! Yes, this is a big concern for some people, especially of the parental variety. As if drunken, horny, stressed-out 20-somethings packed together on a small campus haven’t been doin’ it for decades. For real, though, there are a lot of reasons why this is a good thing. After the jump, why “gender neutral” housing makes everything a little more equal. Keep reading »
There are a lot of misconceptions about lesbians. I’m confronted with them daily and, frankly, hearing this stuff is like getting smacked in the face with a wet rag. Usually, when someone fires off a stereotype, I am so shocked that I just stand there, staring, opening and closing my mouth like a big, dumb goldfish. So I’m going to take this opportunity to get up on my soapbox and stamp out all the stupid, ignorant misconceptions I have heard over the years. Hopefully, next time I hear one of these things I can eloquently explain why it’s untrue rather than just stammering, “What!? Jerk!” Keep reading »
I’m not a lesbian. But, I do have lots of lezzie friends who have complained about the lack of gay online dating options. Now, Velvetpark Media has launched a lesbian dating website called Velvetpark Mate. Writes site editor Grace Moon: “[We are] the first lesbo dating site … because we are NOT an affiliate program, or an ‘out of the box’ 3rd party package with a lesbian label slapped on it, NOR are we an afterthought of a male dominated media company, or the unwanted stepchild of a straight date site.” Keep reading »
There’s this stereotype that if you are gay, the answer to all your problems is skipping off to a big city where you can live an open and free life in an accepting environment. The sentiment isn’t always worded this blatantly, but it’s out there. Usually, when people find out I’m a lesbian they say something like, “Oh, well, at least you live in New York City.” Keep reading »
I am several years away from even considering having children, and yet, sometimes I find myself thinking that if I do ever have a daughter, I kind of hope she’s a lesbian. Now, bear with me—obviously, I’ll be thrilled with whoever my daughter turns out to be. But if she’s a lesbian, she’ll be much less likely to be pressured into sex when she’s young and she won’t have to worry about getting pregnant before she’s ready. She’ll be much less likely to ever get an STD, and since more than half of rapes are of the “date” variety, that becomes much less of a concern. Not to mention the fact that she won’t have to spend nearly as much time as I do decoding the opposite gender’s mind. And, apparently, she’ll also be a better mom. Yep, the director of the U.K.’s National Academy for Parenting Practitioners said today that his research shows that the children of lesbian couples tend to be better adjusted than those of straight couples. “Lesbians make better parents than a man and a woman,” he says. Why would this be? Easy. Because for a lesbian couple to have a baby, it takes serious planning and action—there are no accidents. Kind of interesting, no? [Telegraph] Keep reading »
I am currently seeing this really great girl. She’s smart, sweet and really fun to be around. We agree on a lot of things. We both hate the death penalty, love pizza and enjoy hanging out—sometimes illegally—on rooftops overlooking New York City. There is one thing, however, that we just can’t see eye-to-eye on. It’s not, as you would think, what to do on Saturday or where to have dinner or which baseball team is the best. Surprisingly, the issue that we butt heads on the hardest is gay marriage.
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