In a piece published yesterday in the Huffington Post, DapperQ Managing Editor, Anita Dolce Vita, does a bang up job of explaining why, not only is telling a gay woman “she’s too pretty to be a lesbian” or “you shouldn’t have a hard time finding a boyfriend” or “you don’t look like a lesbian” NOT a compliment (as some men seem to believe), but an insulting form of homophobia. “Most people who spew such nonsense expect me to delight in their backhanded praise and are surprised when I inform them that telling someone that she is too pretty to be a lesbian is actually not a compliment,” she writes. “Believing that there is a point on some arbitrary scale at which a woman is too attractive to be gay is based on the assumption that heterosexual women are inherently better-looking, and that’s just plain homophobic.” Keep reading »
Aww! This week’s cover of The New Yorker gives a big shoutout to moms who don’t get enough props on the cover of mainstream magazines on Mother’s Day: same-sex moms. Biracial lesbian moms, specifically. Because moms of all types cry over their Mother’s Day cards. [The New Yorker]
Fox News, what a bunch of bozos. Jessica Valenti, founding editor of Feministing, noticed something curious about the photo accompanying an article on FoxNews.com about “traditional gender roles.” Further research confirmed that the couple getting married in the photo (presumably who Fox News felt represented traditional gender roles in a marriage) was not that of a man and a woman, but two women. Lela McArthur and Stephanie Figarelle were married in Anchorage, Alaska, on February 14, 2012, and their photo — shot by the Associated Press — had previously been used in a Huffington Post story on romance around the world. Fox News removed the photo from their story as soon as they realized their “error.” [Jessica Valenti]
This video had me tearing up: here’s NBA star Kenneth Faried of the Denver Nuggets and his two moms, Waudda and Carol. They talk about how they’ve been a couple for 11 years, have supported each other through health scares, and how special it was for them to marry. Faried and his two moms filmed the PSA on behalf of One Colorado, an advocacy group for lesbian and gay rights. Colorado is advancing a civil unions bill through the state legislature as we speak, which Kenneth Faried supports. Not only is he handsome and talented, but he’s got his heart in the right place, too. [YouTube; Huffington Post]
Remember that awful Kevin James movie “I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry,” in which James and pal Adam Sandler pretend to be gay so they can get health benefits? So funny, right? So many stupid, atrocious gay stereotypes. Well, now it seems that lesbians have become equal opportunity comedy fodder. Sara Rue — who I loved so much in “Popular” — has penned a new show in which two roommates must pretend to be a lesbian couple in order to score a sweet apartment.
Called “Poseurs,” Rue will star as Lucy, a young woman whose fiance moves out just as her unstable college roommate Alex needs a place to live. Of course, Lucy’s co-op building doesn’t allow roommates, so Lucy and Alex hatch a plan to pretend to be lesbian lovers. As you do. Wacky hijinks ensue. Keep reading »