There’s this stereotype that if you are gay, the answer to all your problems is skipping off to a big city where you can live an open and free life in an accepting environment. The sentiment isn’t always worded this blatantly, but it’s out there. Usually, when people find out I’m a lesbian they say something like, “Oh, well, at least you live in New York City.”

I am several years away from even considering having children, and yet, sometimes I find myself thinking that if I do ever have a daughter, I kind of hope she’s a lesbian. Now, bear with me—obviously, I’ll be thrilled with whoever my daughter turns out to be. But if she’s a lesbian, she’ll be much less likely to be pressured into sex when she’s young and she won’t have to worry about getting pregnant before she’s ready. She’ll be much less likely to ever get an STD, and since more than half of rapes are of the “date” variety, that becomes much less of a concern. Not to mention the fact that she won’t have to spend nearly as much time as I do decoding the opposite gender’s mind. And, apparently, she’ll also be a better mom. Yep, the director of the U.K.‘s National Academy for Parenting Practitioners said today that his research shows that the children of lesbian couples tend to be better adjusted than those of straight couples. “Lesbians make better parents than a man and a woman,” he says. Why would this be? Easy. Because for a lesbian couple to have a baby, it takes serious planning and action—there are no accidents. Kind of interesting, no? [Telegraph]

I am currently seeing this really great girl. She’s smart, sweet and really fun to be around. We agree on a lot of things. We both hate the death penalty, love pizza and enjoy hanging out—sometimes illegally—on rooftops overlooking New York City. There is one thing, however, that we just can’t see eye-to-eye on. It’s not, as you would think, what to do on Saturday or where to have dinner or which baseball team is the best. Surprisingly, the issue that we butt heads on the hardest is gay marriage.

I was recently in the car with a friend of mine, discussing my girlfriend and, I’ll admit, I was talking about my sex life. I don’t remember exactly what I said but I know it contained the phrase, “Then we had sex.” At this point my friend, a dude, took it upon himself to inform me that, “Lesbians can’t have sex.”

Rather than jam a tube of lipstick in his eye, I said, “Lesbians absolutely have sex.” We spent the rest of the car ride arguing about this, my friend repeatedly telling me to look up of the definition of sex in the dictionary. He was sure, he said, that it would contain the word “penis.”

I am probably not alone in thinking that “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” is one of the suckiest pieces of legislation ever. The 1994 policy essentially says that peeps who are openly gay can’t serve in the military. That said, if you’re gay and don’t mind keeping it a secret, then by all means serve your country. Interestingly, a new report shows that “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” is even suckier for lesbians than it is for gay men. In the army, 36 percent of the soldiers fired last year for playing for the same-sex team were women. That doesn’t sound huge—until you remember that only 14 percent of soldiers are women. Similarly, in the Air Force, 56 women were dismissed last year for being lesbos while 34 gay men got the boot. Barack Obama, can you get on this issue, please? We know you got the Peace Prize, but you still got a lot of work to do! [CNN]

I was watching an episode of “South Park” the other night. One of the characters, Mrs. Garrison, was fed up with men and decided to become a lesbian. At first, she had a hard time imagining what sex between two lesbians looked like. Other characters in the episode had a hard time imagining it, too. Each of them just said, “Well, maybe they just scissor or something …” before trailing off. Maybe they just scissor or something? What?

In our exclusive, much-talked-about interview with screenwriter Diablo Cody, Cody discussed a buzz-generating scene in her latest flick, “Jennifer’s Body,” in which Megan Fox and Amanda Seyfried make out. “They’re beautiful girls, the scene is hot—I’m not afraid to say that,” she asserted. So, is it really hot or not? Here’s the video evidence, so you can judge for yourself. “I know when I was a teenaged girl,” Cody says, “the friendships that I had with other girls were almost romantic, they were so intense.” Apparently, this is only the beginning of the scene, but it’s pretty steamy. [Egotastic]

“Guiding Light,” TV’s longest running soap opera, will air its final episode on Sept. 8, thanks to bleak ratings. Still, like all soap operas, “GL” has its die-hard fans, many of whom have been obsessed with the storyline surrounding “Olivia” and “Natalia,” two suburban moms played by Crystal Chappell and Jessica Leccia. “Otalia,” as they’re known—soap opera fans started making up hybrid names long before “Bennifer” and “Brangelina”—are the soap’s first and only gay couple. They have never shared a romantic kiss on screen, likely because the conservative company Procter & Gamble, which produces the show for CBS, won’t allow it. Chappell says she was so sad about letting the character and the storyline go that she pushed to have it brought over to “As The World Turns,” another CBS soap, or onto the web. Procter & Gamble refused, so Chappell has taken matters into her own hands.

“I know, I know. It’s hard to hurt her, but I kind of feel she’s frequently hoisted on whatever she’s told to be. I still think she could have had the best relationship of her life with that roommate. That, by the way, is probably not the first time that happened to Joan. I realized that at the end of that first season. I’ve heard from many fans that they have no leanings that way but could probably not keep their hands off her.”

—“Mad Men” creator Matthew Weiner on Joan Holloway’s lesbian/bicurious fans [NJ.com via RKB]

In South Africa, lesbians have it tough. There’s a whole category of heinous crimes there known as “corrective rape,” where power trippin’ men who rape lesbians to turn them straight or just to punish them for their preferences. Corrective rapes happen all the time, yet only 31 cases have been reported since 1998. Why? Because women don’t trust the system and don’t want to out themselves. Of those 31 reported cases, two have made it to trial and there has been just one measly conviction. But hopefully, that sad number is about to double. On Wednesday, three a-holes who raped openly gay football sportswoman, Eudy Simelane, will go to trial and the outcome of the case will send a very strong message—hopefully in the right direction.

When my boyfriend IM’d me something called “Swedish Lesbians Suck Sperm Banks Dry,” I initially thought he was just horny. But, lo and behold, it’s actually an article about how more lesbian couples in Sweden are using donor sperm from fertility clinics for artificial inseminations. In fact, one Swedish hospital reported an 18-month backlog for baby juice! In a roundabout way, the spike in lesbians at sperm banks is good news: Swedish law changed in 2005 to allow gay women the right to fertility treatments at the country’s hospitals. Though The Register calls this the “problem” contributing to the backlog, we think reproductive justice is awesome. Whip out your Playboys, Swedish dudes. Lesbians of Sweden who want to be mommies need you! [The Register UK]

Phyliss Navidad, Barry Morse, and Eric Mueller hit up the Outfest 2009 27th Annual Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Film Festival’s opening night gala film “LA MISSION.” [7/9/09]

In what must surely be the slowest of news days, the Daily Mail brings us an article today shedding light on the “disturbing” trend of girls kissing girls. Perhaps you’ve heard of this before? According to the article, same-sex kisses among teen girls has practically become a rite of passage ever since that shared kiss between Madonna and Britney Spears at the 2003 MTV Video Awards. “More than anything, the kiss gave the veneer of acceptance to what would previously have been considered unacceptably risque public behavior, and made a particular type of lipstick lesbianism almost fashionable.” Funny, I went to college years before that infamous kiss and girl-on-girl smoochin’ was “an almost fashionable rite of passage” back then.

Guys who go on and on and on about lady-love are so annoying. They’re lesbians, dude—they’re NOT going to be into you. The latest annoyance? “Girl Gotta Girlfriend” by the rappers Mams Taylor, Snoop Dogg and Bobby Valentino (listen above!), about a man with a girlfriend who tries to bring home a second woman for the night.  Aren’t these lyrics touching?

“My girlfriend kissing on her girlfriend / They getting real naughty/ My money is cool, but I’d rather have you and my girlfriend running around my crib naked.”

The lesbian blog AfterEllen.com flipped ‘em a big gay bird, saying:

“Lesbians: We are just here for your pleasure. Do you have money and some champagne and a hotel room? Just tell us where and when!”

Yawn, enough with songs by heterosexual dudes about how great it would be to bang two women at once. There’s plenty of songs out there about real girl/girl relationships by Ani DiFranco, t.A.T.u, Jill Sobule, Le Tigre and a bunch of others. And a few fun ones by Lady GaGa and Katy Perry. Go cuddle up with your gal pal and take a listen.

Socialite Casey Johnson and her crew of friends have been known for starting public scandals and feuds. Recently, Casey’s ex-girlfriend, Courtenay Semel, viciously beat her and set fire to her hair. As the heir to the Johnson & Johnson fortune and daughter of New York Jets owner Robert Wood “Woody” Johnson, Casey has led a very privileged life that doesn’t seem to include much more than spending money, engaging in girl fights and partying.

Last night on “Grey’s Anatomy” we finally got to see how ABC execs decided to cut out Erica Hahn (Brooke Smith) and her lesbian love storyline. There was much backlash and gossip regarding the unfair decision to give Erica the boot because people and network execurives seemed “uncomfortable” with her same sex relationship.  The news leaked that she was getting the ax right before the episode aired.  So how did they do it?  More details after the jump.

Last week, we looked at the über-emotional post-coital scene between new lesbians Dr. Callie Torres (Sara Ramirez) and Dr. Erica Hahn (Brooke Smith) on “Grey’s Anatomy.” Their good sex isn’t going to last very long, though. Dr. Hahn is leaving Seattle Grace this Thursday.