State Representative Maureen Walsh was one of only two Washington state republicans to break rank and vote in favor of the marriage equality bill, which passed. When the governor signs the legislation into law, as she has stated her intention to do, it will legalize gay marriage in Washington. In this video, choking back tears, Maureen Walsh explains why she voted for fairness: she has a gay daughter. Walsh describes the bond she had with her late husband and the experience of her daughter coming out of the closet a couple years ago: “She’s a fabulous human being, and she’s met a person that she loves very much, and someday, by God, I want to throw a wedding for that kid.” You know the old cliche, “Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes?” Here is a real life example of just how powerful that shaky voice can be. [YouTube via The Atlantic]
Washington state’s House of Representatives voted yesterday to legalize same-sex marriage, which will make Washington the seventh state in the country to allow lesbians and gays to marry their partners. Gay marriage is already legal in New York, Washington, D.C., Massachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, Iowa, and New Hampshire. Both Starbucks and Microsoft, which are based out of Washington, supported the bill and Starbucks even sent a letter to their 150,000 employees asking them to support gay marriage. Governor Chris Gregoire has vowed to sign the legislation into law next week and it will go into effect 90 days later, which will be in June. Keep reading »
“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay and gay is better.’ They tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people, it’s not, but for me, it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not. … Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and I didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”
– Cynthia Nixon from “Sex and the City” explained her midlife change to lesbianism in this weekend’s New York Times Magazine. Cynthia had been in a relationship with a man for years, with whom she had two children, and after they split, she got into a relationship with a woman, with whom she has had another child through the help of a sperm donor. I guess I don’t understand why people are so obsessed with putting labels on other people’s sex lives (and yes, I am thinking back to the Girl Talk essay we ran recently about a lesbian who enjoys sex with men). Sexuality is a spectrum and it’s complicated and it’s never going to fit into neat and tidy little boxes; people who obsess about who gets to call themselves what are just wasting everyone’s time. I also love what Cynthia said about not letting other people try to “define my gayness for me.” She’s so smart, strong, kickass and awesome. Cynthia Nixon is the kind of celebrity that you wish celebrities in general were more like. [NY Times Magazine]
For 10 years, I struggled with my sexual orientation and what to call it. I searched for labels that seemed to fit me best — bisexual, lesbian, fluid, queer? I had been with my first girlfriend for over two years, but still didn’t identify as gay because I continued to be attracted to men.
When I started dating men again at the age of 26, I wasn’t really falling for any them. One night, while I was having sex with a new guy for the first time, I burst out into tears because I realized I was a lesbian.
It wasn’t the intercourse itself that made me come to this realization, it was that being with a man emotionally and physically didn’t feel right. I wasn’t emotionally capable of loving a man. I had feelings of lust, even romantic attraction to the guys I dated, but I never felt that magic spark that bring couples together. Keep reading »
We’re still reeling from “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” cast member Brandi Glanville’s drunken Vegas wedding to Darin Harvey this past weekend (and the bizarre tweets that followed). But wait, there’s more. Demi Moore, that is. According to the National Enquirer, Brandi had a romp with Demi Moore back in 2009 while on vacay at Bruce Willis’ estate on Turks & Caicos. Keep reading »