Minnesota teacher Kristen Ostendorf is out of a job right now because she’s a lesbian. After 18 years at Totino-Grace High School, during which she kept her sexuality secret, the 43-year-old teacher came out last month in a workshop with her fellow teachers about how to make one’s mark in Catholic social justice. “I tried to figure out how I could encourage others to ‘make their mark’ if I was willing to be part of a community where I was required to hide and compromise and deny who I am,” she told the Minneapolis Post.
So, Ostendorf told her colleagues: “I’m gay, I’m in a relationship with a woman, and I’m happy.” Keep reading »
Lily Tomlin has been in one of the longest Hollywood relationships ever. No, like EVER. She’s been with girlfriend Jane Wagner for 42 years. FORTY-TWO YEARS. And up until now, they haven’t been legally allowed to be married. Britney was married to her first husband for a handful of hours, but yeah, no, gotta preserve the sanctity of marriage. Read more at Evil Beet Gossip…
I had to say goodbye to one of the most intrinsic parts of my life this last year. It was something that was there on my darkest days, my most celebrated moments and during nearly every major life event. It was there when I took repeated shots of courage and came out to my dad, the first, second and 10th time I got my heart broken, and when I met what’s-her-name, my first one-night stand. When all else felt bleak, and I wanted to feel surrounded by friends, I would head to my local lesbian bar, T’s in Chicago’s Andersonville neighborhood, and patronize a place that had become like my second home.
Most recently it served as the place where I held my 30th birthday party, where we closed it down only to discover that it would not be reopening again the next day. Imagine it as Cheers: less a few gentlemen with more armband tattoos and a constant loop of “The Real L Word” reruns playing on huge flat screens and there you have it, the local lesbian bar that can be found in cities across the country. Now, still thinking of a place where everybody knows your name, take away the physical bar and there goes the sense of community, the place to socialize, the place to make mistakes, the place you felt most comfortable being yourself. Keep reading »
When I read the Thought Catalog post “20 Fictional Men I Would Never Sleep With,” I thought Chloe Angyal was on to something. So many pop culture icons are glorified as romantic figures, but in real life would be completely undateable. Rhett Butler was a rapist. Romeo was only 13. And Edward Cullen from “Twilight” … well, do I really need to rehash that one?
It got me thinking about 20 fictional ladies that I would never want to sleep with … Keep reading »
Short hair, she don’t care.
Say what you want, but Miley Cyrus is brushing off any and all gay rumors after famously chopping off her locks in favor of her now-famous (albeit a little butch)blonde pixie cut.
“Everyone said I was a lesbian [after doing it] but I’m like, ‘Being a lesbian isn’t a bad thing. So if you think I look like I’m a lesbian, I’m not offended. You can call me much worse,’” she says in an interview with Toronto Sun. “I’ve been called much worse. Being a lesbian is a compliment more than what else they call me.” Read more on Celebuzz…
A 26-year-old woman in South Africa named Duduzile Zozo was raped and murdered because she is a lesbian. Zozo’s body was found in a yard near her home on June 29 with part of a toilet brush in her vagina. She was yet another victim of “corrective rape,” or the erroneous idea that a homosexual woman can be made straight by raping her. The South African government released a statement last week condemning the violence and offering condolences to Zozo’s family, with the reminder:
“The Bill of Rights of our Constitution recognises and guarantees equality. This fundamental right enjoins South Africans not to discriminate against anyone on several grounds, including gender, sex and sexual orientation.”
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On Wednesday afternoon, the president of Exodus International, one of the largest “ex-gay” organizations in the world, issued an apology to the LGBT community. “I cannot apologize for my beliefs about marriage,” Exodus President Alan Chamber wrote in a sincerely worded letter. “But I do not have any desire to fight you on your beliefs or the rights that you seek. My beliefs about these things will never again interfere with God’s command to love my neighbor as I love myself.” Hours later, Chambers announced that Exodus would be closing its doors permanently, after 37 years in operation. I felt two distinct reactions to this news: relief for LGBT people who have felt attacked and abused by the social and political messages perpetuated by Exodus, and hope for what this change means for both gay and “ex-gay” people alike.
I have some first-hand experience with Exodus – not as a participant, but as an observer. In November 2007, I attended the organization’s North Atlantic Regional Conference in upstate New York. At the time, I was producing a short documentary film, “Just As I Am,” which explored the “ex-gay” movement through two opposing perspectives: an active Exodus ministry leader, and an ex-”ex-gay” minister who belonged to Exodus in the 1980s. BK, the ministry leader, was going to the conference to lead the music during the worship services, so she brought me along. Keep reading »