“I’m really attracted to you, you know?” I sat in the middle of an Italian restaurant, frozen in disbelief at this audacious declaration. I sipped some wine and awkwardly laughed, my cheeks growing redder by the minute. Waiters and waitresses drifted past. I nibbled a tiramisu and drank another glass of rosé. But all I could think was, I’m really attracted to you, too.
On the surface, this sounds like a typical first date: a guy takes you out to dinner and says he finds you attractive; you flirt back and wonder if he’s going to kiss you goodnight; you’re nervous and jittery; you try to be funny while carefully maintaining that mysterious façade that originally peaked his interest.
Except that this wasn’t a typical date, at least for me.: I was actually out to dinner with a woman. And all I thought about the entire time was how badly I wanted to kiss her. Keep reading »
This June, the Supreme Court ruled that the Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional in a case called Windsor v. United States. The woman behind the nation-changing lawsuit is Edith Windsor, an 84-year-old lesbian whose spouse, Thea Spyer, died in 2009. The women got engaged in 1967 and Edie wore a circular brooch with diamonds, so that coworkers and neighbors would not know they were a couple. For 40 years they stayed engaged, finally marrying in Canada in 2007. After Thea died, Edie was hit with $600,000 in taxes, because her U.S. government did not recognize her same-sex marriage as valid. By ruling DOMA unconstitutional, the Supreme Court affirmed the right of gay couples to have their marriages recognized on the federal level. As a runner-up for TIME magazine’s Person Of The Year distinction, here Edith speaks with TIME about the depth of her relationship with Thea and hiding their sexuality from anyone but their closest friends for decades. “There’s some legitimacy that we never knew we were lacking,” Edith said about getting married. “If you really care about the quality of someone’s life as much as you care about as your own, you have it made.” What a sweet and lovely woman. Edith, you’re my person of the year. [TIME]
“It’s interesting how much people long to fill in the gaps when someone in the public eye doesn’t share their personal life. I understand their frustration. I like how people will post pictures of me with other women that I adore, hugging on red carpets, and say, ‘See?’ Are we so uncomfortable with love between two people of the same gender that we immediately label it as sexual? But I’ve never been bothered by the lesbian rumor. There’s nothing offensive about it, so there’s no reason to be offended.
“Scandal” star Kerry Washington is notoriously private about her personal life. She married in secret in June and has not publicly commented on the rumor, according to Us Weekly, that she is pregnant with her first child. And, she notes on the Advocate‘s blog, people are all too happy to speculate that because she isn’t showing off her man all around town, it must mean she must be a lesbian. Being a lesbian is fine, of course, but don’t people realize there’s more than one reason a celebrity might ask for privacy?
After the jump, here’s Washington on reaching African-Americans about issues facing gay couples through “Scandal,” as well as the similarities between ‘passing’ as white and being in the closet: Keep reading »
Idaho won’t screen the film that took the top prize in Cannes this year, because SEX.
“Blue Is The Warmest Color,” a French film starring Lea Seydoux about teenaged lesbians, won this year’s Palme d’Or at Cannes. But the film Cannes-not (see what I did there?) play at the Idaho state’s only arthouse movie theater in Boise due to its NC-17 rating. The theater’s liquor license prohibits the theater from screening movies which — to quote directly from the Idaho state code — contain:
“[A]cts or simulated acts of sexual intercourse, masturbation, sodomy, bestiality, oral copulation, flagellation or any sexual acts which are prohibited by law … [and ]any person being touched, caressed or fondled on the breast, buttocks, anus or genitals.” Keep reading »
Kaitlyn Hunt, a lesbian teen in Florida who was charged with having sexual relations with a minor after her younger girlfriend’s parents objected to their consensual relationship, has entered a plea deal which will require jail time for four months. Hunt, who dated her 14-year-old girlfriend while she was 18, will also have two years of house arrest with electronic monitoring and nine months of monitored probation.
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“Well, get this. This girl from Jersey City has a knife in her boot. I pulled it out and said, ‘I’ll cut your dick off.’ You know what he did? He laughed at me.”
“Lost”‘s Michelle Rodriguez opened up to Entertainment Weekly about when she was 22 and a producer “pinned her against the wall and grabbed her between the legs.” Sadly, this kind of sexual abuse — particularly in the form of ‘casting couch’ perviness — is all too common for women in Hollywood. But after pulling a knife on him, that producer never bothered Rodriguez again.
Rodriguez also revealed for the first time publicly that she’s bisexual: Keep reading »
Charlie Sheen isn’t even on “Two and a Half Men” anymore, but his legacy continues— his legacy of womanizing, that is. I am referring to the newest “Two” character, played by Amber Tamblyn, Charlie Harper’s daughter who — wait for it — is also a womanizer.
Sure, it’s a sign of progress that an actress will play a lesbian on one of the country’s most mainstream of mainstream of shows. (Although I’m scratching my head as to why Tamblyn, who acts in abortion rights PSAs and edits the poetry section of BUST magazine, would join the cast.) But it’s just a little bit frustrating that as Charlie Harper’s kid, Tamblyn’s character Jenny is basically serving as a female stand-in for her womanizing father. There was a hole for a tomcat and they plugged it up with a lesbian character. Keep reading »