I first heard the word “labiaplasty” three years ago. Immediately, my interest was piqued. My unruly butterfly wings—otherwise known as my labia—interfered with my sexual activities. Riding a bike for more than 15 minutes? Painful. Camel toe? Obvious. Intercourse? Lube did little to relieve all that smooshing, pulling, stretching, especially when condoms were involved.

And then there were the unsolicited anatomical editorials that I’d received over the years, ranging from the respectfully observant, “You’re very floral,” to the horrifying, “Damn, girl. You got a fat p***y!,” to the complimentary, “Actually, I like it full and lippy ... That’s my thing.”

“I have seriously huge labia and I am way concerned that guys will think my vagina is ugly. Am I being ridiculous?”—Labia Majorly Majora, San Francisco, CA

Yes you are!

Labia majora (the technical name) vary greatly from woman to woman. No two vaginas are alike…which means there are tons of women out there with big labia, small labia, and somewhere in between. Whatever kind you have, rest assured that you are not abnormal.