Posts tagged "kinky"

A Guide To Doing Anal With Your Boyfriend

As a professional dominatrix, and an all-around kinky lady, I love anal play. Your bum can play a delightful role in all sorts of fun, from a casual roll in the hay to the darkest, kinkiest scene ever. Sadly, homophobia and traditional sexual values mean that relatively few straight men consider asking to receive anal.

Margaret Corvid / September 11, 2014

On Making The Case For Kink As A Sexual Orientation

Today on Slate.com is an excellent piece about why “kinky” should be considered a sexual orientation. Writer Jillian Keenan posits how we define a person’s sexual orientation should include what kind of energies turn a person on — dominant or submissive, for example — because for people like Keenan and myself, our sexuality is more…

Jessica Wakeman / August 18, 2014

Sometimes I Wish I Hadn’t Written So Much About Sex

A few months ago, Amelia and I were talking about rape threats against women who write online. It seems like it happens to feminist writers Zerlina Maxwell, Amanda Hess and Jessica Valenti every day. Amelia asked if any readers have threatened to rape or otherwise harm me. The honest truth is that it only happened…

Jessica Wakeman / July 29, 2014

Fetish Fitness With A Dominatrix Takes “No Pain, No Gain” Literally (NSFW)

For some fitness-conscious submissives in Australia, working out is synonymous with getting off thanks to dominatrix/personal trainer Mistress Anna. The Sydney dom coaches kinksters who work out in collars and gimp masks, ordering pushups to kiss her black latex  high heels and administering a spank when necessary. She even finds ways to incorporate kinky toy…

Jessica Wakeman / June 27, 2014

My Strange First Day Working In An Erotic Massage Parlor

I was not impressed at all with the lack of notice for my first appointment.
I barely had time to rush back to the little basement dressing room, change into shoes that weren’t completely ratty and gross, and gather my nerves before I got the text message from “Marjorie” informing me that my client wa…

The Gloss / November 4, 2013

Ranking Cosmopolitan’s “12 Kinky Quickies” Sex Moves On A Scale Of 1 – 4 Handcuffs

Couples who engage in kink in the bedroom are happier and more secure in their relationships, according to a study cited in the October issue of Cosmopolitan. Girl, you don’t have to tell me this! BDSM sex, when it is safe, sane and consensual, is pretty amazing for all partners.

But hold u…

Jessica Wakeman / September 20, 2013

Study: 50 Shades Of Grey “Perpetuates” Abusive Relationships

50 Shades Of Grey is still a thing people are talking about, I guess?  But the latest news isn’t casting rumors for the big screen adaption of E.L. James’ kinky sex trilogy — it’s a pearl-clutching new study that warns 50 Shades “perpetuates” abusive relationships.

The Journal of Women’s Health published a study…

Jessica Wakeman / August 15, 2013

The Soapbox: On Abuse Within Kink (Or This One Time Some Really Bad Stuff Happened To Me)

Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested i…

Jessica Wakeman / March 14, 2013

Rihanna Spotted Getting Kinky With Women In Sex Club

It’s no secret that Rihanna really loves her strippers and her desire to touch them often gets her in trouble (She was once kicked out of a club)
The “Stay” singer recently hit up a sex club in Toronto where she came dressed to role play and almost got into a fight with another woman.

Hello Beautiful / March 10, 2013

The Soapbox: BDSM Is Not “Consensual Domestic Violence”

I don’t want to write this post.

I really don’t want to write this post.

I really don’t want to write this post because all the ways that Slate columnist/link-baiter William Saletan is wrong about BDSM are so numerous and so glaringly inaccurate that I have half a mind not to…

Jessica Wakeman / March 6, 2013

6 Ways The New York Times (Of All Places) Got It Right About Kinky Sex

The New York Times Style section has gotten the memo: 50 Shades Of Grey is a book the ladies be readin’. Cue interviews with various and sundry New Yorkers who are involved in the kink scene, from sexual submissives to fire players. Actually, this article was written by a friend of mine named

Jessica Wakeman / February 28, 2013

9 Sex Toys To Try This Valentine’s Day

We all know from Cupid and Hallmark and Victoria’s Secret that Valentine’s Day is supposed to be the sexiest, sultriest, panty-droppingest day in existence.
We also know that’s not actually going to happen.
But you can try, can’t you? Your partner probably isn’t going to turn into Christian/Christina Grey for the night. But that doesn’t mean you…

Jessica Wakeman / February 7, 2013

Fetishes 101: All The Basics About Having A Sexual Fetish Or Paraphilia

“I have a shopping fetish!”

“I have a total fetish for caramel-covered popcorn — it’s my favorite snack!”

“She watches the Kardashians’ shows because she has a weird Kim fetish. She’s wants to dress like her so badly.”

You’ve probably heard a comment like this at least once a…

Jessica Wakeman / January 18, 2013

Modern Love Tackles One Woman’s Spanking Fetish

The New York Times Style section usually emits more groans from me than cheers. Remember that piece about how bangs are “in”? And how women wear dresses? So I was ecstatic this week to see the Modern Love essay is by Jillian Keenan, a woman with a spanking fetish who is struggling to come out…

Jessica Wakeman / November 9, 2012

True Story: I Can Be A Kinky Feminist & A Messy Human Being

A few years ago ….

Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago — I don’t even call him…

Clarisse Thorn / November 2, 2012

Target Selling “American Horror Story” Rubber Man Suit This Halloween

If someone showed up at my apartment one night in the Rubber Man suit from “American Horror Story,” I would be thrilled for a kinky night of fun with Zachary Quinto or Evan Peters.  But if that night is October 31st, it’s just some fucking trick-or-treater who shopped at Target this Halloween. BUZZKILL. But, hey, the…

Jessica Wakeman / September 25, 2012

Frisky Q&A: Phone Sex Operator Sabrina Morgan Talks Kinky Sex, Dirty Talk Tips & Melon Humpers

Be honest: “For A Good Time, Call …” has made you just a tiny bit curious about what it’s like to work a phone sex line. Is it just pervs who call up and pant into the phone before hanging up?  Are all the women who do it just paying their way through grad school?

Jessica Wakeman / September 6, 2012

NOFX’s Fat Mike Talks His BDSM Lifestyle, Persecution For Being Kinky

“I haven’t always been open but I always felt lucky that there was something in my life that I felt passionate about. I think most people don’t feel that way about sex. But yeah, I’ve had a dungeon in my house for the past 20 years. … Both me and my girlfriend [who is a dominatrix]…

Jessica Wakeman / July 31, 2012

Hotel Replaces Bedside Bibles With “50 Shades Of Grey”

Christian Grey is damn near God-like — at least according to guests’ bedside tables in The Damson Dene Hotel. Bibles have been booted and E L James’ BDSM erotica novel 50 Shades of Grey has taken their place in every room within the English inn. Damson Dene’s owner said providing a copy of the book to every…

Daley Quinn / July 25, 2012
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