One NYC-branch of sex shop Toys In Babeland is (wisely) capitalizing on the new “mommy porn” 50 Shades Of Grey craze with cocktail party classes teaching Kinky Sex 101. The open-to-the-public classes will be free; the first 25 kinkster guests will go home with a Christian Grey-approved goody bag: a paddle, necktie, satin bondage kit, edible spanking powder (?!), and vibrating nipple clamps. (Yes, really.) Private classes are being held for more exclusive folks; the NYC-based blog Gothamist seems to think Jennifer Connelly and Paul Bettany are attending. Oh, be still, my heart.
It’s silly that Toys In Babeland have to call this a “50 Shades” class instead of what it is — bondage/dominance/sadomasochism, or BDSM — but I guess too many people think a little kink in the bedroom is freaky. But whatever. I’ve already RSVPed and enlisted two girlfriends to come with. [Gothamist]
Let’s be honest: sex is not always the softly focused oxytocin bath that Cosmopolitan magazine spreads make it out to be. Sometimes sex is a romp on dirty sheets with a grabby guy who’s got terrible body odor and zero condoms.
But hey, bad sex is still sex. And if you are horny as we are at The Frisky, you’ll take the bull by the horns anyway because you know there’s a way to troubleshoot most any sexual snaffoo. I am not a sex therapist, but I am a woman who’s has wide variety of sex with a decent number of dudes and have encountered all these problems. (For more in-depth sexual troubleshooting, I recommend the kickass sex guide, Guide To Getting It On.)
After the jump, a thorough, honest (and heteronormative, cause I’m a straight lady who sleeps with dudes) guide to troubleshooting bad sex.
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Are you ladies more kinky than you’re admitting? Considering the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, the erotica book burning the laps of lady readers across the country, I’m guessing you gals might be a tad kink-curious. Of course, there is a difference between reading about kinky sex and actually doing it– but both can be hot. Why not give those fantasies a whirl in the bedroom?
Being a vanilla girl who is curious about BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) can be intimidating. You’re probably conjuring images of dog collars, dungeons and leather-clad man who calls himself Master DragonBallz. Fret not, there are ways for a normal gal to try this stuff out with her partner in the comfort of her own bedroom. No dungeon necessary. Click through for some tips on how to dip a perfectly manicured toe into the dark waters of BDSM. And remember, you can use your safe word at anytime during this slideshow.
It was the toot heard ’round the television: Nancy Grace let one rip on “Dancing With The Stars” and she’s been trying to live down the mockery ever since. It is not all public humiliation, though Nancy has attracted the attention of a little known fetish website of “flatulophiliacs,” aka “fart fanatics.” We had no idea fart fetishists existed. Jo Merlone, marketing director for the web site Clips4Sale.com, penned a letter to “Dancing With The Stars” requesting the rights for three seconds of footage of Nancy’s famed fart. “In case you weren’t aware,” Jo Merlone implored, “this is a very popular niche online and we know just how many of Nancy’s fans would love to relieve the moment in the privacy of their own homes via our web site. Passing gas is as natural as breathing and our members are waiting with baited breath.” Oh my. Don’t keep the fart fetishists waiting, ABC — that would just be cruel. [BuzzFeed]
Flatulophilia isn’t the only fetish that caught us off guard — after the jump, here’s 10 more crazy sexual practices that came as a surprise.
I’ve been off and on various online dating sites for, oh, four years now. By far, the stupidest part of online dating is the utter futility of most of the things one could say about oneself and how unimportant they can be. For instance, I’m a brunette who loves to read and has a sweet tooth. Same goes for probably three million other single women. Even personality qualities — loyal and generous, demanding and impatient — don’t mean much until you’re in the thick of it with someone. I’ve resigned myself to the fact that most guys probably check out my photos to see if I’m hot, scan my profile to see if I sound crazy, and if I pass both checkpoints, they message me something like, “hey u whatz up babe.” (And then I delete them.) In other words, it probably doesn’t matter to the majority of men if I say I’m a brunette or my hair is highlighted, or any of a number of other things, so long as I’m not obviously a psycho troll.
But there’s one thing personality trait, if you will, that I’ve advertised because I really do think it is important and I do want men to know about it. And perhaps unsurprisingly, it attracts a fair amount of attention from guys: I tell them that I’m kinky. Keep reading »
Somehow the best description and the worst characterization of a spanking fetish occurred in the same article on Salon.com in a piece by Frisky contributer Anna David called “The Joy of Spanking.”
First, the best description of a spanking fetish, as described by a man who has one. While at a spanking party in New York City’s West Village, she talks to Gary, who explains how spanking is a need, not a want, and vanilla sex just isn’t an option: “I really like vanilla ice cream, but I like it as part of a banana split; without the nuts and the chocolate sauce and the whipped cream and the banana, I’m bored.”
And now, for the worst. Well, read the article. Keep reading »
How kinky is your state? Holla, Midwest! Whatchu been up to in the boudoir? Do share. [Animal New York]
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The LA Times takes a closer look at “bordello chic,” the latest trend in interior design that is sexing up businesses and nightclubs on the Left Coast. At club Voyeur, the chairs are all SM-themed, with lace-up corsets, leather straps, and restraint harnesses. Taking a nod from old-fashioned men’s clubs and bordellos, the look is a mix of upscale old-school and 21st century bondage chic. According to one designer, Lori Erenberg, this kinky impulse is a reflection of the economic climate. “I think this look is very timely, because there’s a lot of pain going on right now,” Erenberg opines. At the L.A. outpost of the racy lingerie-and-adult-goods shop Coco de Mer, customers try on undergarments in a “confessional” booth-cum-dressing room. Designer Aimee Less, who designed the Corset chair seen here, says her piece “evokes both pleasure and pain, freedom and enslavement.” Sounds interesting, but how comfortable it is depends on the kinks of the sitter. [LA Times] Keep reading »
At Erotica 2009 in London, a woman walks the convention floor with her compliant male friend. [Uncoached] Keep reading »
Earlier this week our own Dr. V told us about seven surprising sexual fetishes that perhaps we hadn’t heard about before. A robot fetish, balloons, sneezing? Well, OK. If she says so — whatever floats people’s boats! Then a few days later I was flipping through this week’s Time Out New York and read about yet another odd fetish in the sex column, Get Naked. I’m beginning to wonder if people actually sit around thinking of the strangest fetishes they can imagine with the sole purpose of seeing them end up in some sex advice column they can pass around to all their friends. Because, honestly, I can’t imagine the fetish described in this letter is, like, real. Check it out after the jump.
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