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5 Myths About Kinky Sex From “50 Shades Of Grey”

As someone who has identified as kinky for over a decade, both professionally and personally, I have to admit I was absolutely appalled when the 50 Shades trilogy first hit the mainstream. I read all three books, and as I read some of the myths and stereotypes, I had to do some deep breathing.

I couldn’t help thinking, “These are… More »


NOFX’s Fat Mike Talks His BDSM Lifestyle, Persecution For Being Kinky

“I haven’t always been open but I always felt lucky that there was something in my life that I felt passionate about. I think most people don’t feel that way about sex. But yeah, I’ve had a dungeon in my house for the past 20 years. … Both me and my girlfriend [who is a dominatrix]… More »


Hotel Replaces Bedside Bibles With “50 Shades Of Grey”

Christian Grey is damn near God-like — at least according to guests’ bedside tables in The Damson Dene Hotel. Bibles have been booted and E L James’ BDSM erotica novel 50 Shades of Grey has taken their place in every room within the English inn. Damson Dene’s owner said providing a copy of the book to every… More »


The Soapbox: Misunderstanding “50 Shades” & Kink Is Hurting Those Of Us Who Practice

I haven’t exactly kept it a secret around here the way that I’m sexually wired. For the most part, though, the only person whose opinion matters on the subject is my sexual partner. (And any roommates who have to listen to occasional smacking.) Yet, every so often, BDSM — that’s bondage, dominance, sadomasochism — pops… More »


First Time For Everything: A Spanking Party

“Call me in one hour and tell me your boyfriend dumped you,” I told my girl friend as we stood outside the movie theater where we had just seen “Magic Mike.” “If the party’s weird and I want to leave, I’ll say ‘Oh my God, are you okay? I’ll come meet you!’ Got it?”
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8 Ways To Be Positive You’re Sex Positive

Here in the land of lady blogs, most of us believe that sex and exploring your sexuality is a great thing. “Sex positive” is the go-to term for this, which is the philosophy that all consensual expressions of sexuality are good and healthy. Sex positivity also includes advocating for sex education and safer sex. Sounds… More »


FL Library Removes “50 Shades Of Grey” From Shelves

50 Shades Of Grey may well be one of the worst-written books ever. But being a blight on the face of literature isn’t the reason Brevard County Public Library in Florida pulled the BDSM erotica novel from shelves: they called 50 Shades “pornography.” But Brevard County is not consistent in what they consider “pornographic” and what… More »


Now You Can Learn Spanking, Kink In Actual “50 Shades Of Grey” Classes

One NYC-branch of sex shop Toys In Babeland is (wisely) capitalizing on the new “mommy porn” 50 Shades Of Grey craze with cocktail party classes teaching Kinky Sex 101. The open-to-the-public classes will be free; the first 25 kinkster guests will go home with a Christian Grey-approved goody bag: a paddle, necktie, satin bondage kit, edible… More »


A Handy Dandy Guide To Troubleshooting Bad Sex

Let’s be honest: sex is not always the softly focused oxytocin bath that Cosmopolitan magazine spreads make it out to be. Sometimes sex is a romp on dirty sheets with a grabby guy who’s got terrible body odor and zero condoms.

But hey, bad sex is still sex. And if you are horny as we… More »


7 Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls

Are you ladies more kinky than you’re admitting? Considering the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, the erotica book burning the laps of lady readers across the country, I’m guessing you gals might be a tad kink-curious. Of course, there is a difference between reading about kinky sex and actually doing it– but both can be… More »


Nancy Grace’s Fart Turns On “Flatulophiliacs” & 10 More Crazy Sexual Practices We’re Totally Unaware Of

It was the toot heard ’round the television: Nancy Grace let one rip on “Dancing With The Stars” and she’s been trying to live down the mockery ever since. It is not all public humiliation, though Nancy has attracted the attention of a little known fetish website of “flatulophiliacs,” aka “fart fanatics.” We had no… More »


Girl Talk: Just Because I’m Kinky Doesn’t Mean I’m Easy

I’ve been off and on various online dating sites for, oh, four years now. By far, the stupidest part of online dating is the utter futility of most of the things one could say about oneself and how unimportant they can be. For instance, I’m a brunette who loves to read and has a sweet… More »


A Woman Walks Into A Spanking Party And …

Somehow the best description and the worst characterization of a spanking fetish occurred in the same article on Salon.com in a piece by Frisky contributer Anna David called “The Joy of Spanking.”

First, the best description of a spanking fetish, as described by a man who has one. While at a spanking party… More »


How Kinky Is Your State?

How kinky is your state? Holla, Midwest! Whatchu been up to in the boudoir? Do share. [Animal New York]
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In 2010, Bordello Chic Is The New Home Decor Trend

The LA Times takes a closer look at “bordello chic,” the latest trend in interior design that is sexing up businesses and nightclubs on the Left Coast. At club Voyeur, the chairs are all SM-themed, with lace-up corsets, leather straps, and restraint harnesses. Taking a nod from old-fashioned men’s clubs and bordellos, the look is… More »


You’re A Good Boy, Aren’t You?

At Erotica 2009 in London, a woman walks the convention floor with her compliant male friend. [Uncoached] … More »


Career Move Or Really Weird Sexual Fetish?

Earlier this week our own Dr. V told us about seven surprising sexual fetishes that perhaps we hadn’t heard about before. A robot fetish, balloons, sneezing? Well, OK. If she says so — whatever floats people’s boats! Then a few days later I was flipping through this week’s Time Out New York and read about… More »


Doin’ It With Dr. V: 7 Surprising Fetishes

We all have hot buttons that love to get pushed. Like watching a good movie your new beau picked out, a new sexual partner has the potential to show you something that you love, that you never would have found on your own. Of course, we all agree, getting naked heats things up, but there’s… More »


First Time For Everything: Rough Sex

I thought I’d had “rough sex” before; I’d been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands over my head. That hurt, and I cried, and I liked it, because I’m submissive like that, but it was just a one-time thing. I’d… More »


Internet Porn Is The Best Sex Ed A Teen Could Have

Woe betide the sexual being who has a kinky fetish but doesn’t have internet access. You could waste years of your life—decades, even!—fretting that you’re the only sick f*** who likes her wrists handcuffed to the bedposts during sex. But with a few clicks of the mouse, anyone can get the lowdown via internet porn:… More »