Posts tagged "kink"

The Soapbox: BDSM Is Not “Consensual Domestic Violence”

I don't want to write this post. I really don't want to write this post. I really don't want to write this post because all the ways that Slate columnist/link-baiter William Saletan is wrong about BDSM are so numerous and so glaringly inaccurate that I have half a mind not to dignify it…
By: Jessica Wakeman / March 6, 2013

6 Ways The New York Times (Of All Places) Got It Right About Kinky Sex

The New York Times Style section has gotten the memo: 50 Shades Of Grey is a book the ladies be readin'. Cue interviews with various and sundry New Yorkers who are involved in the kink scene, from sexual submissives to fire players. Actually, this article was written by a…
By: Jessica Wakeman / February 28, 2013

9 Sex Toys To Try This Valentine’s Day

We all know from Cupid and Hallmark and Victoria's Secret that Valentine's Day is supposed to be the sexiest, sultriest, panty-droppingest day in existence. We also know that's not actually going to happen. But you can try, can't you? Your partner probably isn't going to turn into Christian/Christina Grey for the night. But that doesn't mean you…
By: Jessica Wakeman / February 7, 2013

The 6 Geekiest Sex Toys Ever

We live in the sexiest time ever. For most of history, condoms were hollowed-out sheep guts, "getting lucky" meant not contracting a plague, and the more insane religions insisted that even masturbation was a sin (despite the fact that jerking off is the literal fucking definition of "enjoying yourself without bothering anyone else"). Any god…
By: Cracked / January 30, 2013

Girl Talk: What I Learned At An Orgy

I didn’t physically prepare for my first orgy. My husband and I talked about boundaries and asked the friends who invited us about party etiquette. But I didn’t put much thought into what I looked like because I wasn’t planning to do a whole lot. I wanted to meet people, maybe kiss and fondle a…
By: Amanda Goldberg / January 24, 2013

Watch The Trailer For “Kink,” James Franco’s Documentary About BDSM Porn

When he wasn't otherwise occupied writing poems about the president, James Franco has been busily producing a documentary about Kink.com, the premiere web site for BDSM porn. "Kink," which is debuting now at the Sundance Film Festival, explores the production company that runs Kink.com and their film shoots i…
By: Jessica Wakeman / January 22, 2013

Fetishes 101: All The Basics About Having A Sexual Fetish Or Paraphilia

"I have a shopping fetish!" "I have a total fetish for caramel-covered popcorn — it's my favorite snack!" "She watches the Kardashians' shows because she has a weird Kim fetish. She's wants to dress like her so badly." You've probably heard a comment like this at least once a week your…
By: Jessica Wakeman / January 18, 2013

Gina The Chimp Only Wants To Watch Porn (And Us Humans Are Rather Fond Of It As Well)

Sometimes I feel bad about wild animals enclosed in zoos. But I feel slightly less bad for Gina, a chimpanzee at the Seville Zoo in Spain, who spends her days watching porn on TV. Gina's TV has lots of different channels, but the only ones that this frisky primate watches are the ones rated "adult…
By: Jessica Wakeman / January 15, 2013

Yes, Master! Harvard Students Now Have A BDSM Sex Club

They have the best and the brightest in the country and now they have a bondage, dominance and sadomasochism club, too. Harvard University students are in the early stages of convening an official campus club — like, say, the school paper or the French club — centered around a shared interest in BDSM kink, like…
By: Jessica Wakeman / December 7, 2012

A “Real” Vampire Talks About Drinking Blood, The “Twilight” Films

Pardon my ignorance, but I was not aware that there were people who called themselves vampires. Even being A Person Who Is On The Internet All The Time, this had eluded me. But alas, Movies.com has found the "Twilight" interview to end all "Twilight" interviews: a man named John Reason who lives in East Texa…
By: Jessica Wakeman / November 21, 2012

Modern Love Tackles One Woman’s Spanking Fetish

The New York Times Style section usually emits more groans from me than cheers. Remember that piece about how bangs are "in"? And how women wear dresses? So I was ecstatic this week to see the Modern Love essay is by Jillian Keenan, a woman with a spanking fetish…
By: Jessica Wakeman / November 9, 2012

True Story: I Can Be A Kinky Feminist & A Messy Human Being

A few years ago .... Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago — I don't even call him this time,…
By: Clarisse Thorn / November 2, 2012

Frisky Q&A: Phone Sex Operator Sabrina Morgan Talks Kinky Sex, Dirty Talk Tips & Melon Humpers

Be honest: "For A Good Time, Call ..." has made you just a tiny bit curious about what it's like to work a phone sex line. Is it just pervs who call up and pant into the phone before hanging up?  Are all the women who do it…
By: Jessica Wakeman / September 6, 2012

5 Myths About Kinky Sex From “50 Shades Of Grey”

As someone who has identified as kinky for over a decade, both professionally and personally, I have to admit I was absolutely appalled when the 50 Shades trilogy first hit the mainstream. I read all three books, and as I read some of the myths and stereotypes, I had to do some deep breathing. I couldn't help thinking,…
By: YourTango.com / August 11, 2012

NOFX’s Fat Mike Talks His BDSM Lifestyle, Persecution For Being Kinky

"I haven’t always been open but I always felt lucky that there was something in my life that I felt passionate about. I think most people don’t feel that way about sex. But yeah, I've had a dungeon in my house for the past 20 years. ... Both me and my girlfriend [who is a dominatrix]…
By: Jessica Wakeman / July 31, 2012

Hotel Replaces Bedside Bibles With “50 Shades Of Grey”

Christian Grey is damn near God-like — at least according to guests’ bedside tables in The Damson Dene Hotel. Bibles have been booted and E L James’ BDSM erotica novel 50 Shades of Grey has taken their place in every room within the English inn. Damson Dene's owner said providing a copy of the book to every…
By: Daley Quinn / July 25, 2012

The Soapbox: Misunderstanding “50 Shades” & Kink Is Hurting Those Of Us Who Practice

I haven't exactly kept it a secret around here the way that I'm sexually wired. For the most part, though, the only person whose opinion matters on the subject is my sexual partner. (And any roommates who have to listen to occasional smacking.) Yet, every so often, BDSM —…
By: Jessica Wakeman / July 5, 2012

First Time For Everything: A Spanking Party

"Call me in one hour and tell me your boyfriend dumped you," I told my girl friend as we stood outside the movie theater where we had just seen "Magic Mike." "If the party's weird and I want to leave, I'll say 'Oh my God, are you okay? I'll come meet you!' Got it?" "Sure…
By: Jessica Wakeman / July 3, 2012

8 Ways To Be Positive You’re Sex Positive

Here in the land of lady blogs, most of us believe that sex and exploring your sexuality is a great thing. “Sex positive” is the go-to term for this, which is the philosophy that all consensual expressions of sexuality are good and healthy. Sex positivity also includes advocating for sex education and safer sex. Sound…
By: Rachel White / May 9, 2012

FL Library Removes “50 Shades Of Grey” From Shelves

50 Shades Of Grey may well be one of the worst-written books ever. But being a blight on the face of literature isn't the reason Brevard County Public Library in Florida pulled the BDSM erotica novel from shelves: they called 50 Shades "pornography." But Brevard County is not consistent in what they consider "pornographic" and…
By: Jessica Wakeman / May 7, 2012