Posts tagged "kink"

“Fifty Shades” Has Turned Into A Real-Life Sexual Assault

The kink community’s warnings about “Fifty Shades of Grey”’s poor demonstration of what consent looks like in BDSM has turned out not to just be paranoid speculation: A student at the University of Illinois at Chicago, Mohammad Hossain, has been charged with sexual assault following an incident in which he claimed to be “re-enacting scene…

By: Rebecca Vipond Brink / February 24, 2015

50 Shits Of Crap: A Professional Dominant Excoriates The Worst Movie Of All Time

I knew that I was going to have to watch “Fifty Shades of Grey” eventually, it was just an issue of watching in a way that would be, you know, tolerable. And it occurred to me pretty quickly last week: One of my very best friends in the world is a veteran professional and recreational…

By: Rebecca Vipond Brink / February 17, 2015

Frisky Q&A: Joanna Angel Talks About The Evolution Of BDSM, Safe Words & Her New Sex Toy Line

Joanna Angel is the queen of alt pornography. With hot pink streaks through her raven hair and a petite frame adorned with colorful tattoos, the Brooklyn native “punk princess” of porn created her production company, Burning Angel, shortly after graduating from Rutgers University with degrees in literature and film. This time of year, Joanna i…

By: Sophie Saint Thomas / January 23, 2015

Representation In Porn, Or A Lack Thereof, And Why It Matters

Have you ever wondered what racial representation looks like in porn versus the United States population? Well, I have.
I get tired of conventional porn sometimes, and I want to see porn with women especially, but people in general, who aren’t going “ooohnnnn ooohhhhhnnn ohhhhhnnn” like seals throughout the movie, or who aren’t skinny,…

By: Rebecca Vipond Brink / December 18, 2014

How Fifty Shades Of Grey Made BDSM Go Mainstream

In a Sunday interview with The Guardian, Jamie Dornan informed the world that there will be exactly zero penis shots in “50 Shades Of Grey.” Or to use the actor’s parlance, Dornan’s “todger” won’t appear. The news struck fans with shock rivaled only by the realization that the pinot is running low: What good i…

By: Huffington Post Women / November 7, 2014

A Guide To Doing Anal With Your Boyfriend

As a professional dominatrix, and an all-around kinky lady, I love anal play. Your bum can play a delightful role in all sorts of fun, from a casual roll in the hay to the darkest, kinkiest scene ever. Sadly, homophobia and traditional sexual values mean that relatively few straight men consider asking to receive anal.

By: Margaret Corvid / September 11, 2014

Here’s A New Trailer For “Kink,” James Franco’s Documentary About BDSM Porn

“Kink,” a documentary about the porn web site Kink.com, debuted in January at the Sundance Film Festival. Yesterday, the film, which explores the largest BDSM online porn empire, released a new trailer in anticipation of a limited release. I’ve heard complaints about the film — it’s “boring” (which is unfortunately always something that some kinky…

By: Jessica Wakeman / August 21, 2014

On Making The Case For Kink As A Sexual Orientation

Today on Slate.com is an excellent piece about why “kinky” should be considered a sexual orientation. Writer Jillian Keenan posits how we define a person’s sexual orientation should include what kind of energies turn a person on — dominant or submissive, for example — because for people like Keenan and myself, our sexuality is more…

By: Jessica Wakeman / August 18, 2014

Sometimes I Wish I Hadn’t Written So Much About Sex

A few months ago, Amelia and I were talking about rape threats against women who write online. It seems like it happens to feminist writers Zerlina Maxwell, Amanda Hess and Jessica Valenti every day. Amelia asked if any readers have threatened to rape or otherwise harm me. The honest truth is that it only happened…

By: Jessica Wakeman / July 29, 2014

Fetish Fitness With A Dominatrix Takes “No Pain, No Gain” Literally (NSFW)

For some fitness-conscious submissives in Australia, working out is synonymous with getting off thanks to dominatrix/personal trainer Mistress Anna. The Sydney dom coaches kinksters who work out in collars and gimp masks, ordering pushups to kiss her black latex  high heels and administering a spank when necessary. She even finds ways to incorporate kinky toy…

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 27, 2014

Lingerie Fashion Week: FYI By Dani Read

Are you a siren in the sack? Dani Read’s lingerie aims to empower women with luxury lingerie for the kinkiest of games. We couldn’t resist the hand-painted florals paired with bold leather details featured at this years Lingerie Fashion Week.

Keep clicking to check out the entire erotic collection and follow The Frisky Instagram to see runway photos!

By: Sophie Leon / February 23, 2014

The Most Ridiculous Assumptions People Make About Being Kinky

Let’s set the scene: I’m 23, drinking chai in a charming coffee shop. Sitting across from me is a gloriously burly guy in a leather jacket (and, as I know from his Fetlife photos, also in possession of two equally glorious full sleeves of serpent tattoos).

Then the conversation veers from what we…

By: Molly Ren / February 6, 2014

My Strange First Day Working In An Erotic Massage Parlor

I was not impressed at all with the lack of notice for my first appointment.

I barely had time to rush back to the little basement dressing room, change into shoes that weren’t completely ratty and gross, and gather my nerves before I got the text message from “Marjorie” informing me that my…

By: The Gloss / November 4, 2013

Everything Joe & Melissa Gorga Might Want To Know About Actual Dominant/Submissive Relationships, But Are Too Afraid To Ask

It’s difficult to walk away from an episode of “Real Housewives of New Jersey” without thinking to oneself, “Every single one of these women needs massive amounts of therapy” … yet we do it in a way that keeps us TiVoing their table-flipping drama week after week. But a new book published by Melissa Gorga, called Love

By: Jessica Wakeman / September 25, 2013

Ranking Cosmopolitan‘s “12 Kinky Quickies” Sex Moves On A Scale Of 1 – 4 Handcuffs

Couples who engage in kink in the bedroom are happier and more secure in their relationships, according to a study cited in the October issue of Cosmopolitan. Girl, you don’t have to tell me this! BDSM sex, when it is safe, sane and consensual, is pretty amazing for all partners.

But hold u…

By: Jessica Wakeman / September 20, 2013

Study: 50 Shades Of Grey “Perpetuates” Abusive Relationships

50 Shades Of Grey is still a thing people are talking about, I guess?  But the latest news isn’t casting rumors for the big screen adaption of E.L. James’ kinky sex trilogy — it’s a pearl-clutching new study that warns 50 Shades “perpetuates” abusive relationships.

The Journal of Women’s Health published a study…

By: Jessica Wakeman / August 15, 2013

Our Biggest Regrets About College Sex

College! It’s all about exposure to new ideas, learning skills for your future career, and, oh yeah, ceaseless romantic floundering. After high school, higher education is likely the last time you will be around so many people of your own age all the time. Who could blame you for sleeping with some a few many…

By: Jessica Wakeman / August 10, 2013

The Soapbox: Feminism Deserves Better Than “Sex-Negative Vs. Sex-Positive”

As a feminist, kinky person and sex commentator, I am the target audience for Jillian Horowitz’s xoJane essay “I’m a Sex-Negative Feminist” — and that’s exactly the point. Part of the site’s “Unpopular Opinion” series, I can only surmise that the essay, like others before it, was written largely with the intention of…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / July 11, 2013

Radical Feminist Interview On Thought Catalog Takes Potshot At Sex-Positive Feminism & Kink, Questions Consent

Last night, I was reading a piece on the blog Thought Catalog in which writer Marie Calloway interviewed two young women about the current state of “radical feminism.” I read it not only because feminism is my beat, but also because the current understanding that I have in my mind about radical feminism is based…

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 27, 2013

The Soapbox: On Abuse Within Kink (Or This One Time Some Really Bad Stuff Happened To Me)

Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested i…

By: Jessica Wakeman / March 14, 2013
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