Trying to maintain two careers, visual art and music, and to be a mother at the same time, always felt kind of impossible. When you’re feeling that you can and should do everything, then you never feel like you’re going to achieve anything. I think what kept me going was this deep understanding that it wasn’t going to be perfect, and that it didn’t have to be.
God, I love Kim Gordon. The ex-Sonic Youth band member has a piece up at Dame magazine (excerpted from a new book called Mistakes I Made At Work) about the lessons she’s learned as her career and personal life have evolved from artist to bad member to mother to solo artist, sometimes doing all at once. The “having it all” discussion/debate has frustrated me because it all too often sets women up for failure or at least feeling like they’ve failed. But as Kim suggests, if you cut yourself a break and accept that imperfection is a part of life, you have a much better shot at achieving at and having maybe not it all but all that really matters. Check out Gordon’s full essay at the link — and check out the book too, looks cool! [Dame Magazine]
A few months ago, in an interview with ELLE, Sonic Youth’s Kim Gordon discussed, amongst other things, the breakup of her 30-year-long marriage to bandmate Thurston Moore, after she discovered he was carrying on “a double life” with a “starstruck woman.” That woman, Eva Prinz, is still Moore’s girlfriend, and he addressed their relationship in an interview with The Fly earlier this week. “I’m in a really romantic place with Eva; we’ve kinda been a couple for close to six years,” he said, as if having a multi-year-long extramarital affair is, like, a meet-cute. “A lot of those years nobody was very aware of it except us. The cat’s been out of the bag a while now, that’s kinda where I’m at.”
As Tom Hawking at Flavorwire points out, by Moore’s own timeline, he would have been cheated on Kim with Prinz back in 2007, when he and Kim posed for Bust‘s Love issue. Moore and Prinz would have also been carrying on their affair around the time that Prinz gave birth to some Dutch prince’s kid. Talk about a beautiful story to tell the grandkids! Keep reading »
In my experience, breakup music can go two ways: there’s the soft, sad, slow, wallowing type, and then there’s the upbeat and/or aggressive type that makes you feel like you’ve got the world by the balls, and fuck him, anyway. Personally, I usually begin with the former and progress to the latter over time, once I feel like I’ve gotten all of the tears and self-pity out of the way and I’m ready to move on to not giving a fuck. And you know what’s the best music for making you feel like you just don’t give a fuck? Yeah, it’s probably gonna be rap. But don’t just take it from me — impossibly rad rock star Kim Gordon, who split from her Sonic Youth bandmate Thurston Moore in late 2011 after 30 years together, knows that hip-hop, or what she calls “Traumatized Good Times Tunes,” are kind of the panacea for heartbreak and that gross, creeping “oh my god I feel so sorry for myself I could die” feeling. Gordon revealed her personal playlist and, no surprise here, it’s pretty legit, featuring tracks by Joey Bada$$, Boss, and Gang Starr, and the obligatory Iggy Azalea guilty pleasure. Check it out. We recommend. [Refinery29]
Yesterday, Jezebel revealed that they had maybe probably discovered the identity of the “other woman” in the breakup of Thurston Moore and Kim Gordon’s marriage. According to the piece, Eva Prinz, 34, has been married twice and is believed to still be married to her second husband, with whom she allegedly has an open marriage. Moore and Gordon, members of the now defunct band Sonic Youth, were together for 30 years before splitting in late 2011. In an interview with Elle, Gordon said that they split because Moore, in the midst of a “midlife crisis,” was carrying on an affair with a “starstruck woman” that she declined to name. Jezebel has identified that woman as Prinz, an art book editor (bearing a striking resemblance to Emily VanCamp in this photo, BTW) who met Moore when she commissioned him to write a book about mixtapes in 2005. The details Gordon gave in her Elle interview do match Jezebel’s profile of Prinz, so while there’s no firm confirmation, yeah, looks like she’s probably the woman, as Jezebel put it, “who broke up Kim Gordon and Thurston Moore.”
Except I wouldn’t put it that way. Because, in my view, the only people who could break up Moore and Gordon’s marriage are Moore and Gordon. In this case, going by Gordon’s account (as Moore has chosen not to share his), Moore broke his wedding vows and refused to end his affair, so Gordon ended the marriage. That Prinz was — allegedly! — the third party involved still doesn’t make her responsible.
I speak from experience. Keep reading »
“Women make natural anarchists and revolutionaries, because they’ve always been second-class citizens, kinda having had to claw their way up. I mean, who made up all the rules in the culture? Men—white male corporate society. So why wouldn’t a woman want to rebel against that?”
–Former Sonic Youth member and sometimes-fashion designer Kim Gordon, on why women excel at fighting against oppression. Here, she’s speaking directly about imprisoned Russian feminist activists Pussy Riot, but I think this quote kind of applies to all of us, no? Also, her daughter Coco (with soon-to-be-ex-husband Thurston Moore) is a freshman in college. My, we’re old. [Elle]
Sonic Youth’s Kim Gordon is pretty much the godmother of post-punk, and one of the coolest and most stylish women around. So when we heard that she’d be collaborating on a fashion collection with chic French retailer Surface to Air, we couldn’t wait to see it. Kim’s designs don’t disappoint. What does: their outrageous prices. Better start putting your pennies aside now. [Definitive Touch]