Posts tagged "judy mcguire"

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Get Played

The biggest, baddest, most terrifying part of falling in love is opening up and letting yourself be vulnerable. When it works, love can seem like the stuff of fairytales: you meet someone, you get to know and like each other, you enter into a mutually trusting and respectful relationship, you fall deeply, madly, hopelessly i…

By: Judy McGuire / January 29, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Discuss Love

Between the Internet, blogging, and social networking, the concept of courtship can seem pretty antiquated. Depending on how Web-present you are, with the push of a button a guy could potentially access everything from your videotaped colonic to your SAT scores to mortifying details of your most recent heartbreak. All this before you’ve even met…

By: Judy McGuire / January 22, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Five Ways Not To Argue

I never trust couples that claim they don’t fight. I don’t believe them, and even if they aren’t lying, who wants to be with a guy who agrees with everything you say? How boring would that be? The best part of being in a relationship is exposing yourself to new ideas and ways of thinking.

By: Judy McGuire / January 15, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Relationship Anxieties To Quit Worrying About

A good friend of mine recently reminded me of some advice I’d given her back in college. She was about to sleep with a new boyfriend for the first time and had been fretting about some body part. Apparently I shrugged and told her, “Please—boys are just happy to have a naked girl in the…

By: Judy McGuire / January 8, 2009

Frisky Hate Mail: Women Man Haters Who Love Lamborghinis

We get a lot of mail from readers, some insanely flattering, some helpful (thanks for doing a little free copy-editing for us, guys!), and plenty of nasty hate mail. With that in mind, we’re going to post some of the best reader mail we get from time to time, because we totally appreciate that you

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / January 7, 2009

How To NOT Date A Criminal

Women who fall in love with and sometimes marry psychotic killers — like Richard Ramirez (the Night Stalker) or Ted Bundy — have always fascinated me. I mean, why? Sure, people do tend to have types, but “big-schnozzed manorexic” is a far cry from “slitter of throats and raper of ladies.” However, I have to…

By: Judy McGuire / December 29, 2008

Dating Don’ts: Four Reasons You’ll NEVER Get Dumped

Writing about dating is my full-time job, so, naturally, I hear a lot of pretty deranged tales of love gone wrong. But last week I received a letter from a woman who was convinced that men wouldn’t go out with her because she was just too … beautiful. She fully believed her breathtaking attractiveness wa…

By: Judy McGuire / December 18, 2008

Dating Don’ts: Four Horrible Ways To Get Him To Pop The Question

Maybe it’s because we’re forced to deal with our families more than usual during the holidays, but these can be trying times for women without rings on their wedding fingers. Aunt Esther’s annual grab at your left hand and subsequent clucking over your naked ring finger is annoying, but you write it off because she’…

By: Judy McGuire / December 11, 2008

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Handle Gifting Situations

Have you ever gotten a gift so ugly, so utterly not you, that you can’t even fake a kind response? That’s how I felt opening a box that contained the silver-plated, faux-turquoise-encrusted bracelet my then boyfriend gifted me one Christmas. “Santa Fe fake?” I asked, slipping it over my hand, and removing it before it…

By: Judy McGuire / November 27, 2008

Dating Don’ts: How Not To React When You Get Dumped

Last week, we covered how to avoid being a bad heartbreaker, so this week we’ll tackle the other side of things. Coincidentally, it’s a side of dating I’m far more familiar with: how to accept being dumped with dignity. Just as there are myriad ways to screw up breaking someone’s heart, the possibilities for botching…

By: Judy McGuire / November 14, 2008

Dating Don’ts: Six Things Not To Do On A First Date

The unthinkable has happened. He asked you out. The only guys who renders you speechless. The guy so smart, handsome and unbelievably hot you can do little more than blush and stutter in his presence. And now you’re going out with him. Tomorrow. Hooray? Your friends think it’s cute that you’re in such a panic,…

By: Judy McGuire / October 30, 2008

Dating Don’ts: The Four Types Of Guys On TV To Avoid

Don’t you just hate the type of person who smugly informs you, “I don’t watch TV,” like that’s something to be proud of? They think they’re so great with all their fancy book learning. What they don’t realize is that TV isn’t for dummies—there’s tons of educational programming available—you just need to know what to…

By: Judy McGuire / October 23, 2008

Dating Don’ts: Dating Advice NOT To Follow

If you were to follow every rule (and not just The Rules) that have been written about dating, you’d be too confused to actually ever go out on any dates. So-called sexperts and relationship gurus are constantly contradicting both themselves and each other— Should you call him? How long do you wait to engage i…

By: Judy McGuire / October 16, 2008

Dating Don’ts: Five Sure Ways NOT To Get Over Someone

I'm going to come right out and cop to this—I have been dumped more times than I can count. You'd think that after the 5,234th time, I'd be a tad more resilient, but nah. I have mourned certain dead relationships for longer than they went on in the first place and made an idiot of…

By: Judy McGuire / October 2, 2008

Dating Don’ts: Five Reasons NOT To Go On A Date

Have you ever just not been in the mood to go out on yet another first date, but force yourself to do it anyway? You talk yourself into it, reasoning, “What if he’s the one and instead of meeting him, I stayed home to eat cereal out of the box and watch ‘Gossip Girl’?” So,…

By: Judy McGuire / September 25, 2008

Dating Don’ts: Nine Types Of Guys To Get Over Immediately

Everybody has a “type.” Personally, I like a man with a big schnozz -- bonus points if he’s got a collection of acne scars a lá Tommy Lee Jones. My pal Annie likes preppy men -- but only after they’ve gone to seed and become a little bloated in the process. Suzanne has a weakne…

By: Judy McGuire / September 18, 2008

Dating Don’ts: How To Tell If He’s Taken

Back when our moms were on the market, they could tell right off the bat if the foxy soda jerk was unavailable because back then married men never went anywhere without their rings. Not that a band of gold would necessarily keep a cad from straying (see also, Mad Men’s Don Draper), but at least…

By: Judy McGuire / September 4, 2008

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Dump Him

Color me cynical ladies, but let’s face it—no matter how great your relationship might be going at the moment, chances are it’s going to end. And while breaking up is never pleasant, why make the inevitable anymore painful than it has to be? Since there are very few “great” ways to dump a man, we’re…

By: Judy McGuire / August 14, 2008

This Week On The Frisky: Polyamory, Kinky Fox News, Tyra Banks, & The Mile High Club

We debated whether the recession was killing our mojo. We learned all about polyamory from writer Anya James. Wendy Atterberry declared her love for Swingtown and Catherine hearted Quiksilver's fall collection.

By: The Frisky / August 8, 2008

Dating Don’ts: How To Know When It’s Time To Dump Him

Remember back when the mere mention of his name would give you a white-hot jolt to the heart? The sound of his voice was like an exquisite punch to the gut? His hand brushed against yours, and you’d get a warm swelling in the heart region? Yeah, well these days all you feel is sick…

By: Judy McGuire / August 7, 2008