Posts tagged "judy mcguire"

Dating Don’ts: When His Parents Hate You

For the first two years of my relationship with my Large Greek Boyfriend, his mom didn’t acknowledge me by name. I was simply, “The Girl.”

“Are you bringing The Girl?” she’d inquire when he made plans for family dinner. “Does The Girl like spanikopita?” Being a typical dude, it didn’t register on the…

By: Judy McGuire / July 2, 2009

Dating Don’ts: The Worst Breakup Lines Ever

Nowhere is the difference between men and women so glaring as when it comes down to the demise of a relationship. Specifically, the unexpected, unwanted, one-sided break-up otherwise known as the dumping.

A dumped dude might get angry. Then again, he might just get depressed and mope quietly in his room. He may…

By: Judy McGuire / June 25, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Settle

When I questioned a friend about why she was marrying a guy whom she found only mildly attractive, didn’t enjoy having sex with and wasn’t in love with, she told me this: “Marriage isn’t about love, it’s about finding the person who gets on your nerves the least.”

I recall being both horrified and…

By: Judy McGuire / June 18, 2009

Dating Don’ts: What Secrets Should You Reveal In A Relationship?

How much do you really need to know?

I still remember the day I walked into my house only to be confronted by my entire family staring at me like I was an alien as my mother shrieked through her tears, “Thank god you’re home—I thought you were dead!!!”

Um, what?

By: Judy McGuire / June 11, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Get Through A Friendship Breakup

Recently, I discovered that one of my best friends had ditched me after I logged on to Facebook and found her profile had disappeared from my page. We’d been having problems that had culminated in a huge argument the day before, but I figured we’d get through it. I figured wrong.

Still, being…

By: Judy McGuire / June 4, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Move In Together

Whether you’re getting married or have decided to live in (gasp!) sin, the decision to cohabitate is one of the most nerve-wracking, potentially fight-provoking, all-around-scariest things you will do as a couple. Here are some pitfalls to avoid:

1. The Money-Saver Move-In: The recession is kicking everyone’s ass, but if the major reasoning behind…

By: Judy McGuire / May 28, 2009

Dating Don’ts: The Downside Of Online Dating

Although there’s still a certain inexplicable stigma attached to it, I am a huge proponent of online dating. I met my long-term boyfriend that way and the majority of weddings I’ve been to over the past couple years have been for couples who’ve met via the internet.

So whenever I hear a friend…

By: Judy McGuire / May 21, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Translate Eight Dating One-Liners

I recently read Jeff Mac’s very funny book, Manslations (Sourcebooks), which is basically a phrase book for ladies to help us decipher the Language of Lads. It’s certainly a time-saver for those of us used to spending hours IM’ing our friends, dissecting last night’s date’s behavior.

But the fact is, men aren’t the only…

By: Judy McGuire / May 14, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Be (Or Date!) An Overlapper

When I asked an old friend why she hadn’t just broken up with her live-in boyfriend instead of beginning a messy affair with a married neighbor, she snapped, “Don’t be stupid—nobody leaves a relationship without having another one in place.”

Oh, please, I corrected her. Of course they do. People fall out of…

By: Judy McGuire / May 7, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Five Dating Habits That Toe The Line Between Cute And Crazy

Have you been watching “Tough Love” on VH1? It took a bit to grow on me. Now, not only do I love the show, I may be harboring a secret crush on host Steve Ward.

I bring this up because a couple weeks ago, he had the ladies participate in an impromptu game…

By: Judy McGuire / April 30, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Deal With The Ambiguous Dater

Every woman I know has been in this situation at one time or another, wondering whether the guy she’s wasting—I mean, spending most of her time with is interested in her as a girlfriend or just a buddy.

In my case, his name was Daniel. He’d flirt, drive me around in his cool…

By: Judy McGuire / April 23, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How To Keep A Dry Spell From Turning Into A Bad Smell

While some women have trouble with breasts that droop or low-hanging butt cheeks, my heart has always been my least-resilient body part. Like Chet Baker once crooned, I fall in love too easily. And once it ends—especially when it’s not my idea—I tend to have a little trouble getting back up on that passion pony.

By: Judy McGuire / April 16, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Dealbreaker Or Dealmaker?

I have said and/or done the wrong thing so many times that it’s truly the eighth wonder of the world that I ever managed to trick anyone into dating me more than once. There was the time I fell off my chair and farted (loudly) just as my butt hit the ground. Or the guy…

By: Judy McGuire / April 9, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Handle An Age Difference

In my twenties, I dated a guy who was 12 years older than me. In my thirties, I went in the other direction, dating a dude 11 years my junior. (Don’t you dare call me a cougar!) Although both ended rather badly, I feel like that while the gaping age difference didn’t directly cause either…

By: Judy McGuire / April 2, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Help Heal A Broken Heart

While watching your buddy cry her eyes out over some unworthy jerk isn’t nearly as painful as getting the heave-ho yourself, it’s still difficult. Most of us want to help our BFFs through breakups, but what do you say? Or, more importantly, what shouldn’t you say?

By: Judy McGuire / March 26, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Deal With A Sick Boy

Devil get behind me, it’s cold and flu season. Maybe it’s because I grew up with a mom who refused to categorize any of her five kids as officially “sick” unless fluids were exploding and the temperature hit well into the hundreds, but I am not the person you want taking care of you whe…

By: Judy McGuire / March 19, 2009

Dating Don’ts: 6 Scenarios For Getting Back Together

Like everyone else, I’ve been glued to the Chris Brown/Rihanna debacle, and was saddened when I read reports that she might get back together with someone who left her so bruised and battered.

But here’s the thing: loads of couples break up and then make up and sometimes things work out great. But knowing…

By: Judy McGuire / March 12, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Seven Ways To Fire Someone From Your Life

How many people do you know who’ve been downsized? Terminated? Let go? Fired? However you word it, the result is the same: Bummer, dude! According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 4.1 million people have lost their jobs in the last year alone. (The current total is about 11.6 million.)

To add insult to…

By: Judy McGuire / March 5, 2009

Dating Don’ts: Six Ways To Avoid Falling In Love

What do you get when you fall in love? According the fan-freaking-tastic Dionne Warwick—and she should know from heartache—“You get enough tears to fill an ocean/That’s what you get for your devotion.” Sing it, sister!

Sure, you get other stuff, too: hearts, cupids, hickeys, the fun stuff. But sometimes the bad outweighs the…

By: Judy McGuire / February 26, 2009

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Talk About Money, Honey

It seems that all anyone is talking about lately is the economy, so why is money still such a tough topic to discuss with your nearest and dearest? They say married couples fight over money more than anything else, but what about when you just started dating? That’s possibly even more awkward.

By: Judy McGuire / February 19, 2009