Dr. Drew Pinsky hit up Lance Bass’ SiriusXM radio show and made some eyebrow-raising comments regarding Chris Brown and Rihanna. He started off on a high note, discussing how difficult it is for a woman to leave her abuser. “On average, it takes a woman in a domestic violence situation eight attempts at leaving before she leaves,” Dr. Drew said. “They go back — they misinterpret the intensity as love. They think it’s so intense and great, ‘He loves me so much, that’s why he got so upset.’ We haven’t heard the end of this.”
Lance Bass then asked him if he thinks Rihanna has battered woman syndrome and Dr. Drew replied, “Let’s face it, she’s attracted to that … Listen, I don’t fault either person. I don’t [say,] ‘Oh, it’s a bad person.’ These are human experiences. These are very common situations these days.” Keep reading »
In a money-saving measure, the city of Topeka, Kansas, is considering decriminalizing domestic violence so that it is not forced to prosecute the cases.
Yeah, seriously. Keep reading »
Topman, the men’s version of the British chain Topshop, has pulled two super-douchey T-shirts.
One of Topman’s Ts suggests domestic violence with the words up top, “I’m so sorry but …” and then a checklist of excuses like “you provoked me,” “I was drunk,” and “I didn’t mean it.” Ick, right? The other, which you can see after the jump, makes a crack that the “ugly women are dogs” thing with the phrase, “Nice new girlfriend: what breed is she?” Double-ick. Keep reading »
Riding on the train home from work last week, the woman sitting next to me caught my eye. It wasn’t just her bright red lipstick or her retro dress that I noticed — it was a large, ugly, blue-brown-yellow bruise on her upper arm. As covertly as I could, I looked at the bruise, then at her face. She seemed smiley and happy, an otherwise normal woman coming home from work just like me. I turned back to my magazine. But a few minutes later, something on her leg distracted me: yes, it was another ugly-looking blue-brown-yellow bruise. Now I couldn’t read. I looked at her face again and thought about how “normal” she seemed. For half a second, I considered saying something to her about her bruises, but didn’t know what to say. So I sat there next to her for the rest of the train ride, awkwardly looking at the bruises on her leg and arm with my side-eye. We got off at the same stop, but walked off in different directions. I’m still wondering what her story was. Keep reading »
“Look good in all that you do” is not a slogan you expect to see next to a woman with a nasty-looking black eye. Then again, no one denies the Fluid hair salon in Edmonton, Alberta, was not trying to shock. The ad depicts a woman with a funky hairdo and a black eye sitting on a couch, while an attractive man in a suit stands behind her holding a diamond necklace. For myself and many others, the ad suggests domestic violence — gratuitous domestic violence, actually, because it’s an ad for a freakin’ hair salon.
Insinuating domestic violence is perfectly within Fluid’s rights, of course, and as to be expected, the salon owner is getting huffy about free speech. Keep reading »
While reading news reports this weekend about the hurricane that swept the East Coast, the phrase “the Hurricane Killer” caught my eye. With a moniker like that, I imagined some Jack The Ripper-esque figure killing people who were stuck in their flooded homes during or after Irene. But reading just one news story about Leonard John Egland, 37, who killed four people this weekend, I learned he wasn’t some random murderer at all but someone who knew his victims. Leonard John Egland killed his ex-wife, Carrie Egland, 36, of Chester, VA; her boyfriend, her boyfriend’s son, and his ex-mother-in-law, Barbara Ruehl, 66, of Doylestown, PA. That’s not a random act of violence; that’s domestic violence. Why, then, does news report after news report simply say “four people” were killed instead of acknowledging the specific nature of the crime? Keep reading »
Most of us have no qualms about calling the cops when our neighbors practice guitar chords at 3 a.m. But all too many people are content to mind their own business when they hear a couple’s argument veer in to dangerous territory. This new interactive PSA from the UK’s Metropolitan Police gives you two different options: one if you call 999 to report domestic violence, another if you don’t. It’s chilling, but powerful. [Feministing] Keep reading »