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Dater X: Dating Outside Your Race When You Have A Racist Parent

Dater X: Dating Outside Your Race When You Have A Racist Parent

When I arrived at work the other day, there was an unread message in my inbox from a coworker with the subject line “Would It Be Weird If…”

I clicked on the message, eager to discover the second half of her cliffhanger. The email said:

Would it be weird if I tried to set you up with a friend? His name is Rishi* (he’s Indian) and he’s really nice and attractive and funny.

My first thought wasn’t Oh God, not another doomed setup. Nor was it, Finally! Someone who I didn’t meet on OKCupid. Instead, it was, But my dad would never approve. Keep reading »

I Always Wanted To Ask: The Frisky & Madame Noire Discuss Interracial Dating In A New Video Series

Watch The First Episode!

About a month ago, I received an interesting proposition from a fellow editor at a women’s website called Madame Noire. Would The Frisky staff like to participate in an exchange where the editors of Madame Noire (all Black women) would ask us he questions they’d always wanted to ask white women, and vice versa. (The idea came from a similar exchange on the site VerySmartBrothas.com.) All of us were immediately psyched for the opportunity to talk honestly about race, a subject that is often rife with discomfort, and to see what we could learn from each other as a result. What originally was going to be a written post evolved into a video shoot, which went on way longer than any of us planned because we could not stop talking, and as result, we have the first in a multi-part series of episodes called “I Always Wanted To Ask…” This first episode focuses specifically on interracial dating. Before you watch, get to know the awesome women from Madame Noire, Brande, Veronica and Victoria, after the jump — and be sure to check out their site! We look forward to hearing what you think so please share your thoughts in the comments! Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Madonna Is Down With The Swirl

Madonna & Me
A new book of essays about the Material Girl. Read More »
My Interracial Marriage
What it's like being in an interracial marriage. Read More »
L-U-V Madonna!
Four reasons why Madge was the perfect Super Bowl halftime show choice. Read More »

Madonna’s book was large and black, with SEX embossed on the front. The coffee-table book of all coffee-table books was an enigma to me, sort of like Madonna herself. One day she was telling you to “Open Your Heart” and the next she was telling you to open your legs, but whatever her message, people were listening. To Brad, my new gay friend, Madonna’s book was the Holy Grail. To me, a tough biracial girl from a small town in Pennsylvania, it wasn’t that big of a deal. Hadn’t we seen her naked already? But I stood next to him in his freshman dorm room itching for a glimpse; there were rumors of bestiality and naked pictures of Vanilla Ice. Cradling the book on his forearm, Brad opened it to a random page and the words “I like my p**sy. Sometimes I stare at it in the mirror” burned up my retinas. My face got hot and I smoothed a hand over my brittle straightened hair. Keep reading »

Study Shows Interracial Marriages Are On The Rise

Aside from our seven-year age gap, my sister and I are very similar for the most part. We look alike (so much so that I used her ID to party before I was even legal), have the same sense of humor and similar hobbies. Sometimes we even finish each others’ sentences like twins. There is only one huge difference between us — our dating preferences. I date just about anyone who I find attractive and interesting. My sister refuses to date outside of her race. But according to some new research, it may be time for her to loosen up, as interracial marriages are on the rise.  Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Should I Let My Family’s Bigotry Ruin My Relationship?”

After several years of being contently single, I have met the most amazing man. He is smart, career driven, attentive, and we have a ton in common. While our relationship is new, and we aren’t rushing into anything, I feel that there is potential for something serious to develop. There’s just one problem — I’m white and he’s black, and while it doesn’t bother me in the least, my family is very conservative and they don’t believe in interracial dating. I am from a small town in a southern state and interracial dating is fairly uncommon here, and there are still prejudices about such things. I know that my family would adore him as much as I do if they could only look past his skin color and see him for the amazing person he is. The problem is that I don’t think that they will ever be able to do that. I feel torn between pursuing a relationship which I think could be serious, and pleasing my family. There is a possibility that some members of my family will never speak to me again, but I’m afraid that if I don’t give him a chance I may always wonder what could’ve been. I know that it’s a little early in the game for me to be thinking of choosing between a man and my family, but I am stressed out thinking about how to break the news to them. I could use any advice about how to tell them or how to know if a relationship is worth disappointing my family. — Stressed Out and Color Blind

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Alicia Keys Addresses Interracial Dating In “Unthinkable (I’m Ready)”

Alicia Keys‘ new music video for “Unthinkable (I’m Ready)” addresses the heavy topic of interracial dating throughout the decades. I like the video, actually, because it shows how bigotry doesn’t necessarily disappear with time. But over at Feministing, our friend Courtney M. Martin — who’s also a Frisky contributor — is unimpressed. Martin found the “white dude in a truck and a bunch of angry black men” motif annoying, accusing Keys’ video of “fall[ing] into all of the tired stereotypes of the tragic interracial love story.”

Surely interracial dating is a complicated issue to deal with in a five minute-long music video, but maybe Alicia Keys could have been more original. What do you think? [Feministing] Keep reading »

Take An Alternate Dating Route From Michelle Obama, Says Blogger

Single women can learn a lot about dating from Michelle Obama, but one guy advises black women to take a different route than Michelle did, before another man passes them by. Most of his advice is logical. Some of it, I have to admit, I’m not ready to hear and probably never will be. Keep reading »

Interracial Dating In “The Princess And The Frog” — So What?

Later this year, Disney plans to release its first animated musical featuring a black princess, “The Princess and the Frog.” Even lthough Disney is taking a big, albeit late, step by creating its first black princess, the project hasn’t been without controversy. First, Disney changed the heroine’s name to Tiana from Maddy, a stereotypical slave name. Then, the producers changed her profession from chambermaid to restaurant entrepreneur. Now, people are up in arms because Princess Tiana’s love interest, Prince Naveen, looks white. He’s described as having olive-toned skin and a slight Spanish accent — because he’s voiced by Brazilian actor Bruno Campos. Could it be that Disney, which has a history of marginalizing blacks, is actually promoting interracial dating? Keep reading »

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