It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Master Debater” who was concerned that she and her boyfriend didn’t seem to be on the same intellectual level. “I’m a girl who loves intellectual debates and discussions.” She wrote. “When I try to have these discussions or debates with my boyfriend, he ends up just agreeing with me because he rarely understands what I’m even talking about.” She worried about what might happen later in their relationship when they were faced with important decisions and she didn’t have “the benefit of a partner who can think deeply and critically about things.” So, was the difference in intelligence a dealbreaker for her? Or, did she figure out a way to make it work? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »
Well, ladies if you ever had any doubt that women are higher up on the food chain than men, you can lay your skepticism to rest. A new study shows that men get dumber when they talk to females. Dutch psychologists had guys and gals talk to peeps of the same and opposite sex, then quizzed them with word games. Women’s intelligence remained unchanged, no matter who they talked to. But dudes were all good only if they talked to other men. When they talked to gals, afterwards they were just, well, stupid. The hotter the chick, the dumber the dude. Ah, now I understand why that guy at the club the other night blurted out that he was a drug dealer after I said “hi” to him. Tell us about some of your experiences that you understand better now that you’ve read this study. [Asylum] Keep reading »
Smart women have the best sex. Duh.
After interviewing over 2,000 sets of adult women twins, who have identical everythings, Professor Tim Spector, a researcher at King’s College in London, found that if a lady isn’t afraid to express herself and picks up on what other people are expressing, she’s an orgasmic machine who can satisfy her partner like none other. Shockingly enough, being a “touchy-feely” kind of gal isn’t as bad as it sounds. Sure, it might cause an awkward moment every now and again — I’m still sorry I hugged my ex-boss at the company Christmas party — but the good part of expressing your emotions means more feelings in your tunnel of love. Spector is convinced that “these findings show that emotional intelligence is an advantage in many aspects of your life, including the bedroom.” The researchers hope to use their evidence to help the nearly 40 percent of women who say they can’t get off.
So, next time someone tells you to stop being so emotional, tell them to stop trying to ruin your sex life. Feel free to pop in “The Notebook” DVD, open a tub of Ben ‘n’ Jerry’s, and let those tear ducts drip. Feelings are the new foreplay. [Daily Mail] Keep reading »
“My boyfriend and I are not on the same page, intellectually speaking. Are we doomed?” – Alexis, New York
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The smarter you are, the harder it is for you to get laid. Well, that’s what Dr. Alex Benzer, a Harvard man thinks. The Ivy League snob believes his fellow private college geniuses (yes, he even listed specific schools that qualify) suffer under the weight of their giant brains. So, in a piece for the Huffington Post, he gave his five reasons why smarties can’t get in anyone’s pants. Here are the Cliff’s Notes style version for us lazy students, plus five of our own theories…
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I noticed Bob before he noticed me. He looked like the kind of guy you have sex with in barroom bathrooms and the backseats of cars. When he said “Hey” as I brushed past him in the Cold & Sinus aisle of Walgreen’s, I hesitated. I knew that “Hey.” It was the cocky “Hey” of a man who’s good in bed and bad at everything else. He’ll stand you up for dinner, but he can guarantee you multiple orgasms before breakfast. I knew better. I agreed to meet him for coffee later that night.
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