Today is Nick and my 10-year anniversary. TEN YEARS. A decade. One-twentieth of a lifetime if we both live to be 200, which we plan to. I’m not usually super sentimental about anniversaries, if only because I’m like a doofy sitcom husband when it comes to remembering exact dates, but I couldn’t help but get a little reflective and nostalgic last night when I was thinking back on all we’ve been through and all the fun we’ve had. Here are 10 things I’ve learned — about relationships, life, and myself — in the past 10 years. Keep reading »
I worked at Whole Foods for almost four years, the majority of which I spent in the bakery as a cake decorator in a fun, busy suburban store. It had some serious ups and downs and a variety of challenges that were unique to the company and their customer demographic. I’m glad I had the experience because it tested my mettle and grew some great friendships. After reading 7 Life Lessons I Learned from Working at Starbucks, I was inspired to write my own list, with an organic, artisan, locally sourced Whole Foods twist. Here are 5 indispensable life lessons I learned while working at one of the most beloved/hated grocery store chains in the country… Keep reading »
“If you view crossing the finish line as the measure of your life, you’re setting yourself up for a personal disaster. Commanding a spaceship or doing a spacewalk is a very rare, singular moment-in-time event in the continuum of life. You need to honor the highs and the peaks in the moments — you need to prepare your life for them — but recognize the fact that the preparation for those moments is your life and, in fact, that’s the richness of your life. The challenge that we set for each other, and the way that we shape ourselves to rise to that challenge, is life.”
Col. Chris Hadfield, the social media-savvy astronaut who gifted the world with a beautiful cover of “Space Oddity” from the International Space Station last year, is back on Earth, and has written a book about his experience. In an interview with Canadian news show “The National,” Hadfield responded to the question he gets most frequently: after such a huge accomplishment, where do you go from here? His response was perfect. Whether you’re doing a spacewalk, training for a 5K, or working toward a degree, the journey is just as important as the end point. [Brain Pickings]
We’ve been thinking a lot about second chances lately: when to give them, who to give them to, and how they’re earned. Second chances are complicated, because we all want to be one of those magnanimous, forgiving souls who write inspiring essays for O magazine, but at the same time, no one wants to be a gullible doormat. There’s a balance between forgiveness and foolishness; the trick is learning to walk the tight rope. Sometimes second chances are in order, and sometimes, in the cases of hipster bars or douche-y exes, it’s best to just cut your losses and move on. Here are 15 things that (almost) always deserve a second chance, and 10 things that strike out after one. Keep reading »
See that little girl rocking a flawless — if slightly more crinkly — recreation of Lupita Nyong’o‘s Golden Globes dress? She’s known as Mayhem (coolest nickname ever? I think so), and she’s become something of an Instagram fashion icon for the amazing construction paper couture she and her mom, Angie, make together. Before the two started tackling red carpet gowns, they were making colorful dresses out of scraps of construction paper based on whatever fashion whim Mayhem had that day. Here are a few of them: Keep reading »
In the months leading up to my move from Portland to Nashville, my life wasn’t exactly going smoothly. My family situation was growing more stressful by the day. Some of my closest friendships had turned toxic. I felt extremely out of place in the hipster culture that dominated the city. My boyfriend wasn’t happy in his job and was getting increasingly depressed. I suffered from terrible anxiety that had started around the time my neighbor’s house had been broken into, and kept me awake most nights, convinced that every creak of our old apartment was a robber prying open the downstairs window.
Those long nights gave me lots of time to think about how unhappy I was, and what I could do to fix it. Therapy, new friends, better self-care, meditation, and sleeping pills all came to mind (and in fact, I’d tried many of them already), but all these potential solutions were always eclipsed by one word: leave.
When I started telling friends and family members how miserable I was, I noticed a common thread in their responses. I’d reveal my plans to move away and start fresh, and they’d gently touch my shoulder and say, in hushed and concerned tones, “You can’t run away from your problems, you know.” Keep reading »
In the past few weeks, Facebook and Twitter have been overflowing with “inspiring” articles focusing on regrets. We’ve seen “The Top 10 Things Elderly People Regret,” “20 Most Common Regrets People Have On Their Deathbed,” and more. We found all of these articles interesting, if a bit morbid, but there was something we thought was missing from this conversation: the things you don’t regret. Because yes, we’ll probably all regret working too much or not having a totally zen relationship with our moms, but what about taking a spontaneous trip to Paris? Or pushing your way to the front of that once-in-a-lifetime concert? Or asking that cute guy out for coffee? There are some things in life that, no matter what happens, you’re going to look back on and say, “I’m really fucking glad I did that.” Here are 50 of them: Keep reading »
Ivan Cruz spent most of his life praying that one day he’d wake up and not be gay anymore. Instead, one day he woke up with a realization that was even more surprising: he felt ready to come out. After telling his mom, sister, and friends, he decided to make a video about his coming out story, with a special twist — the story is told through the eyes of his dog, Thor. So freakin’ cute. [YouTube]
Garth Callaghan has been leaving sweet notes in his daughter Emma’s lunchbox ever since she was a little girl. Written on napkins, Callaghan draws his wisdom from his own life and sources as varied as the bible and “Star Wars.” The notes began as a way to give Emma a few words of inspiration and advice alongside her PB&J, but two years ago they took on a much more poignant meaning when Garth was diagnosed with cancer. Doctors gave him an 8% chance of surviving the next 5 years. Despite the grim prognosis, Garth wanted to ensure that Emma would have one new napkin note in her lunchbox every day until her high school graduation, so he set out to write them — 826 of them, to be exact. He also started a Facebook page, Napkin Notes, to share his messages and encourage other parents to write their own lunchbox notes and “create a daily connection with your child,” one that’s much sweeter — and infinitely more meaningful — than a Hostess cupcake. Keep reading »
Jahmir Wallace, 10, is a boy who can do pretty much anything he wants, which is surprising considering what he doesn’t have. Wallace was born without arms, but that hasn’t stopped him from pursuing his dream of being a normal boy and playing in the band. Meet the inspirational Jahmir Wallace on HLN…