“I am a great romantic — but I also think you can be a romantic and a realist. Life is complicated and long and I know people that I respect and admire and look up to who have had extra-marital affairs. It’s like we’re flawed — we’re human beings and sometimes you make choices that other people are going to judge. That’s their problem but I really think that the more I live my life the more I learn not to judge people for what they do. I think we’re all trying our best but life is complicated.”
– Gwyneth Paltrow shares her feelings on infidelity — and not judging those who stray — with The Daily Telegraph. I cannot help but wonder if Gwynnie is playing the “my friend” game here and the people she “respects and admires and looks up to” are actually herself and hubby Chris Martin. Not to start rumors or anything. I actually mostly agree with the sentiments she expresses above, although I don’t think it’s necessarily judgmental to say that infidelity sucks and cheating is a crappy thing to do. [News.com.au] Keep reading »
Wow, this new video game “Catherine” sounds pretty twisted. Here’s the concept of this anime game: the player is Vincent, age 31, a boy-man whose girlfriend Katherine (left) is smart and hot, though a little stodgy—as denoted by her glasses, naturally. Basically, Vincent just isn’t ready to commit to her. He is at a bar with his friend, when the scantily-clad Catherine (right, spelled with a ‘C’) walks in. They end up going home together. From here, the player has to decide whether to tell Katherine about the infidelity and try to save the relationship, or whether to leave Katherine for Catherine, etc. To get to the decision, the player has a series of nightmares in which they have to climb walls and solve puzzles. The nightmares alternate with animated scenes that give more information about both possible relationships.
Somehow, this all sounds sort of wack to me. Keep reading »
An unfaithful father makes for an unfaithful husband. You may now add this to your handy list of relationship adages to live by right next to, “If he treats his mother like crap, he will probably treat you the same way.” According to a new study done at Charles University in Prague, men were found to be far more likely to cheat if they grew up with a father who was unfaithful. The daughters of cheaters, however did not suffer a similar fate. The researchers’ conclusion was as follows: Good-looking parents produce good-looking children. Said attractive children have more opportunities to stray if they are men but more opportunities to snag a genetically desirable mate if they are women. But the attractiveness theory doesn’t quite cover the rest of the population. I mean, ugly people cheat too. How do they explain that? Well, it’s all about the motivation for the infidelity. The study found that of the cheating men surveyed, most were motivated to stray by sex and sex alone, while the cheating women only wanted to explore their sexual options if they were unhappy in their relationships. And that will be all for your “Differences Between Men and Women 101″ lecture today. See you next week for more interesting discoveries about how men are really into sex and women are really into feelings. [Daily Mail UK] Keep reading »
Haven’t I written about why men cheat before? Can’t I write about anal sex? Again? For the third or fourth time in my career as a hack? If it weren’t for the perpetually hot topic of “why men cheat,” the entire gender-industrial complex would collapse.
Men cheat because people are jerks. Selfishness is the default setting of the human race. You know how there are people out there who say that they believe, deep down, everyone is good? I am not one of those folks. Keep reading »
Emotional affairs are when a person in a committed relationship looks to establish an emotional bond with someone outside of his or her relationship. I know this because I Googled it. I felt that there had to be a description for what I was going through, feeling an incredible closeness with an unavailable man. I typed the words into my computer and felt my heart sink as I nodded along, recognizing his behavior described perfectly in the warning signs. Is he lying about the amount of time we communicate to his partner? Yes. Would he want his partner to hear the conversations we have? Hell no! Is your relationship forged with a secretive, forbidden energy? Oh god, it is. Keep reading »
Over the course of the last, oh, two years, we’ve watched a number of high-profile cheating scandals unfold. Tiger Woods, Al Gore, John Edwards, Jesse James, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Anthony Weiner, to name a few. The media and public response to each of these cases seemed to bring up the same two (somewhat hysterical) questions: “Why are so many men cheating!?” and “Why don’t we see women doing the same thing!?”
Here’s the thing: women cheat too. A recent study revealed that, duh, infidelity is on the rise, but that women are actually closing the gap on what has largely been thought of as bad behavior for men — apparently, nearly as many women are cheating on their partners and spouses. (Maybe we’re just better at not getting caught?) So, why do women cheat? What are the circumstances that led to their infidelity? And how did they feel about it in the aftermath? After the jump, 13 anonymous confessions from women who have cheated. Keep reading »