Emotional affairs are when a person in a committed relationship looks to establish an emotional bond with someone outside of his or her relationship. I know this because I Googled it. I felt that there had to be a description for what I was going through, feeling an incredible closeness with an unavailable man. I typed the words into my computer and felt my heart sink as I nodded along, recognizing his behavior described perfectly in the warning signs. Is he lying about the amount of time we communicate to his partner? Yes. Would he want his partner to hear the conversations we have? Hell no! Is your relationship forged with a secretive, forbidden energy? Oh god, it is. Keep reading »
Over the course of the last, oh, two years, we’ve watched a number of high-profile cheating scandals unfold. Tiger Woods, Al Gore, John Edwards, Jesse James, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Anthony Weiner, to name a few. The media and public response to each of these cases seemed to bring up the same two (somewhat hysterical) questions: “Why are so many men cheating!?” and “Why don’t we see women doing the same thing!?”
Here’s the thing: women cheat too. A recent study revealed that, duh, infidelity is on the rise, but that women are actually closing the gap on what has largely been thought of as bad behavior for men — apparently, nearly as many women are cheating on their partners and spouses. (Maybe we’re just better at not getting caught?) So, why do women cheat? What are the circumstances that led to their infidelity? And how did they feel about it in the aftermath? After the jump, 13 anonymous confessions from women who have cheated. Keep reading »
UPDATE: Rep. Anthony Weiner admitted in a press conference today that he had sexual conversations over Facebook and sent scantily clad pics of his penis and his chest to numerous women, whom he thought were his “friends.” Weiner said he had inappropriate conversations with six women, some before his marriage began and some afterwards. Weiner claims he never met any of the women in person and didn’t have sex outside of marriage. His wife, Huma Abedin, who is the top aide to Hillary Clinton, was not beside him at the press conference, but Weiner said the couple has no plans to separate. His voice cracking, Weiner repeatedly apologized to his wife and his constituents, but said he has no intention of resigning. You can read quotes from Weiner’s press conference and watch it from the beginning at Talking Points Memo.
Rep. Anthony Weiner‘s weiner isn’t the only body part he may have photographed: today a shirtless pic of Anthony Weiner’s bare chest hit the web. As promised, conservative wonk Andrew Breitbart has been leaking saucy pics of the Democratic rep all day. Big Government posted one image this morning depicting Weiner, fully clothed, sitting next to his cats. He sent it from his AOL account along with the title, “Me and the pussys.” This newest pic of Weiner shirtless (above) makes us wonder, 1) does he wax and 2) are there more pics to come where he’s taking it all off? Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Once Bitten” who began an affair with an engaged man who had already dumped her once for the woman he would later propose to. “I know that the typical advice is ‘they never leave their wife,’ but I have loved this guy since we met and keep hoping that he’ll ‘choose me.’ When I’m with him, I always tell myself that being in love with him is enough. Then he goes home and my heart breaks,” she wrote. After the jump, find out if her boyfriend indeed chose her or if she finally got the courage to leave him for good. Keep reading »
John Edwards will most likely be indicted with criminal charges for using campaign cash to cover up his affair with videographer/wackadoodle, Rielle Hunter, ABC News is reporting. The U.S. Department of Justice has approved the prosecution, which seeks to indict the sleazy politician for using roughly $1 million of campaign donations to squire away Hunter from the media and the campaign, both of whom suspected the two of having an affair (and later, a love child). The prosecution is expected to argue that the Edwards campaign misused funds to try to cover up his cheating so he could continue onward with his 2008 presidential campaign. Two rich donors allegedly supplied the funds and I think we can assume “hiding the mistress” was not on their list of ways it should be spent. Ugh, I’m going to have to make a spreadsheet of sleazy politicians, their mistresses, love children, and their money problems, because it’s getting hard to keep track of them all. Sigh. [ABC News, NY Times] Keep reading »
Curiouser and curiouser! TMZ claims that Maria Shriver was the one who leaked the news that Arnold Schwarzenegger fathered a child with a housekeeper because she was angry at the Austrian love guv. Shriver allegedly learned her husband had a child with Mildred Baena in late-April or early-May and was so “hysterical” that she wanted to throw a press conference and publicly shame him. Her pals apparently talked her down from that idea and instead leaked the details to TMZ and The Los Angeles Times. Keep reading »
Like many women before her, Maria Shriver is doing the rounds as the disgraced political spouse. She’s on the cover of People magazine — “Maria’s Broken Heart!” trills the cover line — and she’s a guest on one of Oprah’s very last shows. (In fact, on Tuesday night when the identity of Arnold Schwarzenegger‘s mistress and his love child were revealed, Shriver was spotted out on the town with Oprah at dinner.) I would bet money on it that Shriver eventually writes a memoir about this time of her life, like Elizabeth Edwards and Jenny Sanford before her.
Let me be clear: I don’t mean to make light of any heartbreak Maria Shriver and the Schwarzenegger children — they’ve got four, ages 13 to 21 — are most assuredly feeling or of the humiliation of their dirty laundry being aired in the public eye. No one deserves this and I hope they are all as tough as elephant hides as they deal with it.
And yet … I have a hard time feeling sorry for Maria Shriver. Rumors of Arnold Schwarzenegger’s infidelity and sexual harassment have been going on for years. Arnold’s wandering penis (and hands) pre-dates his governorship of California, a role that staunch Democrat and Kennedy scion Maria Shriver helped him win. So, while this situation undeniably sucks, I’m not boo-hoo-hooing for her. Keep reading »