Much has been written in the media this week about men cheating on their wives. We have the tale of two Jo(h)ns: John Edwards, whose scorned wife, Elizabeth Edwards, appeared on “Oprah” yesterday to promote her new book, Resilence, in which she addresses her husband’s much publicized affair, and Jon Gosselin, costar of the hit TLC reality show “Jon & Kate Plus 8,” whose rumored affair has become tabloid fodder. The former is a tale as old as journalism itself: a man in power cheats on a wife who, from the outside, seemed a supporting and loving spouse undeserving of her husband’s unfaithfulness. The latter is another familiar tale: a man under an enormous amount of pressure is regularly and publicly emasculated and treated like dirt by his wife and seemingly seeks solace with another woman. In both cases, the men are vilified — but is it possible that maybe, just maybe, at least one of the women had it coming?
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By the time you hit your Saturn Return, the probability that you’ve been on the giving or receiving end of a romantic infidelity is about as high as your credit card debt. But what happens when you’re privy to the less than virtuous activities of a friend or acquaintance’s significant other? The moral conundrum of whether or not to out a cheater is fraught with shoot-the-messenger peril and weighted with Golden Rule considerations. And the potential outcome of ratting out a rat is just as complex and diverse. Should you risk life and limb to unveil the truth or keep your nose out of someone else’s business? Two ladies argue the costs. Keep reading »
A 40-year-old Japanese man named Tatsuhiko Kawata has been sentenced to five years in jail for having cold feet and a cold, cold heart. Kawata, who had been married since 1994, started cheating on his wife three years ago with another woman whom he agreed to marry last October at the Risonare hotel. Still married to the first wife, Kawata tried to delay the wedding on the eve of the ceremony by dumping petrol in the hotel and setting it on fire! Thankfully, no one was hurt, and the woman Kawata was set to merry dodged a bullet, too. The presiding judge who sentenced Kawata called him “egoistic and short-sighted.” Guess we need to add a #10 to our Signs He’s A Cheater post: He carries a can petrol around with him and sets a hotel on fire. [via Telegraph U.K.] Keep reading »
When my friend Stephanie was out to dinner the other night, she saw a young, twentysomething couple having dinner together at a table near hers. When the woman got up to go to the restroom, the woman’s boyfriend/husband, grabbed her phone and began searching through it, in an obviously suspicious way. Stephanie said she felt super guilty for not having said anything to the woman when she returned; that not letting her know that her man was spying on her and checking her call logs was a violation of girl code. I disagree. While I think women should look out for each other — hell, I think people should look out for each other — sometimes I think girl code treads too much into “none of your business” territory. Keep reading »
If you think it’s obvious why most men aren’t exactly lining up to date Rumer Willis, think again. According to a new study it may not be just because they find that big chin unattractive. Researchers say a prominent chin can be a “telltale sign that a woman will be unfaithful.” Hmm, can someone say Claire Danes? Perhaps, Hillary Swank? Keep reading »
A Long Island surgeon doesn’t want to fight his estranged wife for the million dollar pad they shared. Instead, he wants the kidney he donated to her. But he’ll settle for $1.5 million compensation. Keep reading »
About a year ago, rapper Riskay had a recommendation for all the ladies who think their man is cheating. She suggested suspicious lovers should ask to “Smell Yo Dick.” While the song was an underground hit, a woman was just beaten for using that line on her cheating husband. Just a straight shot south on the Florida Turnpike will get you from Riskay’s home in Bartow to the real scene of the “smell yo dick” crime in Port St. Lucie. After the 37-year-old victim followed her man into the bathroom to get wind of the truth, he punched her in the face and kicked her to the ground. The dude has been missing ever since, but his battered wife of three years refuses to press charges. Penis sniffing and prosecution dodging, ah, the things we do for love! [TCPalm] Keep reading »
I’m working from home today, so naturally I’m enjoying the background noise known as “The View.” Elisabeth Hasselbeck just said that she thinks that fantasizing about another person while you’re having sex with your partner is kinda, sorta a form of cheating. Mind you, I think she once said that masturbating is cheating too. So what do you think? Is thinking about someone else while you’re doin’ it a form of infidelity? Keep reading »
I tried marriage and I don’t understand the attraction. I hated it. It’s such hard work. I had to organize the maids, the chef, assistants, chauffeurs, gardeners. All that staff. Exhausting. What really did it for me was when my husband told me he wanted children. Can you imagine? Ruining your figure for babies; those smelly things that leak at both ends?
At the beginning of a marriage everyone is on their best behavior. Everyone is pretending to be something their not. He’s pretending to be terribly fascinated in everything you say, he brushes his teeth, acts like a super stud in the bedroom, and living room, and kitchen… And we women pretend that he’s our “super hero,” we wear high heels and naughty little teddies, we shave our legs everyday. But six months and he’s turned deaf and dumb, your legs are hairy, neither one of you has brushed your teeth, you pick your nose and he picks his butt. He farts, you burp. The teddies have been replaced with sweats; he sits in front of the TV with the “game” on, mumbling, a beer in hand. You barely speak to each other; you’re too tired to have sex. Marriage. What is the advantage? Keep reading »