I’ve questioned monogamy for quite a while now, but a new study shows that young people are seriously confused by it. Researchers studied more than 400 married and unmarried couples ages 18 to 25 and found that 40 percent of them disagreed about whether or not they were exclusive with their partners — even if they had supposedly agreed. Of the 60 percent of couples who agreed they were on the same page about their exclusivity, 30 percent admitted to cheating. That means that only about 30 percent of young couples are actually practicing monogamy. Married couples were more likely to be exclusive, while couples with children were less likely. The stats speak for themselves. Time to reevaluate our idea of monogamy? I think so. [Live Science] Keep reading »
So long as love rides shotgun in your life, nothing can ever truly be that bad. It is the singular prize that trumps all others, the reward that sweetens every success. Truly, it is the hot fudge on the ice cream scoops of personal achievement. Now, excuse me while I puke a little in my mouth. Actually, I’m going to shotgun a cheap beer and play some Grand Theft Auto 4 to make amends for such an unforgivably cheeseball observation. More on love and rewards and, ZOMG, trust, after the jump…. Plus, a fable!
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Yesterday, I told you about Carol Anne Riddell and John Patilla, the couple spotlighted in The New York Times’ “Vows” column on Sunday, who fell in love when they were both married to other people, and subsequently broke up their families to be together. My qualm wasn’t so much with the messy way in which they fell in love — which, at best, could be described as an emotional affair and, well, s**t happens — but that they chose to share all the details of their perspective on their love story in such a public forum. I mean, get married, but don’t invite the entire world to the reception, you know? It just seemed unnecessarily insensitive to the spouses they left, not to mention the children they had with their exes. Well, it seems that the happily married couple now regrets the decision to appear in the paper. Sort of. Keep reading »
Well, Sunday’s New York Times’ wedding announcements sure were interesting. There was the couple that got engaged just 51 days after meeting on JDate. The bride who brought her two cats along as “chaperones” on an early date with her now-husband. And then there was the highlight of the section, the couple that fell in love when they were both married to other people. Scandalous! Keep reading »
No need to wonder any longer where you got your predilection for promiscuity. Turns out, it’s genetic (one or both of your parents is probably a slut too). According to a new study, there is a gene that predicts a tendency toward infidelity and one-night stands. Those who have “the slut gene,” as I am lovingly referring to it, were found to be twice as likely to engage in thrill-seeking sexual behaviors as those without it. Why? Two words. Dopamine rush. That stuff is intense. But this study does not give you carte blanche to cheat on your mate. It predicts a a TENDENCY toward promiscuity. It’s up to you to keep your pants on. [Live Science] Keep reading »
Yeah, we know, snooping is wrong. It’s unethical. It demonstrates a lack of respect and trust. But it’s just so goddamn hard to resist! I’m a Scorpio, which means I am curious by nature (hence my career as a Super Serious Journalist), and I’ve never met a medicine cabinet or open email account that I didn’t have the intense desire to peek at. For the most part, my snooping has resulted in a big fat wad of nothing, though one time I discovered a woman I was babysitting for was pregnant again before her husband knew. When it comes to significant others, snooping can be especially tempting, but the results of that clandestine investigating can be far more fruitful — and hurtful — than finding out the woman who pays you $10 an hour to watch TV with her toddler is about to add a screaming baby to the roster. Here are seven shocking things you may not want to find out about when snooping on your S.O. Keep reading »