Sadly, it seems there may be some truth in the rumor we reported yesterday that Sandra Bullock’s husband, Jesse James, has been cheating on her. Multiple sources are now reporting that the newly minted Oscar winner moved out of the family home she shared with James on Monday just before reports of his infidelity surfaced. The “Blind Side” star also announced she would not be attending the London premiere of the movie, “due to unforeseen personal reasons.”

Thank you for sleeping with my husband. I’m not being sarcastic. A few years ago, I would have been. I’d be calling you something far worse than “you.”

I only saw you once, back when you were still living next door to his parents. You were from Japan, he said. We waved at you, but you didn’t wave back. You saw us, I could tell, but you turned away. You weren’t sleeping with him then, but you had a crush. You always seemed to be having some kind of legal trouble – sexual harassment at work, problems with your visa – and my husband being an attorney was quite convenient. Sometimes he helped you with paperwork at your house. Once he took you to a seminar on immigration rights.

I didn’t suspect a thing.

My most baffling cheater moment was when my high school boyfriend told me those hickeys on his neck were bruises that he got from playing soccer. Dumb, dumb Jessica.

But it turns out that jerk’s lame lie was actually not the most ridiculous thing a cheater has ever said. “Things cheaters say” is a trending topic on Twitter right now, so I gathered up 25 of the best (read: worst) of these twitty tweets ...

Be careful when buying your next piece of real estate. Not because the housing market is crap, but because real estate agents may charm your mate into bed at that so-called open house. According to a new study, both male and female real estate agents tend to be among the most unfaithful men and women. After surveying 1.9 million people, it was found that you might be able to determine your partner’s faithfulness by their line of work. And the people most likely to cheat are? For women: teachers, housewives, nurses, administrative assistants, and real estate agents. For men: doctors, lawyers, policemen, engineers, and real estate agents. I’m wondering how musicians, professional athletes, actors, politicians, and porn stars managed to stay off the blacklist? [Lemondrop]

When I read the gossip about Vanessa Paradis allegedly feeling so threatened by her man Johnny Depp’s upcoming on-screen sex scene with Angelina Jolie that she “forbade” him to take part in it, I rolled my eyes. Yeah, right.

My boyfriend, however, didn’t think this was a ridiculous rumor at all. “I think she’s being smart,” he said. Huh? Like Angelina Jolie is this all-powerful sex monster that zaps men of their free will and judgment, rendering them helpless at her feet, regardless of how attached and in love they might be?

I raised an eyebrow.

“It’s Angelina Jolie,” he insisted (emphasis his). Well, I see how long I’d last if my man were to come face-to-boobie with Ms. Jolie.

I don’t know about you, but I’m sick to death of browsing bridal registries for friends’ weddings. More wine glasses? Really? If you want to give your friend an original wedding gift worth its weight in gold, find out if the person she is about to commit herself to for life is a cheater on an amazing new site, Cheater Registry. Either way, you’ll save the day. If you discover he’s a cheater, you’ve saved her a lifetime of pain, even if she claims to hate you when you reveal the bad news. If he’s not a cheater, you can give her the gift of a clean bill of fidelity.

Memo to the ladies: Your boyfriend jerking off to Perfect 10 or the occasional American Apparel ad is not cheating. Masturbating to a hot message that he got from a new 17-year-old “friend” he met on Facebook is. See the difference there? We hear a lot of complaints, especially from women, about concerns regarding their partners’ insistent masturbation. “Would you consider this cheating?” some ask. While no question is a stupid question, such queries do give me pause. Catholic guilt aside, when did self-love become tantamount to infidelity?

After I broke up with my sweet college boyfriend, a decent man who never ran me through the ringer, who responded to my bouts of recklessness and immaturity with compassion and sympathy, a guy who never did me wrong, I desired nothing more than desire itself. After years of slow and steady, I yearned for spark and drama. Conveniently, along came Matt.

At this point, it’s redundant to dissect the various political sexcapades of late. But all that talk of cheating has many of us civilians looking over our partners’ shoulders. I think every woman cringed a little at the thought that Elin Nordegren, Tiger Woods’ wife, might attend the press conference held by the man that publicly shamed her, and cheered when she didn’t. The same cannot be said for Silda Spitzer and, for a time, Elizabeth Edwards, both of whom “stood by their man.” Now comes news that “Lost” star Matthew Fox might have cheated on his wife of 18 years with a stripper. What would you do if you were one of these women?

I once loved a man who lied. He lied constantly and ardently—professionally, even. His lies eased his access to third-world sweatshops where he’d document working conditions and then use this evidence to help human right organizations fight to improve the laborers’ cause. His lies made life unquestionably better for untold thousands of people around the world. I was not one of them.

Very Important Question: if former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer, who resigned amidst a prostitution scandal, is the “Luv Guv,” what will we call the current governor, David Paterson, if the rumors that he’s cheating on his wife are true?

On Jan. 18, gossip column Page Six reported that two eyewitnesses had seen Paterson canoodling with family friend, Jennifer Jones, and kissing her neck at a New Jersey steak house. Then, on Jan. 30, Page Six dropped another bombshell: A state trooper patrolling the governor’s executive mansion claimed to have caught Paterson “snuggling” in a utility closet with a woman who was not his wife.

Alas, we may never have to think of a nickname more than “Luv Guv #2.” Gov. Paterson met with the Associated Press yesterday and vehemently denied all allegations against him. “For the last couple of weeks, I have been the subject of ... a spate of outrageous rumors about me,” Paterson griped, slamming the media as “callous and sleazy.”

The moment that my boyfriend got up to use the restroom, my friend Liz* turned to me and said gravely and in hushed tones, “All right, I need to make this quick before he gets back from the bathroom.”

Surprised, I replied, “OK???” She sounded like she’d been desperately holding something in all evening, just waiting for us to be alone.

“I just need to tell somebody this. I found out this week that Jay*” — her fiancé whom she has been with for 10 years — “has been masturbating to porn when I’m not around. Like, instead of having sex with me.”

I breathed a sigh of relief. I thought Liz was going to say she found out Jay was cheating. He was only looking at porn, though! Thank God!

But as I would soon find out, for Liz, there wasn’t much difference between the two.

When spurned mistress LaVaughnie Wilkins put up billboards around Manhattan to embarrass her former lover, Charles Phillips, the only thing that surprised me about it was how publicly she chose to do it. But “getting revenge” didn’t surprise me at all. Spurned mistresses want revenge. Spurned mistresses go for the jugular. Spurned mistresses do crazy things because they are hurt. 

Last year I fooled around with a guy who had a girlfriend. While we were cheating, he repeatedly told me he wanted to break up with his girlfriend to be with me and, like an idiot, I believed him. Lots of bad stuff happened and I lost my temper, big time: I wrote a long email to this guy’s girlfriend explaining everything about how he’d been two-timing her with me and sent it to her work email.

I’m not particularly proud of this story, but I’m going to tell it to you anyway.

That saying “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”? It just got real, y’all: Gawker has multiple sources saying that a lovey-dovey billboard in Times Square featuring a huge photo of a couple named Charles Phillips and YaVaughnie Wilkins is actually the work of a scorned mistress (that would be YaVaughnie Wilkins) who wants to embarrass her former lover. Not only might Phillips be a married man, but he is also the co-president of a company called Oracle and a member of Obama’s Economic Recovery Advisory Board.

Oh, dear.

This morning when my boyfriend was in the shower, I was going to surprise him by putting a note in one of the small section in his backpack.  We’ve been going through a rough patch recently, so I thought it would be nice to give him it. When I reached in, I found two condoms in there which were unused.  I was too surprised to process it, I just put them in his drawer and I forgot to give him the note.  We’ve been together for eight months, so I’m trying to trust him but there’s a huge part of me that is wondering if I am being naive and stupid.  I want to tell him what happened but I don’t want to sound like I’m attacking him or like I’m snooping. How do I approach him about this, if at all? — Should I Even Ask?

Welcome to the Frisky “Sex Diary,” in which an anonymous person shares the details of her sex life over the course of a few days. Sometimes these entries are filled with revealing romps, while other times there is nary a naked moment in sight. Some of these diarists are frequent contributors. Want to share a page from your sex diary? Email diary@thefrisky.com. All entries will be anonymous.

You know who’s not having a very Merry Christmas? The guy kissing the hot chick on the left. His name is Carmelo and for three months he was carrying on an affair with the hot chick (her name is Sheryl), even though he had a girlfriend. Sheryl, who writes a blog called “Musings of an Irate Commuter,” did not know Carmelo had a girlfriend. You see, their love story started out oh-so-romantically. Carmelo posted a “Missed Connection” ad about her, after crushing on her during the train ride to work every morning. Sheryl actually saw the ad on Craigslist and responded, and the rest, as they say, is history. Well, sort of…

As we earn more money and work longer hours, new statistics show that more women are cheating on their husbands—but that doesn’t mean that men are as forgiving about affairs as we can be.

According to a 2001 survey, about 15 percent of men admit to cheating on their wives or girlfriends, and women were not far behind with a 10-percent cheat rate.

But here’s one thing that hasn’t changed—women are willing to forgive their husbands for infidelity, and men aren’t. A recent study found that men were significantly more likely to end a marriage based on spousal infidelity than women. Read more ...

My parents have been married for 26 years and have several kids together, but I’m wondering if my dad might be cheating on my mom. He’s always been a big time workaholic. Growing up, he was gone all the time. He recently started his own business and got a second cell phone, for what, I can’t figure out. He’s kind of a private person, so if he were seeing another woman, I’m positive he could keep it from the rest of the family easily. He’s in charge of all the finances, so it would be pretty easy to hide any telling expenses. He’s always going out of town and comes and goes at weird hours. Also, my mom is very pushy, she’s always nagging away at my dad. Honestly, if he were stepping out on her I don’t think I’d blame him. She’s not my favorite parent, for sure. Since he pays for her cushy lifestyle so she doesn’t have to work and she’s constantly finding faults with him, it wouldn’t be a stretch if he were pushed to do this. She’s gained a lot of weight recently, and that’s really changed her self image. She’s always buying him books on how to be a more romantic and sensitive husband, Christian propaganda, etc. My dad suffered a recent midlife crisis and has made some really dramatic changes. Also, my parents have hinted at some rocky times in their marriage lately and my mom claims to be depressed but she promised my dad she wouldn’t tell me and my siblings why (this seems to be the biggest indicator). If there were a situation like this going on, NO ONE would know because my parents are obsessed with appearances and looking like the perfect happy family. As far as I know he hasn’t cheated on her before ... but it could have happened. Should I ask my parents what’s going on? — Concerned Daughter