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7 Occasions When Saying “I Love You” Doesn’t (Have To) Count

The FriskyMay 12, 2011 //

Yesterday, Ami wrote about how the phrase “I love you” — despite endless debates about who should say it first and how often it should be said — doesn’t hold as much significance as its been assigned, because, in the end, it doesn’t bind two people together. Sure, say those three words when you mean them and not when the goal is to hear it back, but loving actions are even more important. But because so much importance has been placed on such a little phrase, many of us have likely said “I love you” for the wrong reasons. We’re not callous people here at The Frisky, but some of us have said that phrase when it shouldn’t have been said and when we haven’t really meant it. Here’s when “I love you” doesn’t necessarily count.
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Mind Of Man: How We Say “I Love You” (Without Actually Saying, “I Love You”)

John DeVoreFebruary 9, 2011 //

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we’re rerunning the very first Mind of Man which originally was published in February 2008. It’s an oldie, but SUCH a goodie.

OK ladies, check it out: We love you. We love watching your sleeping face glow on our 150-thread count pillowcases. We love that mischievous glint in your eyes that says both, “You know what I’m thinking” and “You have absolutely no idea what I’m thinking.” We love that momentary moment of punch-drunkenness when we catch a whiff of a new fragrance that makes you smell like flowers. (And we don’t even like flowers. Doesn’t anyone realize flowers are just the clown genitals of the vegetable kingdom?)

So there you have it — we love you. Can we move on now?

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Dear Wendy: “I’m Scared To Say ‘I Love You’”

Wendy AtterberryJanuary 11, 2011 //

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a while now, and quite a few times in the past few months (especially recently) he’s told me that he loves me or is in love with me. Every time I’m with him my thoughts are screaming “I love you!” and I want to say it, and I’ve tried, but my head can never tell my mouth what to say, which leaves me wondering if I do indeed love him. When I’m with him, everything is finally okay, but when we’re apart, I don’t feel exactly right. I’m willing to do anything to see him happy, even if it means bending over backwards, which I’ve done, and I’ve sacrificed my own happiness for him a few times (he was unaware of it though) just to help things work for him. Twenty years from now, I want more than anything for him to be happy and with the love of his life, but sometimes I don’t think I’m her. There are times when I feel like we’re great now, but not necessarily forever, and that leaves me wondering if I really love him. What does it mean to you to be in love? If you’re in love does it mean that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, or can it simply be something just for now? And also, how do I go about telling my boyfriend that I love him, when every time I’ve wanted to and tried, I’ve failed? I feel like I can’t rely on myself to say a simple “I love you” so are there other ways to do it, while keeping it incredibly romantic and memorable? — Love Shy

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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Doesn’t Love Me”

Wendy AtterberryOctober 29, 2010 //

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and a few months. We moved in with other a year ago. It’s pretty serious, and we plan to travel together this fall and move to a new country together. I would say it’s a very happy and healthy relationship. The problem is I’ve repeatedly told him that I love him, but he can’t seem to say it back. When we discussed it, he said he doesn’t feel the same way! In my past, I had one boyfriend for four years, and he constantly told me he loved me, but then it ended horribly (he cheated on me) and now with my new boyfriend, he treats me like a princess and we both feel great together, but he never says he loves me. My boyfriend is also 14 years older than me and only had about one long relationship which didn’t even last as long as we’ve been together. Does that say anything about him? I can’t understand if I should be worried or go by the common phrase: “actions speak louder than words.” I know they are three silly words, but they would bring us even closer if they were said. — Waiting For Love

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34 Ways To Say “I Love You” Without Actually Saying “I Love You”

Amelia McDonell-ParryFebruary 17, 2010 //

Sure, Valentine’s Day has passed and the Hallmark cards and heart-shaped balloons are now in the half-off bin, but if you’re in a relationship, there’s no reason to slack off on showing you care the other 364 days of the year. Still, saying “I love you” doesn’t always come easy or convey the depth of feeling as much as simple actions do. After the jump, 34 ways to tell her “I love you” without actually saying it. (And gals, plenty of these can apply in reverse!) Keep reading »

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: How Often Do You Say “I Love You”?

Amelia McDonell-ParryJanuary 27, 2010 //

I think there are two schools of thought when it comes to saying the words “I love you.”

  1. Say it sparingly, saving it for those moments when you truly want to communicate the depth of your caring for another person.
  2. Say it as often as you’d like, because if you feel it, no amount of times could possibly cheapen or properly convey the sentiment.

I must admit, I subscribe to the latter, though I didn’t put much thought into it until recently. My ex and I said “I love you,” oh, 10 times a day, easily. He said it and I said it back. I said it and he said it back. We both said it and we both said it back, up until, oh, an hour before we broke up. Hence, I’ve thought about what it means to say “I love you” a lot or a little. I still think I am the type to say it a lot, but I’ve definitely learned that others are not like me, particularly many men, but as I don’t want to generalize, I went to the guys on my IM to find out what their ILU philosophy is. Keep reading »

I’m Always The First To Say “I Love You”

YourTango.comDecember 6, 2009 //

Our homeys at Asylum recently referenced a study revealing it takes the average guy seven months to say the three magic words: “Let’s eat acid.” Kidding, it’s “I love you,” of course, and the average woman takes eight months to say the same phrase. Keep reading »

When Should You Say “I Love You”?

Susannah BreslinNovember 20, 2009 //

Some say a woman should never say “I love you” first. Now, research shows that might be a good idea, seeing as it turns out guys say “I love you” first more often than women do. Want to know why? Find out! [Lemondrop] Keep reading »

Could You Ever Get Past Hearing “I Don’t Love You Anymore?”

Amelia McDonell-ParryAugust 3, 2009 //

One of the big bombshells my ex dropped the day he decided he needed a break was, “I don’t know that we’re in love anymore.” I didn’t buy it. I was in love and I was certain he was too. He was confused, he needed space, and I was going to give it to him, despite the fact that for many, his words would have been the final nail in the coffin. So I was fascinated to read Laura Munson’s “Modern Love” column in Sunday’s New York Times about her refusal to fight with her husband when he declared he no longer loved her. Keep reading »

Trailer Park: “Bruno,” “I Love You Beth Cooper,” And “Humpday”

adminJuly 10, 2009 //

Maybe it’s because I haven’t seen another human being in five days, but I’m really enthusiastically excited about the movies coming out this week. They all share a certain theme, which happens to be my favorite: awkwardness! First, “Brüno” gets audiences all blushy by showing his waxed man body (and balls, apparently?). Then a nerd goes for the cheerleader (shocker) in “I Love You, Beth Cooper.” And finally, two men take bromance to the next level in “Humpday.” Bye! I’ll be at the movies with my new friends, butter and slushy. Keep reading »

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