Shane Snow of the start-up Contently tackles the age-old question of how to properly greet a female colleague over at Medium yesterday, inspiring lively debate on the topic of hugs versus handshakes. Which is the least creepy, least offensive, most effective way to convey conviviality and mutual respect? A brief survey of The Frisky staff proved that neither is appropriate. Handshakes are stilted, formal affairs, appropriate only for job interviews. Hugs are more nebulous, usually based on a split second decision — the impulse to hug is a signal, a current present in the space between two people. The panic in this piece is palpable. Shane, let me help you. Let me save you from the “toilet of anxiety” into which you are spiraling. After the jump, find eight wonderful non-verbal options to greet women when a hug or a handshake just won’t do. Keep reading »
Four couples in London spent more than 24 hours hugging it out last week, effectively — and lovingly — seizing the Guinness World Record for longest marathon hug.
Six couples began hugging early on Jan. 19 at the St. Pancras International train station with one goal: wrap their arms around one another, with only a five-minute break each hour, for exactly 24 hours and 44 minutes to beat the former record, according to the London Media Centre. Read more…
Funerals, talking to a member of the clergy, bumping into your ex and his new girlfriend — these are all really uncomfortable situations. But nothing gives me more heebee-jeebees than the thought of having to snuggle strangers at a Cuddle Party. Until an episode of Scott Baio is 45…and Single (see above), I had never heard of such a nightmare, er, event. Apparently it’s a group of people, who don’t know each other, dressed in pa-jam-jam’s that bond and then eventually embrace for an extended period of time. Yuck! It’s not supposed to be sexy and I can guarantee, after looking around at the peeps in a Hallmark card store, that it definitely isn’t. However, like skinny jeans, this uncomfortable trend is becoming popular across America according to a CBS News Report. I don’t want to judge the hug, it has its place — a firm hello for friends and family, a little bid of support for someone sad, etc — but it usually takes me naked, in your bed, to get a full spoon on. Yet somehow, without the aid of booze, people are still into the idea of holding on to hippies they’ve only just met. I’ve never felt so alone in all my life. Don’t touch me! Keep reading »
The school board in Montgomery, AL, has such a strict policy against public displays of affection that it recently gave detention to two middle school girls who hugged female friends while on school grounds. Supposedly, bans like these are hyper reactive measures to prevent sexual harassment claims between students. The rationale behind “no hug” bans is that school officials don’t want to have to make the distinction between friendly hugs and unwanted ones — but shouldn’t the student being hugged be the one to express the difference? Anyway, if you tell kids that hugging each other inappropriately is not an on-campus activity, they’re just going to assume it’s okay for off-campus recreation, along with smoking cigarettes behind the 7-Eleven and stealing Playboys from under dad’s bed. [MSNBC] Keep reading »