Growing up, I learned there are three touchy topics that can turn people from Dr. Jekyll into Mr. Hyde: Politics, Religion, and Money. These days, how can politics not be on the tips of everybody’s lips? How do you handle it when you and your own family are on opposite sides of the political fence?
I’ve got thirteen people in my immediate family: my parents, myself, four siblings and their spouses, and two outspoken nieces. Although only eleven of us are actually eligible to vote, my not-yet-voting-age nieces are damn well informed. As you can imagine, our family dinners tend to get heated, and we’ve got a recipe for disaster. So, here’s how I deal with my family politically. Keep reading »
A few weeks into dating him, when it wasn’t even clear that we were doing more than falling into bed and blogging the pillow talk the morning after, he texted me to ask, “We’re not secret right?”
“Secret?” I wrote back. “Aren’t we on Flickr?”
That’s the moment when it got, as the uselessly succinct Facebook menu options put it, both “serious” and “complicated.”
Our relationship wasn’t founded simply on this trendy sort of self-disclosure: we were just reporting on our sex lives before anyone else did. It shouldn’t have shocked me, let alone the audience we gained along the way, that it’d all have to end online, too. So how do you deal with a breakup like that, without breaking up with the Internet? Keep reading »
Yeehaw! Tonight is the much anticipated Vice-Presidential debate between Democrat Joe Biden and Republican Sarah Palin. We haven’t been this excited for a VP debate since, well, ever! Everyone we know is watching, and chances are, everyone you know is too, so why not use this as an excuse to throw a total RAGER? After the jump, our tips for throwing a positively patriotic debate party.
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Whether it’s sitting in silence during dinner or enduring the long, uncomfortable pauses when he’s out with you and your friends, dating a shy guy can create some incredibly frustrating situations. What you might not realize, however, is that inspiring an introverted date to open up is surprisingly simple. “With a shy guy, you have to take the lead more often,” says Diana Kirschner, Ph.D., a recurring guest psychologist on “The Today Show” and author of “Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love”. “It may seem like a challenge, but once you give him a few little pushes in the right direction, he’ll open up to you with ease.” Find Dr. Kirschner’s hints on how to encourage your guy to take a walk on the wildly talkative side, after the jump… Keep reading »
It’s become my understanding that “sex on the beach” is a cliché that leads to sand in bad places. However, sex and beach are both words that bring to mind the ultimate summer fling. Scantily clad bodies, sun, surf, outdoor bars, gleaming tans, it all makes for a lovely little fantasy. Unfortunately, fantasies often come to an end. Sorry kid, time to wake up from that dream. Fall is almost here! So how are you going to let your summer fling fade gently into the sunset? Here are my tips:
(WO)MAN UP: I don’t like people who ignore — they have absolutely no backbone and are cowards. Own up to what you’re doing. Make it clear that it is O-V-E-R. This was fun, but now it’s done. You don’t want to get stuck with a Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction: “I will not be IGNORED, Daniel!”
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I remember watching “Dynasty” in the ’80s and thinking that Krystle and Alexis Carrington were so fantastically glam. Their glitzy, sequined dresses, shellacked hair, long, red talons and crimson lips were just IT, you know? If I saw those cats on TV today, however, I’d probably mistake them for two campy transvestites and wonder why they weren’t on Bravo. I admit, though, that I’d likely still find their red lips and nails awesome; there’s just something about a red pucker and red digits that screams “Respect me, bitch!” Whenever I try to wear both at the same time, however, I feel that I look like a trashy whore and not a powerful diva, so I asked Ashunta Sheriff, makeup artist for Christian Dior, on how to wear red well. Her beauty breakdown, after the jump… Keep reading »
Breakups are bad enough without looking like a total fool in the aftermath. So, in a bold move of honesty, and to help save others in the same place, I’m going to admit that in the throes of some past breakups I’ve been a little bit intense. I’ve learned my lessons on what not to do through a lot of tears, friend and family interventions, and often through making huge mistakes. And now I will pass along this harnessed wisdom to you.
Now, there are probably a lot of people who are just as stubborn as me, who in the face of rejection might just want to burn their ex’s stuff and cause a huge scene — to hell with other people’s advice. However, I’m going to beg you not to – it’s not worth it. Of course, just for clarification, if someone did something truly horrendous that warrants major destruction, such as cheating? Well then all bets are off.
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Achieving that Brigette Bardot-esque “bedroom hair” look is damn tricky. I tried it once, and instead of getting sexy, sultry, I-just-rolled-out-of-bed sexpot locks, I wound up with messy, unkempt, Amy Winehouse-in-her- darkest-days hair. Not pretty, to say the least. To make sure I get it right the next time, I consulted Liam Carrey, stylist from New York’s Ted Gibson salon, for his top tips on how to get glam — not grunge — bedroom hair.
1. Consider what your hair naturally does in the morning, and use that as your inspiration.
“Bedroom hair” is soft, not particularly well-manicured hair with lots of texture and loose, tousled messiness — essentially, what you get when you just wake up, but prettier, Carrey says. After you drag your butt out of bed in the morning, look at your hair in the mirror, paying careful attention to the volume you get at the crown and the natural waves and bends it has taken on. “Creating your ‘bedroom hair’ look should be a cleaned-up, prettier version of your reflection,” he explains.
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Color me cynical ladies, but let’s face it—no matter how great your relationship might be going at the moment, chances are it’s going to end. And while breaking up is never pleasant, why make the inevitable anymore painful than it has to be? Since there are very few “great” ways to dump a man, we’re going to list all the ways you shouldn’t go about kicking your once-loved to the curb:
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If three (or four, five or six) is beginning to become a crowd in your relationship, it’s time to take action. While you can never make your boyfriend give up his friends, nudging them out of his life is well within your power. According to Janette Barber, author of the best-selling book “Breaking the Rules, Last Ditch Tactics for Landing the Man of Your Dreams”, all it takes to make your man break ties with his annoying pals is your showing him their true colors. “And if for some odd reason that fails,” she says, “there are always ways to drive them away!” For strategies on how to show your guy’s most irksome friends the door, read on… Keep reading »