how to deal

5 Varyingly Effective Ways To Deal With Family Drama

Happy Holidays, everyone! You know how it goes: your brother and your dad aren’t on speaking terms. Your mom is “just concerned” that if you don’t get pregnant soon she’ll never have grandkids. Your uncle genuinely believes that a covert team of communist Kenyan hackers stole the election for Barack Obama. Oh sweet mercy, how are… More »


8 Common Anxiety Dreams And What They Mean

Let’s talk about anxiety dreams, shall we? They suck. But we all have them, no matter how much we have our act together in real life. Anxiety dreams happen when the stress, fear and worries of daily life infiltrate our unconscious mind. Or conversely, when there’s some crap we’re not ready to deal with, the… More »


5 Kinda Weird Ways My OCD Manifests Itself

I don’t obsessively wash my hands; in fact, I spend most of my time barefoot, germs faze me that little. I don’t feel an inexplicable need to count things. I don’t have any good luck charms, either physical (objects) or mental (numbers, letters, etc.). But I do have moderate OCD that has, over the course… More »


Saturday Playlist: Songs That Helped Us Deal

In honor of How To Deal Week, today’s Saturday Playlist is a collection of songs that helped us get through tough times in our lives. These are the songs we listened to as we dealt with break-ups, death, depression, family drama, being alone in a new city, and realizing our high school crush was never… More »


12 Self-Help Books That Actually Work

Self help books get a bad rap sometimes, I think. They’re seen as the province of walking, talking “Cathy” cartoons and hippie-dippie-fruit-loop types. That couldn’t be less true:  there are many different types of self-help books for all kinds of problems. Some books are more spiritual while others are more practical, as in teaching you… More »


Girl Talk: I Had An Eating Disorder

This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.

A week before my high school graduation, my doctor told me that I had to go to the hospital.

My weight had fallen too low, my EKG results were scary, and my continued refusal… More »


Girl Talk: How Being A Control Freak Ruined My Life (And How I Learned To Let It Go)

This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.

I suppose in some ways I was destined to become a control freak. I was born into a proud dynasty of control freaks. My family is Italian, and growing up it was made very clear to… More »


5 Reasons It’s Important To Ask For Help

This piece is part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re tackling mental health issues.

As an oldest child/perfectionist/control freak/Taurus, asking for help is one of my least favorite things. Whether I’m doing a crossword puzzle or weathering an emotional storm, I’ll handle it on my own, thankyouverymuch. Over the… More »


Fighting A War Against An Invisible Enemy, Soldiers Battle PTSD

Desperation, depression — and an overwhelming feeling of desertion — are the dangerous components that have contributed to the rising tide of suicide and mental health problems in the military. Just this week it was announced that for the sixth year in a row, suicide among members of the armed forces is on the rise. More »


4 Ways To Dump Your Shrink

As is the case with any relationship gone south, sometimes you need to break up with your therapist. Maybe you feel ready to fly in the world on your own, or you’ve stopped connecting, or maybe she said something awful, like “You shouldn’t cry so much.” I don’t care how much she helped you unpack… More »


Girl Talk: In Defense Of Retail Therapy

I have seen a therapist off and on since my first panic attack at age 14. Talk therapy (and the delightful mood-soothing properties of 20 mg of Lexapro) are the reason I can put on pants and leave my house in the morning. With their help, I’ve learned how to self-soothe anger and disappointment, combat… More »


The Soapbox: A Reluctant Defense Of Pro-Ana Blogs

This piece was originally published on xoJane.com.

A new study into the hoary underworld of pro-anorexia bloggers has discovered the unexpected: pro-ana communities may not exclusively be the dark pits of self-destruction they are typically assumed to be. The survey, conducted by researchers from Indiana University, suggests rather candidly that pro-ana communities may provideMore »


The Best & Worst Things Our Therapists Have Said To Us

When a therapist hits you with a zinger, it’s the kind of thing that stays with your forever. Best case scenario: it’s sage wisdom or advice that changes your life. Worst case scenario: it’s so wildly offensive or off-the mark that you know you have to dump your shrink. After the jump, I canvased Frisky… More »


8 Totally Tragic Mental Health Disorders Of Famous Celebs

Okay, okay, we’re clearly, obviously, not highly trained psychologists. But that doesn’t mean that we’re not aware that there are some serious problems happening in Hollywood. No, we’re not talking about the drug use, or rampant sluttiness, or insane egomania. We’re talking about how Miley Cyrus is constantly changing her hair. How James Franco thinks… More »


12 Totally Free Ways To Improve Your Mental Health

We all feel a little crazy sometimes (for me, “sometimes” means at least three times a day), and while we’re big proponents of therapy and other structured forms of mental health support here at The Frisky, there are times when limited funds or busy schedules make it tough to get professional help. In honor of… More »


Therapy 101: 6 Popular Types Of Psychotherapy

The word therapy conjures an image of a serious man with a steno pad taking notes while a patient reclines on a black, leather couch, talking about her childhood. I’ve been to therapy a bunch of times and never once have I reclined. One of my therapists was a tough talking Texan who threw a… More »


Girl Talk: I’m The Girl Before The Therapist

“Do you think I need therapy?” Evan asked. “I probably should start seeing a therapist.” He sighed and I shrugged.

“I can’t really answer that for you,” I said. “But it’s really helped me.” Evan and I had been fuck buddies off and on for over a year, but in the last few… More »


I Have OCD

This piece is presented as part of The Frisky’s How To Deal Week, in which we’re focusing on mental health issues.

I have five fingers on each hand. I use them like this: I hold up my thumb and whisper, “Thank You, Thank You, Thank You, Thank You, Thank You.” Then my pointer… More »