It seems that we’re still not done collectively discussing the fact that millennials are bad at relationships and obsessed with hooking up. Apparently, this issue is so baffling that the Aspen Ideas Festival hosted a panel to talk about it. This wouldn’t be much of a shocker, but on top of it, the hoopla over the topic has led to the addition of relationship classes on college campuses. As The Atlantic reports, the University of Illinois now holds dating workshops, and Duke University holds a counseling series about how to fall in love, as well as how to recognize your own romantic feelings. One Boston College professor even gives extra credit to students who will actually go on an old-fashion date during the semester, and gives suggestions for how to ask people out. Keep reading »
For a long time, eyebrow-arching and pearl-clutching over “hookup culture” has focused on young women: they will feel used by young men and come to believe they can only derive value in themselves from their sexuality. Such concerns have been roundly and fairly criticizing as portraying young women as victims lacking in agency, or worse, in need of a paternalistic watchful eye.
There has been less of a focus on how hookup culture affects young men. According to a piece by the usually-spot-on journalist Abigail Pesta, writing for NBCnews.com, there is “an increasing confusion among boys about how to behave” and experts say “boys who engage in this kind of sexualized behavior say they have no intention to be hostile or demeaning — precisely the opposite. While they admit they are pushing limits, they also think they are simply courting.”
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Laura Sessions Stepp, a Washington Post reporter, pissed off a whole lot of people a few years ago when she published a book about why hooking up is bad for women, called Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose At Both.
Now the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy have asked the controversial writer to host a podcast on their new site aimed at 20-somethings and sexuality, SexReally, which promises to educate women on sex and relationships, especially how to “steer clear of unplanned pregnancy.” Somewhat predictably, Stepp’s first podcast is chock-full of both outdated ideas about “what women want”—not to mention baseball metaphors all about how it’s a bad idea to “make a home run” with someone who isn’t your boyfriend! Keep reading »