Imagine being married to a State Police lieutenant who is killed in the line of duty — and then you learn that even though you are the widower of a fallen state employee, you’re not eligible for federal benefits that would be available to other widows.
Such could be the case for Kathy Bush, one half of a lesbian couple in Massachusetts. Bush and her partner, Mary Ritchie, married in 2004, when same-sex marriage was legalized by the state. At last, the couple didn’t have to worry about hiring lawyers to write contracts stipulating their parental rights and health care plans (something married, straight couples never have to do). But Ritchie and Bush still weren’t in the clear. Keep reading »
A lesbian teacher at a Catholic high school in Vancouver was told not to come to work because the school claims parents were concerned about her influence on students, a gay rights group in Canada has alleged. Lisa Reimer, a music teacher, told Little Flower Academy she was gay in December 2009 when she asked for parental leave because her partner was pregnant. Somehow, parents of students at the school were then told that Reimer is a lesbian; soon after, the school asked Reimer to fulfill the rest of her year-long contract from home and have no contact with students.
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A few weeks ago, my girlfriend’s father told her the family is taking a vacation to Maryland this summer. Her immediate response was, “I’m not going.” Desperate to get his very un-family-oriented daughter to participate, he quickly added, “Your girlfriend can come.”
She mentioned this to me on the phone later and, naturally, I was very enthusiastic. The two of us talked about how nice it would be to lie on the beach together, especially at night. We discussed swimming in the ocean and sleeping in every day for a week. By the end of our phone conversation, the two of us had talked so much about the trip, it felt like the trip had already happened.
But things changed when my girlfriend excitedly told her mother that I’d likely be going, too. Keep reading »
I’m not going to lie, this story makes my eyes tear up. In 2007, Lisa Pond, of Florida, collapsed from a brain aneurysm and a few hours later at the hospital, she died alone, without her kids or the person she’d spent the last 18 years of her life with. Lisa Pond died this way because she was a lesbian.
Yesterday, President Obama called Pond’s former partner, Janice Langbehn, to inform her that he mandated all hospitals that receive Medicare and Medicaid funding — which are most in the country — must extend visitation rights to same-sex couples. This mandate, which should go into effect in a few months, will allow a gay or lesbian partner to not only make medical decisions for their ill or injured loved one, but also to be there during the last moments of their life. In the past, LGBT partners who are not legally married have been refused by hospitals’ “relatives-only” policies. Keep reading »
Not sure how I missed this one last week, but according to a New York Times Magazine article, animals can be gay, just like humans. The Laysan albatross, which is considered one of the most monogamous species of birds in the animal kingdom, is not always as heterosexual as scientists once believed. As it turns out, many of these lovebirds are lesbians, or … lesbirdans? (Sorry, had to.) But the albatross isn’t the only example of a homosexual creature in the animal kingdom. Various forms of same-sex sexual activity has been observed in over 450 animal species including flamingos, dolphins, bison, beetles warthogs, koalas, and orangutans. So, basically, almost any kind of animal imaginable can be gay, although it’s less common in some species than others. And scientists have been keeping this kind of under the radar. Why? Keep reading »
I am the most disappointing bi-curious girl ever. My first kiss was with a girl at age 15, over a game of spin-the-bottle. But in the decade-plus since then, I have failed to act on any of the moments where I’m in close quarters with someone I am taken with. I’ve had these really intense crushes on women where I think about them and look at them all moon-eyed … but when it comes to making a move, I get pee-your-pants-nervous. It’s really lame.
Hopefully, one day I’ll just grow a pair of ovaries. But, luckily, some of my Frisky sisters act on their desires more than I do. After the jump, I asked them why they’ve experimented with other women: Keep reading »
Gays should be allowed to marry because it is their civil right to do so. But also because they, too, should have to deal with the dreaded wedding magazine onslaught that comes each spring. (Trim your tummy before the big day!, 10 ways to get him involved! Kill me now, please?) Introducing Equally Wed, a same-sex wedding mag for both gay and lesbian couples. There are articles about gay-friendly honeymoon destinations, how to buy a masculine or feminine tux, and, of course, tons of gown/bridesmaid/ring stuff. There’s even a state-by-state guide to places where same-sex marriage is legally recognized! Not only are we psyched gays now have to suffer the same bridesmaid dress foolishness that we have to, we’re psyched so many vendors in the wedding biz are embracing our lesbian and gay loved ones, too. Maybe where retail goes the law will follow? [Equally Wed] Keep reading »
A Mississippi judge ruled yesterday that Itawamba Agricultural High School violated a lesbian student’s rights by forbidding her from bringing her girlfriend to prom and wearing a tuxedo. Constance McMillen, 18, came out of the closet as gay in the 8th grade and asked school officials in December and February of this school year if she could bring her 16-year-old girlfriend to the April 2 prom. Itawamba not only said same-sex dates were not allowed, but a female student could not wear a tux. When the American Civil Liberties Union of Mississippi took up McMillen’s cause, the school just canceled prom entirely. Keep reading »
The Stars On Ice Tour will hit rinks on April 1 and stars like Evan Lysacek and Sasha Cohen will triple-axle their way across 40 cities in the U.S. But one Olympian whom the public love love loves won’t be there: Johnny Weir. An anonymous source has told the Gay And Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) that tour sponsors like Smuckers and IMG Entertainment nixed Weir from participating because he is not “family friendly.” Keep reading »