“As a boy? Of course I have. I’m an actor for f**k’s sake. I’ve played with everything and everyone. I love the form and the physicality, but now that I’m in my thirties, it doesn’t do it for me. I’m done experimenting…”
– Tom Hardy, some hottie from the movie “Inception,” on having had sex with dudes in the past, though he’s now engaged to a woman. I just love how “um, duhhh” his answer is. I’m an actor! Of course I’ve boned a few dudes! That’s what we do! [via Dlisted] Keep reading »
There is one central question underlying every debate about homosexuality going on in our country today: Is being gay a choice or is it innate? Is there a gay gene? Was I born a lesbian? These are things I think about all the time, but have shielded away from addressing. Why? Because my take on it is not the norm. Most people who fight for gay rights cling to the it’s-not-a-choice argument. For them, people are gay from day numero uno, regardless of whether they embrace it at age 7 or 70. If you argue with someone who believes this, they’ll say, “Why would anyone choose to be gay?” It’s a compelling argument because gays and lesbians do not have equal rights and are looked at as second class citizens in many areas of the world, including, at times, right here in the United States.
But, somehow, I’m not convinced. Keep reading »
Last season, “90210” teased us with a lesbian love plot between Jessica Lowndes and Rumer Willis for, oh, two episodes before Lowndes’ character, Adrianna, went straight again. But now the show’s producers say they want to “address the issue in a real and relatable way.” Translation: one of the show’s main male characters will be coming out of the closet in the fall. Entertainment Weekly had a big discussion about whether it would be Liam (Matt Lanter), Navid (Michael Steger) or Teddy (Trevor Donovan). But aren’t they forgetting about Dixon (Tristan Wilds)? Or it could be one of the adults—perhaps Principal Wilson or teacher Ryan Matthews? Way, way too many shows have used a lesbian plot to boost ratings, but far fewer have gone for a male-on-male love affair. Honestly, “Dawson’s Creek” is one of the few I can think of. So what do you think—is this a bold move or a publicity stunt? And who do you think will end up being the gay one? Leave your guesses in the comments. [EW] Keep reading »
Before I was in a relationship, I crushed on my female friends with alarming frequency. In high school, I got turned on when I slept in the same bed with my best friend who I had known since I was 2 years old. Obviously, I never told her this and, since we don’t speak anymore, I’m going to take this one to my grave. (Um, unless, of course, she reads The Frisky!) Later, I tried like hell to hook up with another friend who claimed to be bi, but now says that she is straight. Oh yeah, and I’ve totally slept with my current bestie. Twice. Keep reading »
Last week, the House voted 229 to 186 to repeal the controversial “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” military policy, which essentially bans gays and lesbians from coming out while in the armed services. I appreciate this gesture from the House but, to be honest, I’m not really impressed. While this vote gives the illusion of doing something, the actual repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” is still a long ways down the road and isn’t, by any means, a sure thing. Keep reading »
First it was gay and lesbian, then it was gay, lesbian and bisexual. Then someone threw transgender in the mix. Somewhere along the line, it became OK to refer to gays as queers and now, they’ve decided it’s LGBTQIA. That’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex and allies. The “gay community” today includes everyone who doesn’t fit into the conventionally straight category, making for a “community” that isn’t a community at all but rather a dumping ground of people deemed deviant by society. We don’t have much in common except for the fact that our sexuality isn’t the type that’s found in the all-American vision of two kids and a white picket fence.
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about why the “gay community” doesn’t seem to be able to get anything accomplished. We seem to be spinning our wheels in the mud, not moving forward. Once in a while, we seem to sink a little deeper. We don’t have gay marriage; we have Proposition 8, domestic partnerships and civil unions. We don’t have acceptance; we have an overly-sexualized reputation filled with stereotypes that all gay men talk with a lisp and are great dressers while every lesbian drives a pickup truck and hates men. We aren’t met with open arms. We’re met with furtive glances, cat calls and the occasional rude comment, at best.
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