The relationship between a gay man and his straight female friends is one that’s shrouded in mystery, a magical friendship forged in a land where unicorns roam free, glitter rains from the heavens, and the cosmopolitans never stop coming. If you’ve watched enough TV in the past 20 years, the gay male-straight female friendhip has been exalted, put on a pedestal as the ultimate bond for all straight, lonely women. Thus was born the myth of the “fag hag.” As a woman with gay male friends, I’ve always bristled at this term, finding it offensive to both, but wondered if there really was something to it. Is there magic in the relationship between a gay man and a straight woman? Do women with lots of homosexual male friends use those relationships as substitutes? I knew I couldn’t answer this myself, so I called up the person who knows me the best — my best friend, Greg. Join us as we attempt to debunk the “fag hag” myth, once and for all. Keep reading »
Married couple Ariel and Shawnee McPhail recently enjoyed a meal at the Stingray Cafe in New Bern, North Carolina. After they settled the bill and were preparing to leave, cafe owner Ed McGovern handed the couple a letter explaining, basically, that God hates gays.
The letter read in full:
God said in the last days that man and women would be lover of self, more then the lover of God.That man and woman would have unnatural effection for one another. Then, the coming of the Son of Man, who is Jesus. So please, look at your life. See how it hurt every one around you. And ask the Lord to open your eye before it to late.The Love of ChristP.S. my daughter also was gay. It destroy her life and my grandson.
So that was great.
The McPhails are speaking out about the incident because “if we’re experiencing it, then other people are too and that’s not fair,” said Ariel McPhail. When McGovern was reached for comment, he confirmed that he had given the women the letter. And that he’s previously given another lesbian couple a letter, because he is apparently on full-time lesbian watch.
McGovern claims he saw the McPhails kissing in front his restaurant prior to their coming in, though the couple says they were only holding hands. And that begs the observation that McGovern was offended enough to write a letter but not offended enough to refuse the couple’s money. Now those are some principles. [WCTI12]
Timothy Kurek grew up in a religiously conservative family, and was told that homosexuality was an abominable sin. He regularly counseled friends and families on how to approach homosexuality. “The loving thing to do is to tell my friend who is gay, ‘Hey, listen, you are an abomination and you need to repent to go to heaven.’ I absolutely believed in that lock, stock and barrel,” he said. And then four years ago, a close friend confided that she was a lesbian and that her family had disowned her because of it. Something in him broke.
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Google has launched a new campaign, Legalize Love, which hopes to end discrimination against homosexuals. At the Global LGBT Workplace Summit on Saturday in London, Google executive Mark Palmer-Edgecumbe introduced the campaign, sharing Google’s goals to “[develop] alliances with local companies and [support] grassroots organizing efforts in [other] countries.” The purpose of the campaign is not about necessarily legalizing gay marriage, but is more focused on supporting LGBQT workers in countries where homosexuality is criminalized. Keep reading »
Apparently, neglected drunk chicks in skimpy dresses at nightclubs aren’t the only ones willing to engage in lesbian action for attention. Bonobo monkeys do it too! In a recent study, scientists found that female apes use homosexual sex to gain attention and social status. Supposedly, female Bonobos use vocalizations during girl-only sex to “reduce stress and competition, develop affiliations, express and test social relationships and for reconciling conflicts and consoling victims in distress.” Keep reading »
I’ve been really fortunate to have found a wonderful handful of (gay) boy friends in my 28 years. They’re so supportive and confidence-boosting—at the same time they always keep it real with me. It goes without saying that the jokes and laughter never stop. We do dinner and movies on the regular and on those nights when I feel so possessed, we hit the “scene” and boy-bar hop all over NYC. I’ve had some of the greatest nights of my life with them, but I have to say there are some disadvantages to being the token girl at the boy bar.
After the jump, check out the pros and cons of going to male gay bars with your friends. Keep reading »
“In a sexual way, I’m gay. But I would marry a woman tomorrow if it struck me. I don’t think sex and relationships necessarily have to go together.”
– Johnny Weir talks about his sexuality in his new memoir on what appears to be “Celebrities Talking About Maybe Being Gay Day.” The flamboyant ice skater decided to basically confirm what the universe already knew because “with people killing themselves and being scared into the closet, I hope that even just one person can gain strength from my story.” [People via Queerty] Keep reading »
My dad is gay.
It is usually after I have known you for a little while before I will say those words to you. Sometimes it’s our first long conversation, when people go through the whole “Where are you from; what do you do; where’d you grow up?” script that everyone in the world receives once they are old enough to attend any social events. And it’s after I say that that the real questions begin. Keep reading »
Hey laaaaaaaadiessssssss, wanna know how to tell if your husband/boyfriend is a homosexual? Christwire.org, a website which purports to provide “conservative values for an unsaved world,” has a list of 15 signs your man is a friend of Dorothy’s, “drawing on the expertise of spiritual and medical professionals.” Here are the ones that had never occurred to me. [UPDATE: Apparently, this is very well-written parody. Fooled me!] Keep reading »
“As a boy? Of course I have. I’m an actor for f**k’s sake. I’ve played with everything and everyone. I love the form and the physicality, but now that I’m in my thirties, it doesn’t do it for me. I’m done experimenting…”
– Tom Hardy, some hottie from the movie “Inception,” on having had sex with dudes in the past, though he’s now engaged to a woman. I just love how “um, duhhh” his answer is. I’m an actor! Of course I’ve boned a few dudes! That’s what we do! [via Dlisted] Keep reading »