“I’m really attracted to you, you know?” I sat in the middle of an Italian restaurant, frozen in disbelief at this audacious declaration. I sipped some wine and awkwardly laughed, my cheeks growing redder by the minute. Waiters and waitresses drifted past. I nibbled a tiramisu and drank another glass of rosé. But all I could think was, I’m really attracted to you, too.
On the surface, this sounds like a typical first date: a guy takes you out to dinner and says he finds you attractive; you flirt back and wonder if he’s going to kiss you goodnight; you’re nervous and jittery; you try to be funny while carefully maintaining that mysterious façade that originally peaked his interest.
Except that this wasn’t a typical date, at least for me.: I was actually out to dinner with a woman. And all I thought about the entire time was how badly I wanted to kiss her. Keep reading »
Is there anything funnier (sad-funny, I mean) than bigots who are completely incredulous about the fact that they are bigots? They are so unwilling to admit it. They usually have some other excuse — which only makes sense to them — about “disagreeing with lifestyle choices,” “some of my best friends are ___,” “sexism/racism/homophobia doesn’t really exist” or “love the sinner, hate the sin.” The moral/intellectual contortions are truly something to behold.
A perfect example would Unhappy In Tampa, a woman who wrote to the advice columnist Dear Abby to complain about how their not-asshole neighbors are now socially excluding Unhappy In Tampa and her husband. Oh no! That is horrible! Why would these mean neighbors do such a thing? Because Unhappy In Tampa and her husband refused to invite their gay and lesbian neighbors to their parties:
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I relocated to Florida a little over a year ago and were quickly welcomed into our new neighbors’ social whirl. Two couples in the neighborhood are gay — one male, one female. While they are nice enough, my husband and I did not include them when it was our turn to host because we do not approve of their lifestyle choices. Since then, we have been excluded from neighborhood gatherings, and someone even suggested that we are bigots! Keep reading »
Most news about “kids these days” has me shaking my fist in the air in anger, which makes this story about Sammamish, Washington, middle and high school students all the sweeter.
According to The New York Times, last month Eastside Catholic vice principal Mark Zmuda (called Mr. Z by students) resigned from his position after his employers became aware that he was gay and married to a man. Same-sex marriage has been legal in Washington State since January 2013. Keep reading »
Black gay dads Kordale and Kaleb recently found themselves inundated with hateful comments and messages when their Instagram account, featuring photos of the couple with their three kids, caught the attention of ignorant (and often racist) homophobes. Many of the hateful comments have since been deleted — and they’ve received an outpouring of support — but the experience prompted Kordale and Kaleb to submit the following statement to Huffington Post’s Gay Voices blog: Keep reading »
I was overjoyed when ABC picked Juan Pablo Galavis to be this season’s “Bachelor.” Finally, a “Bachelor” that I wanted to bang! But also, Juan Pablo seemed funny and sweet and charming, and his status as a single dad to an adorable daughter was pretty hot too. But in the first few episodes of this season, my affection for Juan Pablo started to wane; there was something unnecessarily judgmental about the way he gave Victoria the heave-ho when she got excessively drunk on a group date. While her behavior was embarrassing and uncalled for, and she and Juan Pablo were clearly incompatible, I didn’t think the emphasis on how she wouldn’t be a good influence on his daughter was necessary. I was starting to get the sense that Juan Pablo might hold some conservative beliefs that conflict with my own.
Turns out, he definitely does. In an interview with The TV Page, Galavis called gay people “more pervert in a sense,” and said he was against the show ever having an opening gay or bisexual contestant. Keep reading »
Phil Robertson of “Duck Dynasty” has been suspended from the show indefinitely after an interview in GQ in which he compared gays to “terrorists and drunks” and implied homosexuality is the same thing as sleeping with your dog.
A&E released a statement distancing themselves from the born-again Christian:
“We are extremely disappointed to have read Phil Robertson’s comments in GQ, which are based on his own personal beliefs and are not reflected in the series ‘Duck Dynasty.’ His personal views in no way reflect those of A&E Networks, who have always been strong supporters and champions of the LGBT community.”
But Phil still has at least one supporter. Sarah Palin, who must have been bored this week, came swooping in to defend the reality star. Keep reading »
“[A headline read] ‘George Clooney’s Gay-Gay-Gay.’ And I said, ‘I’m gay-gay. The third one’s pushing it. Well now, [according to the Internet] I’m gay. You’re not going [to deny it] because that’s flat out insulting to the gay community. I think it’s funny, but the last thing you’ll ever see me do is jump up and down, saying, ‘These are lies!’ That would be unfair and unkind to my good friends in the gay community. I’m not going to let anyone make it seem like being gay is a bad thing. My private life is private, and I’m very happy in it. Who does it hurt if someone thinks I’m gay? I’ll be long dead and there will still be people who say I was gay. I don’t give a shit.”
Gay rumors have long followed perma bachelor George Clooney, but he doesn’t care, and for all the right reasons. Being “accused” of being gay is a ridiculous thing to be upset about or “defend” yourself against, because to do so implies there is something wrong with being gay. I didn’t think it was possible for Clooney to get any more dashing, but, welp, I was wrong. Swoon! [Huffington Post]
Meet Dayna Morales, a waitress at Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater, N.J. Morales wrote into the gay-friendly blog Have A Gay Day about her recent encounter with homophobia. Morales recently waited on a family of diners, and when the short-haired (and cute, might I add) waitress introduced herself, the mother at the table made a point of saying, “Oh I thought you were gonna say your name is Dan. You sure surprised us!” You know, because Dayna has short hair, so she must look like a dude. But that’s not even the story! After receiving impeccable service from Morales, the family paid their bill, which came to a grand total of $93.55 — and didn’t leave any tip. But the mom did leave a note on the receipt, which read, “Sorry I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle [and] the way you live your life.” Keep reading »
When a woman named Christine kicked her son Chad out of the house after finding out he was gay, her dad (Chad’s grandfather) penned this awesome letter, which FCKH8 posted on their Facebook page. “You’re correct we have a ‘shame in the family’, but mistaken about what it is,” he begins. “Dad” goes on to call her choice a “hurtful,” narrow-minded” “abomination” that “goes against nature.” He tells her that he has a “fabulous (as the gays call it) grandson to raise” and doesn’t have time to deal with “a heartless b-word of a daughter.” But should she change her mind, she’s welcome to call.
Fuck yeah, Grandpa! How could Christine not change her mind after a letter like that? More Chads should have grandparents like this. [The Hollywood Gossip]
UK supermarket chain Tesco recently came under fire for selling a few offensive products on its website, including a Psycho Ward Halloween costume and an Inflatable Gay Best Friend doll. They promptly removed the psycho costume, but the blowup gay man remained on their site, advertised as an “amusing gift” with the following description:
“If SEX in the City and Will & Grace taught us anything, it’s that g*y best friends are in this season. We’ve had the manbag, we’ve had leg warmers and iPhone fever, now it’s time for the new craze. Although not much can be said for his own attire, your Inflatable g*y Best Friend is ready to give you fashion advice, tell you if your bum looks big and b**ch about everyone who doesn’t wear Jimmy Choo’s.”
I don’t even know where to start with this. Perhaps by pointing out that the show was actually called “Sex and the City,” then moving on to the offensive, dehumanizing stereotypes of g*y men and finishing off with an explanation of why they censored the word GAY? Keep reading »