Merry Christmas Eve! This Dear Wendy column originally ran on Dec. 23, 2009.
Last Christmas, my boyfriend and I had been together just over a year. He promised me a cruise for a Christmas present last year (we decided on it AFTER Christmas), but he never bought the tickets. He said he was waiting because he thought we might break up — which we did, at the end of January. We got back together a few weeks later but he still never bought our cruise. I tried to drop it because it just made me mad every time I thought about all of the nice gifts I’d gotten him. So this year I’m wondering what will happen. How do I make sure that I don’t get screwed again? I got him two nice gifts but I saved the receipts. If he doesn’t get me anything should I take them back? Should I try to do something to ensure that he’ll come through on a gift? Am I being completely shallow and stupid? I’m so torn because I love him but I think that crap he pulled last Christmas was really crummy and I don’t want it to happen again but at the same time, I know I should not focus on getting a gift because that’s shallow and materialistic. Should I say something to him about it?? What do you think? I need some serious advice on this one. — Shallow Sally
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There comes a time in every free-wheeling, fun-having relationship where a lady has to suck it up, buckle down and meet the people who spawned her beloved. Nine times out of ten, this happens around the holidays, and there is almost always a festive meal involved. The most wonderful time of the year? Yeah, right.
The first thing you need to do is get the skinny from your man. What are his parents like? Are they churchgoers? Recovering hippies? Military? You need to know what you’re up against. Though each set of parents is different (and once you throw in stepparents, you could be dealing with a couple sets), there are some universal things you should definitely not do if you want to make a good impression. Here are a few examples: Keep reading »
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November and December are a time when we come together to catch up with loved ones, enact family traditions and celebrate life. But the season of good cheer is not always cheerful. Between selecting the perfect gift, booking expensive flights and dealing with the in-laws, people get stressed and, unfortunately, the closest vent for those frustrations is typically one’s partner. Here are ten common holiday fights couples have during the holidays and how to avoid them. Keep reading »
When a commitment-phobe I had been dating for two months excitedly told me he had a present for me — “you’ll love it,” he assured me — I prepared myself for a thoughtful, romantic gesture of his relationship readiness. But when I walked into his bedroom, he instead pointed at a Starbucks iced coffee on his desk that I had left there after our third date. He thought he was being cute, but our relationship curdled shortly after. Whether intentional or not, your man’s gifts send a message. So what did his holiday gift say this year? Find out after the jump …
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Cute boys, dressed as Santa, handing out presents around Winnipeg, Canada. What’s not to like? [BuzzFeed
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